yeh james i can imagine-and that sounds about right too!!
i can imagine my school reunion-people are so insecure and have to have things better than others-i just cant b.bothered with all of that! get over yourself and be happy for what you've got and have achieved!
i think i would find it stressfull with a few of the people that i went to school with!
On the subject of reunions, I think that people have two reasons to go to them: to catch up with people they haven't seen in a while and to show-off. I'm not saying that everyone goes to these reunions for both reasons, but from the people I have talked to about this over the years, it seems like those to reasons are the case.
So many people are like "for my 10-year high-school reunion, I'm going to fit in that little black dress" or "I'm going to make sure I'm successful, or I'm not going." It's vain but it can be understandable if those people had a hard time with something in high-school.
Now on the subject of caring what your friends from high-school think, I agree with what some other people have said on here. Whether it's a conscious or subconscious effort, we fall back into the roles that we played in high-school. It's either that, or we do the complete opposite. I bumped into someone from my high school the other day, and she was very shy and did not have many friends. Now, she was so loud and show-offy. I'm glad that she got over her shyness (I used to be shy too and I understand how hard it is to get over), but now it seemed like she had to prove something to me, which I didn't understand (I had always been nice to her back then).
Personally, when I'm one on one with someone from high school, I'm myself, but when I find myself in a big group, I don't necessarily act the way I did in high school, but I'm extremely self-couscous. No clue why.
After all that babble, I guess that's it! lol
Hey Katie and lil' j.
If you do have a school reunion, I definitely think you should go to it. It's only one day (or night) and I must admit it is great to catch up with the people that you really do want to see.
And your comment about people being still the same rings true with me. I went to an all boys school (no little black dresses as far as I know!) and it was funny watching the "alpha males" try to re assert themselves (with little success might I add).
As I said, I had two reunions - one of which was great and the other I have mixed feelings about.
I had never really thought of not going to a reunion. My first official one will be coming up in four years and I think it will be a great time! I only felt self-concious because that's what you feel like when you're a teenager, it has nothing to do with not wanting to see my old friends!
Hi guys and gals,
Personally I find it interesting to see what other people that I grew up with is doing. Mainly because I went to school in a small town and we had around about 75 people in my 7th form (graduating class). In my mind I'd like to think that I want to do better than the others. Even though I know that I'm lacking in some departments. Call me a snob or whatever. I don't advertise the fact that I have a good job and have been to Aussie for work. Actually I didn't even put anything in my profile, but I just like to think that I am doing well and it gives me some kind of comparison since I bascially grew up with them.
But from it, I got the chance to keep in contact with some friends from high school so that is a bonus.
And it's human nature to be curious and competitive.
James yeh i wouldnt not go i'm proud of what i have achieved so far and am happy and would certainly be interesting to hear what others are up to or have done-i can imagine that half of them would be on their second child!!-and thats now not in years to come, he! he!
Specially if i went travelling-that would make for great conversation-i dont think people would expect that from me!
i'm proud of the person i have become-and i'm still 'developing'-all sounds really cheesy but i'm sure others know what i mean, i think travelling would top it all off nicely! xXx
Isn't it funny how school reunions bring out the insecurities within ourselves and doubts about what we may have achieved over the years?
There seems to be so much emphasis on who has the better job/most education/flashy car/nice house, etc?
Of course it's human nature to be competitive as you say sunset1999, and there is also a fair amount of curiosity involved. I guess we all have fragile egos to a degree, and suffer from "status anxiety". BUt if you are happy with yourself and your own lot in life, then you should be happy for others who have "made it" to the same degree or more than you have.
There was this really dopey guy at school whose name I couldn't pronounce, and at our reunion it came out that he started a chain of discount stores and is now a millionaire (judging by where he lives). There was no bragging or anything, just a nice low key sort of bloke.
Generally speaking, we all have similar opportunities and talents to each other, so what we get out of life is a result of choices that we make along the way. Those choices might be to get an education, do some travel, buy a house/flat, sacrifice and save money, or whatever or to do nothing. I just don't like being told by those that have done nothing that I'm "lucky".
James-BRILLIANTLY said! i agree with you totaly- i hatye people who bragg about things that they have or things they have done-how they get on in life i dont know!
i once was dating someone who his parents and he had a fair bit of money and all his mates were like oh have you seen his watch oh and the car-and more than anything that put me off, although he himself did not bragg about it but it was like i'm so gonna be interested in him because of all this-how naive are his mates, even my mate started!
its not all that attractive i can assure you!
yeh if you are happy with yourself then you can be happy for others as long as no one looks down on you!
i'm proud of you J for making that comment-like a proud mother altho that would just be weird!! ok i'm in a weird mood this morning and now i'd better be on my way to work i suppose-so wish me luck!
I've said before that I think everyone at school with me seemed to get on really well, i still stay in touch with my closest mates who live all over. However the more i read from you guys the more i see your point, there will be a competetive edge to meeting everyone again because at school we were all basically in the same boat, its much different in the big bad world where options aren't laid out in front of you. Still, i hope that i would appreciate everyones choices and not sit in judgement of relative 'successes'. Who has been more successful, the playboy who has made millions or the quiet guy who has a wife and two kids who love him?
If success has to be measured, it should be guaged in your own happiness and judged by no-one but yourself.
good to know that everyone around here is so down to earth-so well done people, you do yourself proud -it's like making a speech at the oscars!!