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1. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

Someone said to me recently that you can love someone without particularly liking them.

Do you think this is true?

2. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 11y

I have a friend who claims exactly that about her boyfriend. She says he loves her and wants to be together as a couple, but he never wants to go anywhere or do anything with her. He's happy with the let's-live-together-and-have-our-own-lives thing.

Needless to say, she's not happy at all.

3. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Quoting samsara2

Someone said to me recently that you can love someone without particularly liking them.

Do you think this is true?

Ah "The Phaedrus of Plato". The difference between the "lover" and the "non-lover" (or friend).

4. Posted by Rraven (Travel Guru 5924 posts) 11y

i think you can, they say to love someone you can see all the faults and accept them as they come in a full package but you could still dislike them,.....

5. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y

Quoting Wocca

Quoting samsara2

Someone said to me recently that you can love someone without particularly liking them.

Do you think this is true?

Ah "The Phaedrus of Plato". The difference between the "lover" and the "non-lover" (or friend).

"The wise are doubtful, and I should not be singular if, like them, I too doubted."

6. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 11y

hmmm...that's an odd one, i am very fond of someone but do but dont love them-well no i dont love him but there is something srtong there that we both fight it! if that makes any sort of sense to you normal folk!

But about the loving someone but not liking them- i suppose everything is poss!

7. Posted by daveh (Travel Guru 1027 posts) 11y

My question is this - if you don't like them, how do you get to know them well enough to know you love them. Or do we assume the disliking starts once you are well into a relationship.

8. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 11y

I think it's similar to why certain relationships don't last. You once liked, then loved the person - but at some point you may still love them, but no longer want to be with them. Maybe you love what you were together, or you love the person as a human being, or even that you love the other yourself have changed and don't like feeling tied to the other person anymore.

All to say: maybe the like goes but the love stays. Although that brings up questions about what love even means in the first place.

9. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 11y

Quoting tway

I have a friend who claims exactly that about her boyfriend. She says he loves her and wants to be together as a couple, but he never wants to go anywhere or do anything with her. He's happy with the let's-live-together-and-have-our-own-lives thing.

Needless to say, she's not happy at all.

Sounds to me like he's using her for .

10. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Quoting daveh

Or do we assume the disliking starts once you are well into a relationship.

Or when the relationship is over