But having you noticed so many people just never learn???
It's futile...I try to tell my kids "I've been there"...but I think it is genetically impossible to learn from someone elses mistake. But your absolutely right! Some people NEVER learn!
One thing I regret not doing is joining the Peace Corps before I became so financially strapped (and married of course). But the plan is still there anywhow...it has been postponed at this moment.
I'm with you, Anne. My mother tried to convince me I would have done well in the Peace Corp. I had other plans and never joined.
I tend to thik we learn most from our biggest mistakes. That being said, I would have dumped that rebound twit from a few years back a lot quicker...
Here! Here! But, make that 2 rebound twits I could have done without.
There is only one thing that I would do differently if given the opportunity. I turned to someone for help once who didnt really have my best interests at heart instead of turning to my brother. I just didnt want to burden him but I think I really hurt him, and relying on the other person turned out to be a BIG mistake.
But I dont dwell on or waste time regretting it. What's done is done and you cant change things.
"Tempis fugit et non quam revereter"
i'd like to say i wouldn't redo anything over as it made me who i am
but if i'm honest well yes i would redo loads of things,
i would have told my Mom and a few friends that passed away how much i loved them, respected them and valued every laugh shared, i wouldn't have crashed my motorbike, i would have trusted my own heart and not those around me, i wouldn't have let pride and ego get in my way causing me to damage my knee in a karate competition, and i wouldn't have dyed my hair blonde and had a poodle perm when i was 15 ( it looked so strange considering i was a bit of a goth before that)..... ahhh who am i kidding i can't travel back and regretting things are a waste of time,
i would have told my Mom and a few friends that passed away how much i loved them, respected them and valued every laugh shared...
When my friend passed away and I had to read her eulogy, I found myself full of regrets about not visiting more often, not sharing enough laughs, not saying I love you more or thank you enough...everything you mentioned. Yes, we cant waste our lives living in regrets but it sure has taught not to take things for granted anymore.
I find i regret a lot of things just as I'm falling asleep at night. All the "what-ifs" start popping into my head. In the morning though, they have vanished and I know, good or bad, I wouldn't really want to change a thing. All I have done has brought me to where I am now and I like this place (my state of mind and being place).
I turned to someone for help once who didnt really have my best interests at heart instead of turning to my brother.
"Tempis fugit et non quam revereter"
I cant begin to tell you how many times I tell my brother and sister that in the end, we have nothing but each other...if we have problems, we need to come to one another. Luckily we do, of course one feels guilty about bringing on OUR problems to our loved ones but more than likely they will be the very few watching out for our best interests. Lesson learned as always...
when you live with regrets, you are not living in the present time and appreciating the NOW in life.
this forces you into the future with possibly more regrets of why you spent so much of your past regretting the past before that...
...if this makes any sense at all...
If there is one thing in your life you could do over again, what would that be?
I thought I just responded to a thread just like this one. Deja vu?