1.
Posted by Gudders (Budding Member, 23 posts)
21 Aug '10 02:15
Hi There!
I am new to the site so be gentle!!!
At present, my boyfriend is unsure of whether we are 'right' to go travelling together...
We are relatievley different but we usually just deal with it... he drinks a lot, i am ALWAYS sick when i drink (obv poses a problem), he is a live wire, i sometimes like to just have an hours peace haha!
I dont think it would be an issue travelling, however, he does.
Has anybody ever done things like a few weeks together, one a part etc?
Or maybe has anybody experience splitting up whilst travelling?
5.
Posted by Bobby1 (Budding Member, 18 posts)
22 Aug '10 07:04
Hello,
I'm going travelling with my boyfriend next year. We are both really different too - i'm like you, i always get sick when im drunk - where as he can drink loads & only have a headache.
We've been together 4 years tho and not had any major rows so i think we will be ok.
I think we will try and have days to ourselves and stuff while we are away and not spend everysingle second together.
Where you travelling?x
6.
Posted by Gudders (Budding Member, 23 posts)
22 Aug '10 07:09
I am looking on Thailand, Laos, Cambodia, Vietnam and the hopefully end up in oz, maybe new zeland?
I am glad its not just us that our different haha!
Hopefully there will be others in the same position 
thank you for your reply x x x
7.
Posted by Bobby1 (Budding Member, 18 posts)
22 Aug '10 07:12
I cant see how going with your boyfriend is any different to going with a best mate - you still have the same pro's and con's! x
8.
Posted by fabyomama (Respected Member, 560 posts)
22 Aug '10 07:30
You could always go in opposite directions and meet up on the other side of the world - then just take it from there.
edit: ...that's assuming he wants to travel at all? You didn't actually say.
[ Edit: Edited on 22-Aug-2010, at 07:36 by fabyomama ]
9.
Posted by Gudders (Budding Member, 23 posts)
22 Aug '10 07:41
Quoting Bobby1
I cant see how going with your boyfriend is any different to going with a best mate - you still have the same pro's and con's! x
I'm of exactly the same mind set
To be honest i think he wants to go with me, just afraid we would ruin the trip if we argued/split up... I would think there would be arguements though 
10.
Posted by Isadora (Moderator, 13908 posts)
22 Aug '10 11:59
Do you not have disagreements at home? If so, take for granted there will also be such disagreements while traveling. My husband and I are almost identical in our outlooks, behavior, etc. But, we still disagree on things when home or traveling. It's a given. The fact that you mention "splitting up" means you're already thinking about it. 
Just because you deal with things differently, doesn't mean you can't travel well together. I agree with both Bobby1 and fabyomama, set aside some time where you both can do what you want to do without each other. You're not connected at the hip.
I love beach-combing and my husband enjoys it too, but only up to a certain point. Though we share in each other's interests, we don't spend our time expecting to be indulged 24/7. You accept each other's idiosyncrasies or you don't. If you don't, then you will not make good travel companions. If you can, then you will make concessions for each other during your travels and also in your relationship.
Honestly, the key to traveling well together is communication. You don't have to do all of the activities together. As long as you can discuss who wants to do what, decide on an agenda for that hour or that day, not make decisions without the other present and view this as an adventure - you'll have a great time. Leave expectations at home as nothing will ever be what you have imagined prior to the trip.
