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What's The Best Way To Get Over A Failed Relationship?

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31. Posted by areinstein (Travel Guru 2788 posts) 11y

Hey Kae, if it makes you feel any better, it did take about 5 years for me to truly forgive. I wont lie to you it was haaaaarrrrd but for five years I was carrying a lot of anger that I took out in people who loved me until one said I said, NO MORE!! I was letting him consume my life and I decided to forgive him for the bottom of my heart.

I dont know how it happened or how I did it (some people say God helped them blah blah, well...that wasnt me or even a therapist) but you must feel it and mean it, that is the key. It will feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. It was then that I came back into his life and we were able to sit down and "talk" about what happened. And it was then that I got the true "I am sorry" I had been expecting for all those five years. You have no idea how good that felt. I still get goosebumps thinking about it.

32. Posted by areinstein (Travel Guru 2788 posts) 11y

Hey James, that reads like...Fleetwood Mac but who is the second one???

33. Posted by nomad007 (Full Member 28 posts) 11y

Long recovery: go to counseling
Short recovery: go to an isolated place and start a little campfire.
take along some alcohol and all the things that remind you of this person, pics etc. Start drinking, write her a letter telling her everything. Drink more. Start crying and throw yourself on the ground in agony and scream. then throw everything in the fire and burn it. cry and scream some more and really roll around on the ground writhing. The next day you will feel like a new person.

34. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Writing a letter is a great idea. Just as long as you don't send it

35. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 11y

yeh letters are supposed to help-a way of self counselling-oh i am bad with the texts- all i ask for is for someone to actually tell me straight and not ignore me-is that so much to ask for-oh i have made a fool of myself tonight i can't just leave things-have just been in very short contact with an ex only minutes ago! oh please...

36. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 11y

Quoting areinstein

Hey James, that reads like...Fleetwood Mac but who is the second one???

Both are Fleetwood Mac. The second one is "Hold Me", from Mirage.

37. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Quoting areinstein

"... if it makes you feel any better, it did take about 5 years for me to truly forgive.I wont lie to you it was haaaaarrrrd but for five years I was carrying a lot of anger that I took out in people who loved me until one said I said, NO MORE!! I was letting him consume my life and I decided to forgive him for the bottom of my heart ... It was then that I came back into his life and we were able to sit down and "talk" about what happened. And it was then that I got the true "I am sorry" I had been expecting for all those five years.You have no idea how good that felt. I still get goosebumps thinking about it..."

It can be difficult at times to distinguish between pride and dignity, however bitterness is more self-destroying than anything else.

38. Posted by Bruce85 (Budding Member 54 posts) 11y

I needed about one year to stop asking myself what I did wrong, until I reached the point where I finally thougth it won't change anything destroying myself for that! Now I think I learned something from that, and it changed me in a positive way!

39. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 11y

yeh Bruce85-you do learn from things and become positive from that!!

I'm going through a bit of a lil crisis at he mo but i know i'll come out of it stronger!

40. Posted by Bruce85 (Budding Member 54 posts) 11y

I learned something because the mistakes we made were obvious!