Hey guys, Rayan here,
Im sure many of few have come across situations like when 1. you are all ready and free to travel to a country and everyone around you are tied up with the daily life. Or 2. You are not finding the right person as your travelling partner and dont wanna take along someone who'd be nagging throughout your journey.
So, in situations like this, Im kinda confused what to do. I have this plan of travelling to Thailand and China this march, but dont know how it would be like going all by myself. On one hand, I feel travelling all by myself will let me take in a lot more information (both cultural, and hisotrical) and it might even help me make new friends. As chances of making new friends are much more when you are not preoccupied with your already existing friends.
And, what interests most during my travelling is learning aboutnew cultures, and new people...I guess staying in a posh hotel wont really create that atmosphere for me to get to know new people..So, what do you guys recommend I do, and accomodation-wise what do u think would be best for me, if i want to get to know more people and learn about different cultures? Really looking forward to hearing from you guys, my travelling buddies/guide Thank in advance.
Well, it really depends on how you are without your friends around you. Do you prefer backup, or do you like to try things on your own?
A first trip is usually better with another around. It's a good confidence builder...Now a group....A group is different. It's just me talkin', but I would hate travelling in a group. Your will gets divided pretty quick in a group. If you want to swing with the group, you are often at the whim of consensus, and consensus is often the disguise worn by the will of the most willful member of a group. Or you could all split up, which makes you just pairs again anyway.
It is easier to meet locals when there aren't too many of you....But it is not necessarily better with just one. When you have a wingman, sometimes you take more chances in talking to folks....That;s the whole point of a wingman in your regular setting, ain't it?
I'm planning a big solo adventure from UK to Kiwi, overland. I'm really excited about it. I have fewer reservations because I have holidayed alone; I like the freedom it offers. There are always people to meet, berief chats or travel buddies that make solo travel great experiances. You get to share with the most random and interesting people. which you might have skipped passed if you have a group.
Top of my solo check list is: Make sure i'm security savvi (i'm female) and always trust gutt fellings.
Happy tarvels Rayan.
Also... regarding accommodation, Youth hostles are cheap and great meeting points & Sleeper trains!
Buses will bring you closer to the regular folk & daily life. 'People watch' for where the locals eat, drink & shop.
The more you chat to people , the more culture you will experiance.
Definitely go alone!! You will meet people straight away and you will be able to experience more by having noone to hold you back!!
I went alone and now have made some amazing friends that will be a part of my life forever!
thank for your advise man. Im also considering going alone now. I guess it really depends on your destination. Like, Id say visiting countries like Russia, Brazil, South Africa, going alone might not be a good idea if you really wanna walk a lot. Almost all of my friends who visited Russia from all parts of the world have been attacked at least once by skinheads. And statistically Brazil's crime rate also looks kinda scary, but who knows maybe its Ill be surprised once i get there. Btw, I was planning on going alone to Thailand, China and Malaysia. Have any idea of the crime scenes in these areas?? U know, its always good to take precautions. THanks for the suggestion anyways. Tc my friend.
my first few trips through asia were alone but it's hard to stay alone because you'll find people real quick. one year i did take a classmate of mine who was doing a few weeks in south east asia, whereas i was doing a few months...those were some of the most regretful few weeks of my life. you'd think you know how people are like, but once on the road, these people can change drastically, especially those who are too fond of californian luxury comfort. constantly complaining about the heat, the food, people, ect. you're better off finding like-minded people as you travel. someone mentioned the group mentality...they're right. at one point, i had a group of roughly 20 boys and girls i picked up on the road...it was a nightmare planning anything and getting everyone to where we need to go on time and even though i was rather democratic, it was always me making the call due too much bickering, so i ended up bring the numbers down to about 5.
as for china, i did a little over two months there. started in the north and moved all the way down then border cross into vietnam. it can be a fairly difficult country to travel in the sense that not many people spoke english. because china is huge, it might be hard to find long term travel mates cause you can literally go in any direction, unlike south east asia(clockwise or counter-clockwise). make sure you buy your lonely planet ahead of time because it's illegal in china and can be challenging to find. lastly, get a double-entry visa if you plan to visit hong-kong. werd
Ive travelled alone and on a tour and both experiences were good.
Travelling alone is good becauseof the control you have re where to go and how much time you spend at each place.
Travelling on a tour, if you choose the tour wisely, can be a great way to meet like minded people who then become
friends for life.
Do you want to travel in a group (with people you know) or on a tour?
@ meterpai -
I know what you mean bro. Its not just about the californian comfort, the problem rises due to the difference in the level of passion between two individuals in exploring different cultures and countries. Like, I know one of my friends, who visits Bangkok, Thailand and books a hotel in MBK, shops at MBK, eats at MBK..lol..btw, MBK is some kinda shopping mall down there. Wow, group of 20 sounds pretty big and disorganized. last year when I visited Malaysia Langkawi, I got to know this group of 7 or 8 ppl, some from Morocco, some Africans, and three British...it was kinda fun to really learn their perspective of life, but yeah, the bigger the group, the more time you tend to waste in decision-making and shit..which sometimes is a pain! I guess a group of 4 is ideal. Btw, since you travelled to China, Id like to extract some info from you abt that part of the world. Thailand wont be a problem, and Ive been to KL too many times, but my route will be Bangkok to Shenzhen, wanna stay in Shenzen for a while and then by road wanna go to Ghounzou, then back to Shenzen. China for me would be too big to conequer :P in one trip, coz I really wanna take my time and digest all the info that I take in during my trip. So, what will be the best mode of transportation in these cities? And, is there anything I should be careful about? Thanks for the lonely planet info man..now Ill buy one from Bangladesh. Well, thanks overall for taking your time to reply. Appreciate that. TC
@ The Stig
I totally agree with you. Both experiences can be good only luckily if we have birds of the same feather flocking together :P But, the only reason Id wanna travel with people I already know would be safety reasons. Other than that, I really would love to learn about the people around me, and sticking and talking to people I know, would really be a waste of time if the reason for travelling is strictly learning about different environments, and cultures. Because, only when we are alone we pay attention to a lot of details thats going on around us. Like, hammering of the blacksmith, the horse cart passing by, peoples activities around us...and blah blah blah..but, to have a good time, Id definitely say, travelling in a group can also be fun, if we can all go along well, and joke around throughout the trip But, thanks for your reply bro. Highly appreciate it.