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1. Posted by eboone (Budding Member 3 posts) 5y

things are always complicated. to simplify i am going to list somethings about my situation. i would LOVE your input/advice/words about things i should consider.

sophomore in college (Biology major...then after graduation, 2 years of radiology school)
want to go to australia
study abroad too expensive
looking in bunac.org--------take a semester off to work?

want to do study abroad (USAC) in prague or accra, ghana
maybe after australia???

i have traveled quite a bit (mexico, italy, france, university of hawaii, amsterdam) so that's not an issue; i have a serious heart condition (long qt syndrome) and i am going to have to get another surgery to get my pacemaker battery replace around summer 2013, so i would like to travel before then. one other thing holding me back is my boyfriend on 6 years. he doesn't like to get out of his comfort zone, is tight on money, and worried about school so he will not be joining me. we stayed together when i was in HI for 5 months, but it was hard. trying to believe everything will work out like it's meant to be.

whoof! there's my stressers in a relatively 'short' thread. please give me some words!

2. Posted by Cyberia (Travel Guru 1818 posts) 5y

Boyfriend of 6 years? You've been too long together without any real commitment, so maybe you are nothing more than his comfort zone?

You both sound (relatively) young so hopefully still have a lot of life ahead of you. Maybe you do need a little time apart to review your relationship with him at school and you studying also, abroad?

A semester isn't a long separation when you are as near as a web cam from each other.

Have you tried meditation techniques for your heart?

3. Posted by Steve79 (Respected Member 330 posts) 5y

Go for it! You have to do what you want to do and I am sure your boyfriend will support you in any decision you make. The mere fact you are even contemplating this I think means you want to do it.

I do kind of agree with Cyberia above, six years is a long time to be together without any real commitment, and it sounds as if you want different things out of your lives. Do you see a long term future for the pair of you if you want to travel and he doesn’t want to leave home?

Anyway good luck in whatever you decide to do.

4. Posted by eboone (Budding Member 3 posts) 5y

i was debating whether or not to even explain about my boyfriend because 6 years is a longgg time. i should have put i am 20 so we started young, but he is my best friend. i would feel safer (with my health and everything) if he was coming along...oh well. i feel like it would be a mistake if i didn't take these traveling opportunities right now. you only live once!

5. Posted by Steve79 (Respected Member 330 posts) 5y

You are right we do only live once (probably), and you do have to take the opportunities whilst they are there.