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21. Posted by Brendan (Respected Member 1824 posts) 11y

Prehaps it is changing from chivalry to courtesy?

I open and hold doors for people regarless of gender. A few here mentioned they would rather just do it themselves. Well.. you could also turn the tables and open doors for him? I like to think who ever gets to the door first should hold it for the other.

22. Posted by areinstein (Travel Guru 2788 posts) 11y

Quoting X

Prehaps it is changing from chivalry to courtesy?

I open and hold doors for people regarless of gender. A few here mentioned they would rather just do it themselves. Well.. you could also turn the tables and open doors for him? I like to think who ever gets to the door first should hold it for the other.

I hold doors for guys all the time when I go the gym, especially if they are cute hahaha.

23. Posted by abcdf (Full Member 557 posts) 11y

i love it when you dont expect it. i like being suprised when a guy is gentlemanly. my last boyfriend wasnt very chivorous, and the door always hit me instead of staying open for me. which made me laugh and why maybe we arent still together. ;) but i love when there is a group sitting at a table and when a girl gets up, the guy also gets up from the table. its that old school stuff that makes my heart skip a beat. ahhh.

24. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 11y

I was sitting on a crowded train this morning, and a gorgeous pushed through the crwod and stood next to where I was sitting. I offered her a seat, on my lap, and she declined my offer. Never say that chivalry is

25. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Quoting MattXIII

I'm always being called a gentleman.
I'll open doors, pick up dropped items, help women get buggies down steps, get stuff off high shelves for people.
Name something chivelrous and i've done it.

Thrown your cloak over a puddle, so the queen can step on it when she gets out of her carriage?

26. Posted by thezenyen (Full Member 88 posts) 11y

courtesy and consideration it is, and it never goes out of style. I like to think I have received kind acts as many times as I have extended it. BTW MattXIII, a serious question, what do you mean by "help women get buggies down steps"? I'm not getting you, could be due to cultural or language references I'm not quite catching?

27. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Quoting X

Prehaps it is changing from chivalry to courtesy?

I open and hold doors for people regarless of gender. A few here mentioned they would rather just do it themselves. Well.. you could also turn the tables and open doors for him? I like to think who ever gets to the door first should hold it for the other.

Welcome x. Mind the pun, but we were just recently discussing chromosomes. Weren't we, Isadora?

Here in China, it can turn out to be a real stalemate when you try to open a door for a Chinese colleague. Usually the more important person goes first regardless of gender.

28. Posted by loubylou (Travel Guru 664 posts) 11y

Quoting thezenyen

...BTW MattXIII, a serious question, what do you mean by "help women get buggies down steps"? I'm not getting you, could be due to cultural or language references I'm not quite catching?

In the UK we call pushchairs for kids 'buggies' - strange, not sure why but we do (anyone know why?) It's a big problem in the UK that women with kids in pushchairs are ignored when it comes to them trying to go up and down stairs!

I think manners have changed over the years. My mum always taught me to hold doors open, help people who need it. The amount of times people have let doors slam in my face or I have stayed standing there holding a door and they have just walked through and not said thank you...grrrrr that annoys me!

Maybe a more appropriate thread title would be 'have people's manners changed over the last 15 years?'!!

Donna

29. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

Quoting Wocca

Here in China, it can turn out to be a real stalemate when you try to open a door for a Chinese colleague. Usually the more important person goes first regardless of gender.

That could be a real problem where I work! LOL! 11 guys who all believe they're more important than each other...

30. Posted by thezenyen (Full Member 88 posts) 11y

Samsara, if you worked in China, you'd get a lot of Laurel & Hardy scenes at the office entrance!

loubylou, thanks for clearing that up. I had this strange picture in my head of ladies who need to get little birds down steps, and belatedly realised I was thinking of budgies, not buggies.

Ah in Singapore, buggies are strollers...