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1. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Ever wondered when you've seen a western man walking around in Bangkok or other parts of Thailand with a stunning Thai girlfriend on his arm, or just nearby him? Perhaps you've wondered, "Hey! What's this guy got?".

The phenomenon is commonly referred to as "rent-a-girlfriend". The girl is hired for the night, a day, a few days, or even a week or longer. Certain western nationalities patronise this "flesh" trade more than others. Any comments?

2. Posted by Chada (Full Member 118 posts) 11y

My comment = This kind of "When Demand Meets the Supply" story has been around for ages in Thailand…sighhhh… Both sides have their own demands and supplies to exchange, right? These kinds of "pair" usually have unique appearance though. You can see it at the first glance. Some even find that they can go along better than just a few days, so they move to further steps. At some embassies, this look is the first element for the consular to refuse issuing the visa, when they come to apply for it together because those girls really have too fantastic dreams. It's hard to help them fix their problems when they are already out of the Kingdom.

This thing causes problem for decent people with clean relationship to go out together. I spent some times studying in western countries so I made fiends from there. I also have "farang" colleagues. From time to time, westerner friends would come over to visit Thailand. Honestly, sometimes, it makes it difficult to go out with my real colleagues/friends who are Caucasian. Well, I know people shouldn't stereotype things, but … I understand, at times, it's hard to avoid it. The best solution is to try to "look different" if we have to act as good hosts to friends who come over to visit. To be more specific, I try to tell my colleagues/friends to dress and behave decent.

3. Posted by JennyCook (Full Member 95 posts) 11y

I was speaking to a Thai girl about this and she said that whilst there's obviously lots of prostitution about, she said that there's also a lot of Thai girls who go after western men in the hope of the man being able to provide for her better than thai men can, and hence fulfill her dreams. she said that the women chase after these men in the hope they wil become a couple maybe get married, or move to the West, where she believes everything to be better.

Although after spending a week listening to an english man argue with his thai grifriend every night - i don't think it's as easy as they initially imagine it to be. (it was better than trashy soaps listening to the two of them argue!)

4. Posted by ukmassage (Inactive 1052 posts) 11y

the institution of polygamy was decreted illegal in Thailand only some 70 years ago - but still persists. 'Second wife' is not a common occurance in Thailand now - but culturally it's accepteable.

That, so some extend, can explain highler level of prostitution on Thailand.

I am told that a lot of sex workers come from a poorer part of Thailand (Isaan on the North-East) and from Laos (mistaken for Thais as they look and speak similarly). They are 'on the game' only for a few years - and come back to their villages in honours as a bread winners for the whole family.

Authorities don't bother with an organised prostitution (the level of corruption is high) and the biggest pimp in Bkk stand as a candidate in the last year municipal elections.

5. Posted by daveh (Travel Guru 1027 posts) 11y

I read on the net (from a few sources) that approx 90% of the prostitutes working in Thailand don't work in tourist areas and only 10% do, so people who think this sex industry is purely for the benefit of westerners are naive and wrong. I agree with the last post, these girls seem to be under enormous pressure from their families to earn money and this is the only way for them to earn the type of money to get their families respect. Heres a typical story that i read - a girl was working the bars to earn enough to open a beauty parlour and follow her dream, just when she nearly had enough her sister was put in prison for amphetamine use, her family expected this girl to pay for her sister to get out of prison, and the police knew exactly how much this girl had saved and took every penny off her, hence she ended up back on the game. I imagine this story not to be unusual. Whereas the industry is obviously wrong, the girls who end up walking the street with big, fat divorced western men are luckier than the ones who end up locked up in local massage parlours.

6. Posted by loubylou (Travel Guru 664 posts) 11y

I agree with Daveh...I have spoken to many Thais and sex tourism for westerners is nothing compared to the money for sex scene for Thais and other Asian nationalities, this makes up the majority of this 'industry' but it is largely hidden from tourists eyes. It has been going on for many, many years, even before the US armed forces came to Thailand for R&R during the Vietnam war - which is when most people think the sex trade started.

As Jenny said, the girls who do go for Western men just want a better life, some of them don't have a lot of money and my boyfriend and I have talked to girls who haven't eaten for a week and are collapsing with hunger - of course we have taken them to a street vendor and bought them food. The pressure on them to earn money to support their family is huge, if they meet a western man who can provide everything for them and treat them well then they don't have to work (although there are always exceptions to this, some girls do carry on working and have 3 or 4 'boyfriends'!).

At the end of the day these girls are trying to survive in a country whose Prime Minister, although being a multi-millionaire and promising a lot, has not done much to allieviate poverty for the average Thai. I really don't blame them for trying to make a better life for themselves!

Donna

7. Posted by ukmassage (Inactive 1052 posts) 11y

Quoting loubylou

I have talked to girls who haven't eaten for a week and are collapsing with hunger

really difficult to believe - more that there bodies are depleted of energy by drug & alcohol abuse and by unhealthy lifestyle - and they just wanted from you a tip or a free food.

My former gf (before she met me) used to find food for herself and 2 small kids in bins (she was a single mother and couldn't afford all the bills).

Hunger might be the case in the NE Thailand small villages - before new crops arrive.

8. Posted by loubylou (Travel Guru 664 posts) 11y

Quoting MASSAGEUK

Quoting loubylou

I have talked to girls who haven't eaten for a week and are collapsing with hunger

really difficult to believe - more that there bodies are depleted of energy by drug & alcohol abuse and by unhealthy lifestyle - and they just wanted from you a tip or a free food.

well MassageUK, my boyfriend is a Doctor of Neuroscience - his area of specialism is in drugs of abuse ie amphetamines, cocaine, heroin etc so he knows when somebody is on drugs...the girls we fed most definitely weren't on drugs!

Donna

9. Posted by kafri (Full Member 28 posts) 11y

Quoting Wocca

Ever wondered when you've seen a western man walking around in Bangkok or other parts of Thailand with a stunning Thai girlfriend on his arm, or just nearby him?

This phenomena also appears in other Asian countries. In the Philippines one can meet those couples even more often than in Thailand, especially Manila and Cebu are notorious hunting grounds for (fat) foreign chicken hunters. Usually the girl is hired in the big cities and taken away to some beautiful remote island (as Wocca already reported in a previous comment about Puerto Galera/Philippines).
This trend has even reached Cambodia, where I've met some old foreign "chicken hunters" in Sihanoukville who hired their stunning young girlfriend in PP.

10. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Quoting kafri

"...This phenomena also appears in other Asian countries. In the Philippines one can meet those couples even more often than in Thailand, especially Manila and Cebu are notorious hunting grounds ...This trend has even reached Cambodia, where I've met some old foreign "chicken hunters" in Sihanoukville who hired their stunning young girlfriend in PP."

You're right on the ball with this comment, kafri.

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