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21. Posted by travelover (Respected Member 494 posts) 11y

I don't think the point was about the solo traveller hoping for someone to approach him/her. I think it's what you as another person from the hostel would do seeing him/her sitting there alone, whether he/she wants company or not. I'd go Raven's route and say hi, how are you? A small conversation can get you to find out whether they want company or not, or even if they didn't expect it but welcome it. Especially if I knew he was holding the map upside down, I'd give him that hand.

22. Posted by summer910 (Respected Member 1342 posts) 11y

Yep, and I was just applying my personal reaction to the questions tway and Jared posted. Did I get it wrong? Awk. :(

23. Posted by GregW (Travel Guru 2635 posts) 11y

As a solo traveller, I can honestly say it depends on how I am feeling. Sometimes I want to talk to other people, sometimes I want to be left alone. If I go into a hostel and go to my room without saying hello to people, then I probably want to be left alone. If I say hello and make eye contact, then I am probably looking to interact.

Of course, I am pretty outgoing, so if I wanted to interact, I would just come up and introduce myself.

As part of a group, I will approach solo travellers if they appear open - smiling, making eye contact, hands not crossed across their body, etc.

I will also approach ever solo traveller who is a hot woman.

24. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 11y

I frequently travel alone...and while someone was giving me the glance over-I would be doing the same. I tend to seek out friendly faces (those with smiles) and I always tend to be smiling. Every situation is different. I guess I would just play it by ear : ) Because sometimes, people really do want to be alone.

25. Posted by mtlchica (Respected Member 922 posts) 11y

I'm not against travelling alone...although I've never done it for a full trip. I have split up from friends for a day or two while on a trip and I always appriciate help or kindness. That said, I would definately say hi and be as nice as possible. If the person seems to want to interact, then great. If not, that's ok too. If I were to travel alone for an entire trip, it wouldn't so much be because I just want to be left alone all the time, but it could very well be that none of my friends could make it or wanted to go. Plus, what fun is it to go out there and not meet people. I say that we should all go out travelling and be nice to solo travellers!

Cheers,
Katie ;)

26. Posted by Sander (Moderator 4811 posts) 11y

I've been traveling by myself for... uhm... *counts* ...17 months now, and although companionship is the one thing you really start to miss after a while, overall I am perfectly happy to sit by myself, reading a book, drinking a cup of tea, planning the next few days/weeks or thinking over the last ones. Traveling in itself provides everything I need.
Often it depends on the atmosphere in the hostel if I get in conversations with other people or if I don't. Smaller hostels are often way more social, though the large hostels in large cities often have all the fresh-eyed people just starting their trip, who you as a solo-traveller can have group around you as you dispense a few months' worth of advice. :)
Also, people staying longer at a single place (suggesting an overall longer travel period, and thus more "worthwhile experience" to share) are easier to approach. Give 'em a nod the first day, wish 'em good morning the second day, sit down together for dinner the third, and by the end of the week you're best buddies. Or not.

I've never felt uncomfortable sitting by myself. By nature, I even slightly prefer it. I'm a solo-traveler for a reason, after all.
As such, people approaching me for conversation in any given place because they think they could generally be interested in me the person are more than welcome, and although chances are I'll never see those people again, a few such encounters have led to potential long-term friendships.
However, I wouldn't want to be approached out of "pity" or anything.

Then again, the hypothetical example has the map upside down, and I can imagine that person might appreciate some help to get him started. Can't say I've ever been in that situation myself though. :P

27. Posted by mim (Travel Guru 1276 posts) 11y

Quoting GregW

Of course, I am pretty outgoing, so if I wanted to interact, I would just come up and introduce myself.
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You hit the nail on the head for me, if you're travelling alone then chances are you're out going enough to approach people although it's always nice to be smiled at

28. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 11y

i'm like summertime, i am/can be wary by nature-i think you have to be, i would help and react to anyone asking me for help, i would go up to people if they were on their own and make small talk but if they were in a group i'd be inclined to leave it unless they gave the 'come over' sign. I love meeting people, and the language barrier-well doesn't stop you communicating, it's all just expereince-thats how i see it.

Ive never travelled so i can't say for sure how i would react in a foreign place alone! At home i will talk to anyone regardless of..well..anything! People are people aren't they, if i dont get much response i leave it at that!

29. Posted by vagabond (Full Member 104 posts) 11y

I'd usually smile and wish a casual hello. If the other person is friendly and/or looking for help, they will start talking.

But hell, I'd want people to come talk to me if I am travelling solo

30. Posted by Alli (Full Member 19 posts) 11y

I spent last year travelling around Australia on my own and I found people to be very welcoming and somebody always included me. Saying that I am the complete opposite to shy and often introduced myself. If I ever wanted to be on my own I just sat on my own.

I personally think that all the people that I met travelling really made the trip for me. And a lot of them I will keep in touch with.

I think it really just depends on what kind of a person you are!!!