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21. Posted by Bluenose (Inactive 36 posts) 11y

Thanks Samsara,

You're right, there is life in me still but I just need a bit of time to be sure my problems are behind me and to be earning a bit more money (though I'm not saying girls are motivated by money).
Hope you meet him. :)

22. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

Quoting daveh

Finding Mr or Mrs Right is a lottery, and as the saying goes ' you've got to be in it to win it'

So if you don't buy a ticket you'll be like McCauley Culkin your whole life (Home Alone)

Lol! Maybe you're right Dave - I think i'm just too lazy right now.

Maybe The Fear will kick in one of these days and I'll be desperately trying to avoid relegation to The Shelf ...although I cant see it happening any time soon.

23. Posted by daveh (Travel Guru 1027 posts) 11y

Well, my gran is 77 and she got herself a bloke about 4 years ago and is madly in love and has never been happier so the shelf is just a myth to scare people into doing something.

24. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

Well that's what I think. I'm not in any hurry. Good for your Gran!

25. Posted by areinstein (Travel Guru 2788 posts) 11y

Quoting daveh

Well, my gran is 77 and she got herself a bloke about 4 years ago and is madly in love and has never been happier so the shelf is just a myth to scare people into doing something.

Wow, that is great Daveh, good for granny! I just love hearing stuff like this...live life to the fullest as if today was your last day, never too late to love again...

26. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Quoting Mac Davis 1980

Oh Lord it's hard to be humble

Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
When you're perfect in every way
I can't wait to look in the mirror
Cuz I get better lookin each day

To know me is to love me
I must be a hell of a man
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
But I'm doin' the best that I can

I used to have a girlfriend
But I guess she just couldn't compete
With all these love starved women
Who keep clamoring at my feet

Well I probably could find me another
But I guess they're all in awe of me
Who cares I never get lonesome
Cuz I treasure my own company

Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
When you're perfect in every way
I can't wait to look in the mirror
Cuz I get better lookin each day

To know me is to love me
I must be a hell of a man
Oh Lord it's hard to be humble
But I'm doin the best that I can

I guess you could say I am a loner
A cowboy all locked up and proud
Well I could have lots of friends if I wanted
But then I wouldn't stand out in a crowd

Some folks say that I'm egotistical
Hell I don't even know what that means
I guess it has something to do with the way
That I fill out my skin tight blue jeans

27. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 11y

Quoting samsara2

Other people wont let you get too big-headed anyway

There's always someone to remind you :

a) where you come from
b) where your parents came from
c) the conditions under which you achieved success
d) that you may not have deserved success
e) that success doesnt suit you
f) that success doesnt last
g) that "you cant take it with you"

Samsara2, you are so spot on.

I find in life there are so many people that are very willing to put you down, sometimes in a subtle type of way.

They may make light of your achievements ("univeristy is just one big party you bludger" or "an accountant eh? How 'exciting'" or "so are you going overseas again you yuppy").

They tell you that you were lucky ("you were so lucky you bought your house when you did" or "you're lucky you get a good income" or whatever).

This sort of thing really irritates me, as I find that it can sometimes come from people that you consider friends. Some of it is just "talk", but more often than not it comes from a sense of insecurity from the person that is saying it.

Doing something good in life simply exposes the lack of motivation/ direction/resourcefulness of the other person, but I find that mostly it exposes the other person's lack of discipline. I find that nothing in life comes easily. You either put in the hard yards and try and make something of yourself or you don't.

You may as well blow your own trumpet a little bit. No-one else is going to do it for you, and all you end up doing most of the time is simply sticking up for yourself.

28. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Quoting james

"...I find in life there are so many people that are very willing to put you down, sometimes in a subtle type of way..."

Precisely, James old chap
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Quoting James

"...This sort of thing really irritates me, as I find that it can sometimes come from people that you consider friends. Some of it is just "talk", but more often than not it comes from a sense of insecurity from the person that is saying it..."


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Samsara2 & I have discussed this matter previously, especially WRT Australia. It seems as though this phenomenom is also quite prevalent in Ireland. Got any Irish ancestry, James? Mine is English. I'm inclined to think that the original tranportation of English & Irish (Scottish to a lesser extent)people, coupled with inherent socio-economic factors, may have significantly contributed.
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In the quotes above, James has very accurately described "THE TALL POPPY SYNDROME". Something of a national hobby down under in the land of milk and honey. Has anyone read the lyrics to the John Lennon song "WORKING CLASS HERO" posted over on Page 4 of the thread "A MYSTERY WRAPPED IN AN ENIGMA..." (commenced by tway) in the "OFF TOPIC" forum ?
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NOTE TO ALL: It would be much easier to extract information from various forums if members did NOT engage in frivolous CHAT ROOM conversations in the actual forums. This even throws the "OFF TOPIC" threads way off topic
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Quoting John Lennon

]WORKING CLASS HERO: "...They hate you if you're clever and they despise a fool..."

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The above lyrics were played at the end of the BBC/ABC (British/Australian)TV mini-series "THE LEAVING OF LIVERPOOL", which was about the British child orphans sent to Australia during the post-war baby boom period of the 1940's & 1950's. It highlighted institutional child abuse, and the emotional damage / struggles of those concerned. The British government has subsequently paid out compensation to those who have come forward & claimed (especially those who were not really "orphans" at all). Both the British & Australian governments have established counselling & other support services for those affected.
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Some of you may have possibly read or heard of the Royal Commissions / Enquiries conducted in Australia. Also, consider the circumstances which lead to the recent resignation of the Governor General of Australia.[Australia is a constitutional monarchy. Queen Elizabeth II of England is also the Queen of Australia. The Governor General is the nominal representative of the crown in Australia. Nowadays the position is for the most part, only honorary & ceremonious.]
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Quoting James

"...Doing something good in life simply exposes the lack of motivation/ direction/resourcefulness of the other person, but I find that mostly it exposes the other person's lack of discipline. I find that nothing in life comes easily. You either put in the hard yards and try and make something of yourself or you don't..."

We're not ALL born with a silver spoon in our mouth

29. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

Quoting james

This sort of thing really irritates me, as I find that it can sometimes come from people that you consider friends.

Absolutely - it's those who are closest to you who sometimes find it the hardest to encourage/support you. I can sense a certain deliberate "switching off" from ppl already when I start talking about my RTW trip...and that's before I've even done it! I get the feeling that it will be ten times worse when I get back and want to tell them all about it.

I'll just have to tell you guys.

30. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 11y

Samsara2, they switch off because they are JEALOUS that you are doing something that they WON'T BE DOING, thus they don't want to hear about it.

As an example, I spent 3 very successful years working in the UK, but most people don't want to hear about it. In fact, you can never talk about it as little as possible, because just even mentioning it exposes the envy in other people. The only I heard was, "oh, did you have fun in the rain?", "Why do you want to go there for?", "What's wrong with Australia?", "Everything's so expensive there", and all of that sort of rubbish. Never anything positive; only negative things so that, in saying them, they can make themselves feel "better" for not having gotten off their bums and done something.

There are plenty of examples...

But I don't "tip-toe" around other people's insecurities. I say what I want these days (without bragging) - STUFF THEM!