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11. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 7y Star this if you like it!

Do you not have disagreements at home? If so, take for granted there will also be such disagreements while traveling. My husband and I are almost identical in our outlooks, behavior, etc. But, we still disagree on things when home or traveling. It's a given. The fact that you mention "splitting up" means you're already thinking about it.

Just because you deal with things differently, doesn't mean you can't travel well together. I agree with both Bobby1 and fabyomama, set aside some time where you both can do what you want to do without each other. You're not connected at the hip.

I love beach-combing and my husband enjoys it too, but only up to a certain point. Though we share in each other's interests, we don't spend our time expecting to be indulged 24/7. You accept each other's idiosyncrasies or you don't. If you don't, then you will not make good travel companions. If you can, then you will make concessions for each other during your travels and also in your relationship.

Honestly, the key to traveling well together is communication. You don't have to do all of the activities together. As long as you can discuss who wants to do what, decide on an agenda for that hour or that day, not make decisions without the other present and view this as an adventure - you'll have a great time. Leave expectations at home as nothing will ever be what you have imagined prior to the trip.

12. Posted by melliset (Inactive 15 posts) 7y Star this if you like it!

You are fairly incompatible with each other, which means incapable of existing or performing in harmonious, agreeable, or congenial combination with each-other......and you are planning a trip with your boyfriend....use common sence

13. Posted by fabyomama (Respected Member 560 posts) 7y Star this if you like it!

From a travel point of view it doesn't make sense to risk the whole trip. It would be safer to make your own plans and go. If he wants to catch up with you in a month or so then fine - it could be great. And if it didn't work out, you go your separate ways with no real harm done as it was going to happen anyway. The big plus being, you are newly single on another continent ... which may not be as bad as it sounds. ;)

14. Posted by Sarah_Ang (Budding Member 9 posts) 7y Star this if you like it!

I travelled with my boyfriend for over a year across the UK (with side trips to Paris, Barcelona and Turkey) and for the most part we really enjoyed ourselves. We are similar but he is more of a party animal and I'm more of a planner.
I find that if you are committed and secure with your differences than travelling together should be fun :) There will always be disagreements and hiccups as there is in everyday life. Keep in mind travelling can sometimes be stressful and how you handle stress as a couple at home will give you an idea of how will handle things on the road. I highly recommend spending some time apart, some couples spend a week or two apart, others (like us) spend a day doing our own thing. This way you can get in some of that shopping for gifts or suntanning that he would rather avoid and he can take in a sporting event or go to the pub! Communication is definately the key :)
I have also travelled by myself quite a bit and prefer it that way for the most part, because you can do whatever you like at your own pace. The only down side is not having someone with you to share in every one of the ups and downs... however you are only really alone if you want to be. There are so many opportunities to meet people on the road and even travel together that I found I had to work in time for myself to be alone once and awhile lol.
Either way just remember to enjoy yourself and take each day as it comes, happy travels!!

15. Posted by ali4mick (First Time Poster 1 posts) 7y Star this if you like it!

I'm currently on a trip without my boyfriend (who I've been dating for 4 and a half years). I was hoping he'd come with me as it'd mean I'd have some company but due to financial issues, he couldn't afford to come and I could only afford to take myself. In a way, it's the best thing I've done as it means I'm not having to worry about whether or not he's enjoying the tours I'm doing but it can get lonely. However, if you go as part of a tour group, you quickly make friends with some (if not all) of the other people doing the tour.

At the end of the day, it's up to you what you do...if you truly love him and think you can put up with him for however long you want to travel for, take him along...if not, go by yourself and have a blast!! :)

16. Posted by zaksame (Respected Member 571 posts) 7y Star this if you like it!

I once 'travelled with a boyfriend' and had the best time ever. We drank beer until early morning every day. Met other people and had one-night stands. We never fought and really laughed about most of those one-night stands. It was great.

Oh, I forgot to mention, it was my sister's boyfriend and he's my best mate.

17. Posted by StaceyD (Inactive 20 posts) 7y Star this if you like it!

Well that might be a challenge for the both of you to go with what your partners love or you could both sacrifice your differences even just for the days of your vacation. Plan something on your trip that you both love to see and do which is a vacation-related activity and have a promise with each other to sacrifice what you're both fond of doing everytime you're together. Plan something exciting and unique this time.

Have a nice trip!:):):)

18. Posted by sharpink (Budding Member 3 posts) 7y Star this if you like it!

@ gudders,

Its quiet normal being skeptical about a new journey together given that the difference in mood is there. but why do we always count the other possibilities? going together for an outing can actually help a lot in narrowing distances. because when you stay together in completely new surrounding(even if for a few days) you make way for new alignments. u start discovering new facades of being together. the reason why i'm being so particular about this is that i have experienced similar situation, but positive outcomes. after addressing so many issues in life, its quiet hard for me to take the headache of traveling. but as she(my wife) persuaded me quiet efficiently, i went for a short tour. it was not Thiland or Newzeland. it was in maldives with maldiveslive guiding us all the way. and words fall short to eaxplain how did it help us getting a wider smile together. as we felt surrounded by the outstanding beauty, we were barely in a mood to think that we were having some differences.for example, she always had problem with my drinking habit though i never ask her to join me. it was during the tour when we laughed like anything just sitting together when i was drunk. it never happened before. so give it a chance. it will work well.

19. Posted by sharpink (Budding Member 3 posts) 7y Star this if you like it!


Totally agreed, its not necessary that you'll enjoy only if you are accompanied by someone u know. be it alone or together, traveling has different tastes for both the cases. both of them are entertaining on their own terms. while traveling alone you get chances of getting along with new people which is nothing less than an adventure(bcoz it's about getting along with people). plus u also enjoy the freedom and the zeal of flying without being held by another hand. and believe me, you will feel lighter than a bird and feel no difficulty in putting up with anyone or handling any issue.

20. Posted by pietaza (Budding Member 3 posts) 6y Star this if you like it!

I would advise you to be very careful. I have always found that :"when in doubt, steer clear" has stood me in good stead. I must say that my first reaction after reading your first entry, was the same as #2: Dump him.