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11. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Quoting isadora

Being an "only" child, what do you think?!

With the one-child policy in China (introduced in 1979), the children are often referred to as little "kings" & "queens". This isn't necessarily meant to be flattering. Unfortunately, many of these people are very lonely, and undeveloped emotionally

12. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 11y

I learnt how bash the crap out of my sister at a young age. Now I find that it's just not socially acceptable, which is a shame!

13. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 11y

Shame on you James, snigger, snigger!!

God i used to get a bashing from my lil bro!!!-now that's not on!

14. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 11y

Well to be honest lil j, it was all in self defence. She was 3 years older than me. Come to think of it, she still is! Isn't mathematics wonderful?

15. Posted by angela_ (Respected Member 1732 posts) 11y

I am the oldest so I had this "by the book" upbringing because my parents wanted to do everything right. So I really never got to make my own mistakes and stuff. So I am a really cautious person and very shy.

16. Posted by GregW (Travel Guru 2635 posts) 11y

Quoting mtlchica

I have a lot of cousins who are four and five years older than me. Now, it doesn't make much of a difference, but back then, I was shunned from the group. Not fun, let me tell you.

A lot like me too. My sisters are both older than me (7 years and 12 years), and all my cousins are much older than me as well. At family gatherings, I tended to take my matchbox cars and play by myself because there was no one else my age.

It's all good though, because still today I am very comfortable being alone and amusing myself. Though sometimes I tend to clam up in new social situations. But usually in a few minutes I have relaxed and become my loud, obnoxious self.


17. Posted by travelover (Respected Member 494 posts) 11y

Well, first borns do get to be the test child, breaking all the barriers for the others to follow. But due to my insistent personality (at least with my family!) I broke those barriers easily when I wanted to. I was lucky my parents weren't unfair about things. They would always say everything in its time, and didn't let me grow up too early for which I am forever grateful!

I have a younger brother who is almost 10 years younger than me (and a sister who is just 2 years younger than myself), and he does get to be spoiled, but we try to avoid the shunning of the youngest one. But one thing I realized in that kind of situation is that the kid grows up pretty quick. Every position in the birth order has its pros and cons!

18. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

I was the youngest of three, however my parents separated when I was very small. Therefore I spent about 7 years in children's (church) homes. No special treatment there. More like being a lone child ... quickly learning how to convincingly "play the game".

19. Posted by Rraven (Travel Guru 5924 posts) 11y

i'm the eldest , so another test child here, with very strict rules, not allowed do anything, had to learn that rules were meant to be kept etc..... and then my sister came and they decided i was too quiet and shy so my sister had less rules and went wild, along came my brother Chris it was strict time again, by the time Robyn came along it was back being easy and as she was the youngest she was spoiled rotten and if she was bold i would be blamed as i should be a better example etc,

20. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y

Quoting mtlchica

I'm an only child. I had the pleasure of the anal-retentive parents (like first borns) but I at least had the luxury of being spoiled (like youngest kids).

I have a lot of cousins who are four and five years older than me. Now, it doesn't make much of a difference, but back then, I was shunned from the group. Not fun, let me tell you.

What a tangled web we weave.

Katie ;)

My parents were similar - over-protective for al the wrong reasons and lenient where they should have cracked down. I was the "princess" of the extended family. My parents failed to have children of their own and endured several failed adoption attempts. By the time I was adopted, it was the family miracle. All my cousins are several years old but I was the equivelant of a new "babydoll" to play with - until the teen years. By then, I had learned to entertain myself. Christmas was the worst, when I'd get a new game and everyone else would play while I watched. By the time I'd get a chance, they would be tired of it. Looking back now, it all seems trivial.

I have always been the wild child of the whole family -the one who didn't (and still doesn't) play by the "rules". If there was trouble to be had - I found it, something new to experiment with - I tried it. I lead many a friend down the path of wrong-doing, but because I was nice and very well-mannered, I was every parent's dream child. Parent's would use me as an example of how they wanted their kids to be... Little did they know who was leading their kids astray.

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