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11. Posted by remarcable (Respected Member 335 posts) 12y

Go on...make the big gesture;)! Travelling is wonderful tool for personal enrichment. Especially for a youngster!! Go out, have fun! Life is for living.


12. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 12y

Quoting kkwijibo

Just a side question lil j, where abouts are you from in the UK and did you go to public school?

From essex way, why? out of interest??

Thanks so much guys, i'm going to have to set myself a deadline for booking a ticket aren't i! I have a few plans-well nothing major to do back here-i'm...lets just say i think i may make it to Oz this year.

Joe-if i make it to Oz-erm...i'll be buying the drinks-it'll be a miracle to make it there in the first place, hehe!

Ive just been a little side tracked lately, i feel this is something that i need or have to do for myself, if i was going with someone then i would be totally fine and would prob have a ticket already! but if i go on my own ive got no-one to rely on and i think i may get a lot more out of it!

i really didnt think i would get so much support-you people never let anyone down

right this week at work i'm going to sort out my 3 weeks off and speak to my area manager (lets give myself a couple of weeks!)

-tears of joy, hehe!

13. Posted by kkwijibo (Full Member 56 posts) 12y

Just that I'm working with some people who've gone to public school and none of them are 'street wise'.

~ But anyway have you got your ticket booked yet, 'cos if you get anymore pushes you'll be in France...

14. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 12y

now, now-dont be mean,lol!! i think that people would think that i am very street wise-its the way i come across but i suppose i know that i am not!

no i havent booked a ticket yet-give me a bit of time-yeh anymore pushes i'll end up being outta here next week! a girl needs time...and quite a bit of it as well...especially if decisions are to be made!


15. Posted by RichG (Budding Member 9 posts) 12y

Hi Lil' J - just been reading through the thread. About 1 yr ago my wife suggested we sell up, quit work and travel. I agreed but apart from a visit to Hong Kong a couple of years back i'd never been out of Europe. Was very nervous and wasn't sure how to deal with what needed to be done - didn't think we'd make it out of the UK to be honest!

However, now in our 8th week in India (brilliant country btw!) after travels in France, Spain and Morroco. Vietnam beckons at the end of the month and then Oz, NZ and the USA. The advice of just booking the ticket is sound - we went to Trailfinders, booked the flights and then pulled out the stops to meet the deadline.

Wherever you end up, in whatever timescale, I really hope you enjoy your travels as much as we are doing...

16. Posted by JennyCook (Full Member 95 posts) 12y

Hey Lil J, i'm from essex myself. Where abouts do you hail from - i'm in chelmsford myself.

as for finding a ticket, have a look at they seach for the best deal on quite a few other travel websites, and the prices certainly beat anything i was quoted from a travel agent.

Good luck with your plans

17. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 12y

hey jenny-chelmsford-thats kool, i'm fom-well in between southend and basildon! how kool is that!

thanks Rich-i suppose if i do book the ticket then i will go-that or lose £700!

18. Posted by LittleHobo (Budding Member 11 posts) 12y

Quoting lil j

no i havent booked a ticket yet-give me a bit of time-yeh anymore pushes i'll end up being outta here next week! a girl needs time...and quite a bit of it as well...especially if decisions are to be made!

Lil J. What decisions? What times is needed?. To me,it sounds like your mind is "Delaying". And language reveals all, with the "May" and "Decisions" etc. Putting it off and saying you need time,is just a game. In reality,what you are waiting for? It takes only a few hours to sit down and decide where you want to go. You dont need much time really. What is there to think over? You'll just end up talking yourself out of it. I'm not saying this to be rude,so please dont take it that way. But i do recognize what your mind is doing here.

As for "If i was going with someone,i'd be fine". Dont be so sure. So many people decide in groups to go travelling. At the last minute people start dropping out with excuses not to go. I see it all the time, and it's like watching a Dominoe effect. One pulls out, and the other finds an excuse. Lame excuses, which they've cooked up in order to hide the fact they didn't "really" want to change their life. Eventually, there is one person left at the end, out of 3 or more who is stuck with the dillemma of "Can i do it alone?". Many pull out at this point because they'd been so prepared to go with others. But some continue. When you travel, you are never alone really.

Be one of those who "does" it

19. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 12y

hi Lil J!

I know it seems really daunting taking off on your own but thinking about all the things that might go wrong is pointless. And it's only a bit nerve-wracking for the first day or two. You wouldnt believe how much more confident you start to feel as the days go by.

What are your reasons for wanting to travel? One of the main ones is probably that you are restless in your current situation and need a change - yeah? Well, then it's better to head off on your own and not with a whole heap of ppl who already know you. When you travel alone, you make the rules, you can explore the sides of yourself that you havent up to now without ppl saying that you're behaving differently or not being of the things I have found is that you can allow the ppl you meet on your travels to bring out new sides of you. I think that's part of the addiction of are constantly discovering yourself as well as new places....


Go for it girl! I have yet to meet someone who didnt have the time of their lives in Oz.

20. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 12y

Jas, travelling alone remains my #1 travel experience.

I've always been a pretty reserved and careful person, and a bit of a worry-wort. But from the second I bought my ticket I didn't have even a touch of nerves. Just buying that ticket and knowing you're on your own is like this great boost of confidence.

I wasn't scared or even worried once the whole trip - and even the (very) few times I had to put someone in their place, it was a quick, clean and stern warning and it was always heeded. I think just knowing you have to "débrouille", as they say here (which means get by/figure it out for yourself), you have the power.

All to say: you're going to surprise yourself! Just give yourself the chance to do it.