We are born onto some tiny corner of this huge planet. We spend our life on it. I couldn't die knowing that i never went out to see and learn about and try to understand all the millions of things and places and people out in the big wide crazy incredibly intricate world that, in the end, affect me and the tiny little spot on earth I call home.
Ahem. Excuse the cheesiness, but thats why i left home. And I have yet to go somewhere that hasn't made me stop and say 'Yeah, this is what i came for.'
Travel doesn't have to mean a menial job or a lack of purpose. There is a huge sense of freedom, though, in letting go of what used to define you (job, house, car, whatever) and doing whatever you have to to get to the next new adventure. Its up to you how much you compromise.
"...My ambition has always been to move away to a third world country and help natives improve their lives, UNPAID, not receive a dime for my work.
This is a very noble gesture, but who will look after your cats?
That will be my husband's job since he already said he isnt coming with me. They love him more anyway because he feeds them so I can bet you then wont miss me
He made me promise him that from my trip in a couple of months, I wont bring a Cambodian child back with me, another dream of mine is to adopt...I think he doesnt want the cats to be sidelined ha!
You'll be coming awfully close to China
Hi to all,
Joining this thread a little late maybe. I was reading through this thread as I have kinda been through this kinda thought process over the last few months.
I have always wanted to travel but 'never quite got round to it' and am now 26 with a well paid job, car, house etc. Whilst my wife and I were planning our wedding at the back end of last year we had a couple of major issues arise (not between us but between friends and family) that made us have a rethink. Originally we were planning to get married this October and it was going to cost in the region of £12,000, even if we didnt go all out. So we were going to save up all this year and hopefully come October we would have enough money for the wedding and then we could maybe go on honeymoon for a couple of weeks and then come back and start saving up to have kids - life planned then.
We then had a tremendous amount of hassle in a fairly short space of time. Whilst this was hard it was also a blessing in disguise. During the hassle and turmoil we came up with a new plan - a plan 'B' or as one of my friends put it going from plan 'A' to plan 'Z' lol. Our new plan was to ditch the big wedding (which we had both already had doubts about £12000 for one day, £500 for a cake??? plenty of stress and hassle to get it sorted out..) and have a small wedding, sell the house, buy a motorhome and spend some time travelling from the money we will make out of our house. We went to Gretna Green for the day and were really impressed, we booked that for us and our immeadiate family and had a small wedding over Christmas. We sorted the whole thing out in one day and had a fantastic wedding which everyone really enjoyed. We then spent a week in the Lake District followed by a weeks skiing. When we got back we had a reception do for all of our friends and the whole do was really really good, we had no regrets at all about changing our plans.
Our house is now sold (fortunately through working up until now we are in that fortunate position where we can sell our house and make enough money to follow our dreams) and we are just waiting for it all to go through, we have bought a motorhome and are ready for off. We both finish work on the 31st March and are spending a month in this country (practice with the van and our new lifestyle) and then have booked a ferry to Norway on the 5th May. We both cant wait to finish work and get travelling.
Why?? Well difficult to pin point but the appeal of total freedom, new experiances, meeting new people, learning new languages, cultures and new opportunities are all important factors along with seeing new places, beautiful scenery, beautiful lifestyle.......... and a whole host of other things
So now you know my life-history then you are probably all wondering if I am going to get to a point. Well.... "leadersway" mentioned going travelling as 'running away' which I do not really agree with. I wanted to travel for a while but it was too scary - why should I give up my well paid job, house, car, and general comforts and security, and for those reasons up until last year I was never prepared to, I almost felt like I had missed the boat - too late I now I have a house............Thing is that you sometimes need some upset and a little shock to make you think where your life is headed, we could stay here, in about 5 years we could pay off the mortgage etc etc. but is it really so important, can it be compared to the life changing experiance that travel can be....... once we had evaluated that we decided that it wasnt and that we would like to live our lifes to the max (pardon the cliche) rather than spend all of our time conforming with our house, 2.4 children and steady 9 to 5 jobs. We have less than 4 weeks left at work and then we are off, we do not regret any of our choices and are looking forward to see what is out there and what is around the next corner.
That is why we are going to travel, as previously mentioned in the thread though it is everyone to their own but I think that sometimes the thought of making such a radical change and letting go of your materialistic nature is the most scary part so you dont, instead you are 'running away' from what you might want to do and staying well within your own secure routine - I know I did for too long!
This is without a doubt the longest speech I have ever made, I really ought to practice getting to the point
WOW Andrew-i bet your fingers ache-and i read every single word that you typed-so it didn't go to waste-and i thought i rambled-lol!
Sounds like you got your priorities straight and are very happy now-it is very easy to get materialistic-especially if you can, i find it very liberating becoming detatched from all of that and being 'free.'
WELL DONE AND CONGRATULATIONS FOR...ERM...EVERYTHING AND THE TRAVELLING!!
Once people realise that life is what you make it-the better we'd all be.
Good luck to you and your wife. No doubt you will have an amazing time. I am doing a similar thing, my house is on the market (very frustrating waiting around to sell it as i can't put any date to my plans.) Everybody i work with, all my friends etc all say a similar thing to me " i wish i had the courage to do it ". The running away phrase bothers me because i am doing it because i think it will be exciting and when i am lying on my death bed i know i will have no regrets about the things i tried to do and see in my life.
Thanks to lil j and daveh,
Glad to see you both managed to wade through the whole book/post! lol
My sympathies go to you daveh, we first put our house on the market last August and it has taken this long. Its is really frustrating and very demotivating, stick in there tho it will all happen very quickly once it starts - and then suddenly you have a million and one things to get sorted out. And as for the 'running away' phrase -my sentiments exactly. "I have not had a mortgage on my house for the last 40 years" is not what I want as an epitaph! "I had the bottle to jack the whole lot in to do what I really wanted to do" - now that sounds so much more appealing. The amazing thing is is that almost everyone we have told has said the same - "I wish I had done it, I wish I had the guts to do it, I'd love to do that, Can I come with you.............and the list goes on - why do these people 'run away' from doing what they really want to do????
I am in total agreement with you Andrew-i have had exactly the same as you-everyone you tell they always say wish i had done it-you should do it while you can...oooh i've been so excitied this week-i'm getting somwhere!
Yeh why do people run away from what they really want to do-thats is a good quetion-i think we've nailed this post!
p.s can anyone tell i'm really bored today-day off wrok and i'm bored out of my brains-weel i'm searching to!!-i have made so many replies today-i'm on a role!
Hi lil j
lol so many replies eh?? so thats how you become a 'Travel Guru' - I am still working on my 'Budding Member' status....
Your bored on your day off - I bored at work .......... still at least there is the internet to keep me amused when no one is looking..... he he he
You say your excited this week and that you are getting somewhere - where are you going to??