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1. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

When others criticize what you are doing, do you have trouble believing you are doing the right thing?

2. Posted by daveh (Travel Guru 1027 posts) 11y

No, i just assume everybody else is totally mad

3. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 11y

No, I refuse to cave in to mob mentality. Besides I usually try to see all sides of a situation before I react. Do you have a particular situation in mind?

4. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

well there's always some "Do-Gooder" floating about in the background waiting to sow those seeds of doubt in your mind ....and yes sometimes it is hard to remain convinced of your choices....but I've never been one to let others put me off ...in fact i have often made stupid and careless decisions due to my particular brand of pig-headedness

5. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y

I will take their criticism under consideration but, unless they put forth a convincing argument, I usually stand by my original decision that I'm correct in my actions.

6. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 11y

Yes, at certain times and with certain people. Some people give their 110% to everyone else and always put themselves second. When I'm around them, I sometimes find myself wondering if a decision to be "selfish" (i.e. putting myself first) is lacking in benevolence.

It's a bad habit I'm slowly, slowly learning to break.

7. Posted by areinstein (Travel Guru 2788 posts) 11y

Quoting Wocca

When others criticize what you are doing, do you have trouble believing you are doing the right thing?

NEVER! I welcome constructive criticism but by the time I am already doing something is because I have thought about everything I needed to make my decision. I dont crumble under pressure, it is quite the opposite for me, I do it even with more passion.

Perfect example: it is exactly like what I have been hearing for the last 8 months about my trip to SE Asia (coming up soon). I have been critized to no end by just about everyone I know for going there (down to people finding the worst news in SE Asia so they can say to me, "see, I told you"), especially when I told them that I finally got my ticket one week after the tsunami. Most untravelled americans cant even fathom the idea of going to a third world country let alone backpacking it. Oh well, to each their own...I am just tired of posing my argument. Now I just say, then you should really pray I come back in one piece.

8. Posted by newguy (Full Member 197 posts) 11y

I appreciate the criticism but as to whether i am doing the right things or wrong things, that doesn't really bother me. I guess if it feels good it feels right.

9. Posted by Delissa (Budding Member 26 posts) 11y

I know this might be completely off topic from your original question:

I came across this very interesting website discussing or rather-- analyzing the subject of how you have your own belief system and how there are external factors that try to convince you otherwise and that sometimes the argument goes nowhere. I guess it is called "antiprocess". Anyways, I found it very interesting. The topic you are discussing may fall under 'passive antiprocess".

Check it out:

http://members.aol.com/intwg/antipro-types.htm

If you have time you should read the other sections.

10. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

It's easier for others to be negative rather than positive.That way, no responsibility can be placed on the person who originally criticized you negatively.

Back in the 1930's, a man walked around Hollywood with a mouse suit on and talking in a falsetto voice. He asserted that if he asked 30 people whether or not he should do something, and those thirty people were unanimously against his idea, then ... he would go ahead with his plan. Ever heard of Walt Disney?