"I prefer a feast of friends to the giant family" James D. Morrison.
I interpreted this line as it's better to have a few good friends rather than having a big circle of friends you don't really know that well.
What do you prefer? A lot of friends around you all the time or just a small selected number of close friends?
I've always liked to have a selected number of friends I share the most intimate things with but it is nice to see every once in a while all those faces of the people you have met or share something with during your lifetime. For friendships to be maintained or developed, a fair amount of time has to be invested (the "be there for one another" during the rough times job)...sometimes I have a hard time keeping up with my 8-9 closest friends. The rest just come and go, usually we only get together for those especial events...weddings, birthdays, graduations, or even death, as it was the case for me just recently.
I have four close friends - one being Mr Isa. I love them, rely on them, trust them, and will do what's necessary to protect them. I know that all of them feel the same toward me.
I have a small group of "social" friends with whom I enjoy spending time, but know the limitations of those friendships. The rest are acquaintances and I have no expectation of them or their responses to me.
I agree with Jim - a feast of friends is enough.
"The "stranger" was sensed as greatest menace in ancient communities." (JDM)
I think the Three Musketeers are in agreement on this
A lot depends on the social context when it comes to having a large circle of "friends" around you. I usually have a lot of people around me wanting to be friends (for their benefit rather than mine).When I need genuine, reliable friends myself ... there's not so many to choose from.
I consider myself lucky to have 8 close friends that will come through for me if the situation warrants it and that I can trust with anything. They aren't part of the same group of friends, but know each other by association. I much prefer this than having a group of 20 people to party with and hang out with as I did in school. Although fun, most of those people stopped talking to each other after graduation, and we talk through the odd email or MSN conversation. SO I have to agree with the others on here: getting a cup of coffee with 2 close friends is much better than hanging out with 10 aquaintances.
For my age, I have moved alot in my life... I have learned that you don't need to have alot of friends to be happy... or at least i don't.
I have learned to realise that after time passes, the people who make an effort to keep in touch and that tell me their stories as well as listen to mine, are the valuable friends that i like to spend time with.
As for best friends, i have a couple really good ones. However, good friends are good in different times in your life, and for different reasons. The things I would discuss with one of my friends may be completely different than what i would discuss with another friend.
However, i always love to meet new people with the thoughts and intentions that they could turn out to be one of those "keepers" that i'll always keep in touch with.
you just never know!
I feel exactly as you do.
For me I have very few close friends as I find it hard to trust but those close friends that I do have I keep for life , as I value our friendship, saying that I have loads of friends who i'm not close to that I can ring for drinks or days out etc.....