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What's The Best Way To Get Over A Failed Relationship?

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51. Posted by ukmassage (Inactive 1052 posts) 11y

well, yes, that's the question with all relations - once you split it's easier to do it the second time.

But it might work as a temporal remedy and if it's convenient for both partners - that's fine. Probably worth giving a try.

52. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 11y

I guess it depends on what both partners are expecting. To rekindle the same "first love" spark or to just try it and see. I would think that most people who go back to their first loves have romanticized the truth somewhat.

But hey, love is funny sometimes! And if it doesn't work out, one can always follow James' advice and shine up that Smith and Wesson.

53. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Don't get mad, get even

54. Posted by areinstein (Travel Guru 2788 posts) 11y

Lets rephrase that...Dont get mad, get everything (Ivana Trump)

55. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y

And more some!!!!!!!!

56. Posted by kae (Budding Member 31 posts) 11y

Quoting areinstein

Hey Kae, if it makes you feel any better, it did take about 5 years for me to truly forgive. I wont lie to you it was haaaaarrrrd but for five years I was carrying a lot of anger that I took out in people who loved me until one said I said, NO MORE!! I was letting him consume my life and I decided to forgive him for the bottom of my heart.

I dont know how it happened or how I did it (some people say God helped them blah blah, well...that wasnt me or even a therapist) but you must feel it and mean it, that is the key. It will feel like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders. It was then that I came back into his life and we were able to sit down and "talk" about what happened. And it was then that I got the true "I am sorry" I had been expecting for all those five years. You have no idea how good that felt. I still get goosebumps thinking about it.

There was once i read a book , it says
"some people choose forgive to forget a person, however, some peoples choose to hate the person in order to make him/her own feel better. "

Probably i need more time and i think you understand how much anger that i am carried now after i know he married another woman, just right after a year he told me he is very concentrate in his career even he told me so much sorry, but you know, there are many things cant use "sorry" to solve the problem.

I trust it, once you dun hate a person, ypu will feel the weight is lifted off from the shoulder but it needs time, maybe 5yrs, 10yrs...
ha! but anyway, i understand i am wasting my time and stupid if i put my anger on him and reject a new man who is giving me a new life, a bad experience just train my heart be stronger. =)
anyway, thanks. you make me believe woman can really hold such anger for that long!

57. Posted by areinstein (Travel Guru 2788 posts) 11y

You are very welcome. Not only can we hold anger for a long time but we are quite revengeful too hahahha.

The way I would look at your situation is, the reason why things didnt work out with him is probably cause something better was coming along for you. And more than likely is already in front of you but you are too busy being angry to notice as it happened to me.

You are just bitter about the "rejection" part because you feel it had something to do with you and how dare he right? What, am I not good enough?? But I bet most people have told you that it has nothing to do with you already about 1,000 times. Whether right or wrong, things always happen as they are supposed to and I can guarantee once you find your inner peace about that situation, you will fully agree with me. Good luck Kae!

58. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

Anne is right Kae. Better things lie in wait for you. ;)

59. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y

And, don't settle for the next one in line just so you don't have to think about the last one. There will be no questions when the right guy apppears - if there are - it's not him. Being at peace with yourself will shine through you like a beacon through the fog. Someone worthy of you will take notice.

60. Posted by areinstein (Travel Guru 2788 posts) 11y

Quoting isadora

And, don't settle for the next one in line just so you don't have to think about the last one. There will be no questions when the right guy apppears - if there are - it's not him. Being at peace with yourself will shine through you like a beacon through the fog. Someone worthy of you will take notice.

Ahhh Gretchen...I love that "...will shine through you like a beacon through the fog..." I am going to have to steal that one from you.