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1. Posted by areinstein (Travel Guru 2788 posts) 11y

I am reviewing my will and living will before I travel...I do it every time, it is like a ritual for me...will, living will, pay all the bills a month ahead of time, etc etc. Yes, it sounds crazy but in the event that something does happen, I dont want to be a burden to anyone.
So do you have one or do you think is even more necessary when you travel abroad?

2. Posted by HeatherHa (Budding Member 26 posts) 11y

I was just talking about this issue with a frind of mine last night. I do think it is important...especially in light of the Schiavo situation. I would hope my husband and my parents would be in agreement, but there is no way to make sure...if it is not written down properly. YIKES!!!

3. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y

We keep discussing and just had this topic covered with family members yesterday (Easter). It's important anytime. My father had a living will and it became an issue during his final days.

The older one gets, the more important it is that family, friends and physicians know what your wishes are. Personally, I'm more oncerned that I am taken care of the way I want - my assets can be handled however the survivors wisah. Though, we do have a letter statng what we want done. It was a stop-gap measure until a formal will could be done - which is still in the "creation" stage.

A living will does not guarantee anything, but you will have a much better chance of having your final wishes adhered to with one.

4. Posted by areinstein (Travel Guru 2788 posts) 11y

Quoting isadora

A living will does not guarantee anything, but you will have a much better chance of having your final wishes adhered to with one.

That is the most important point Isa. The living will DOES NOT guarantee anything but it is the only thing you may have going for you in court if someone may contest your wishes.

Like Heather said, in light of the Shiavo case here in the US, it almost becomes imperative to memorialize what you would expect to be done if unable to speak for yourself...

5. Posted by mtlchica (Respected Member 922 posts) 11y

Quoting HeatherHa

I do think it is important...especially in light of the Schiavo situation.

That story is getting a lot of people talking about wills, the validity of them and if they should get one. I've spoken about it with both my family and friends recently....and I'm a young person and in relatively good health. I guess it's never too early to prepare, but I'm also not going to make a decision based on fear-mongering by media outlets. Cable news channels are the worst at it, but all media does it to a certain extent. They just want viewers, listeners, readers to keep watching, listening and reading.This is being shown because it's a compelling story and something that will tug at the heartstrings of it's audience. Stories will be popping up more and more about living wills, the validity of them, what are the laws in your area, etc, etc. I've never really thought about getting a living will until this story was plastered all over CNN. And although I believe that it is an important step in life, I'm not going to jump the gun just yet.

Lol, ok, enough of my cynicism of the business (which I actually do love, lol) ;)

6. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 11y

Katie,
I can't stress this enough.....but it is NEVER too early to have a living will. Heaven forbid anything happens...but no one ever expects to be incapacitated!
This subject is near and dear too me. I have a DNR (Do not resuscitate) And a living will stating I am a no code. It is a very complicated paper. The what's and if's are unbelievable! In this situation do this and this, but in this situation do this and don't do this..blah blah blah...
Here in Michigan (since state laws vary) your spouse and parents have almost equal say in what becomes of you. Some states favor the spouse, some the parents. It is best to make your wishes VERY well know in advance...I have seen familys torn apart...
Now I am on a tangent. Forgive me;)?! Sometimes I get carried away. :)

7. Posted by mtlchica (Respected Member 922 posts) 11y

Quoting Cupcake

Katie,
I can't stress this enough.....but it is NEVER too early to have a living will. Heaven forbid anything happens...but no one ever expects to be incapacitated!

Very true...and I have to add a huuuuuge "knock on wood" for that one. I realise that it is never too early, but at this stage in the game it's not as vital compared to later on if I am married, have kids, etc. I know that my mom knows what I want (in general, I obviously don't have a line by line document), and since I have no spouse to counter her, I know she will follow what I want. We has this discussion, and I agreed to adhere to what she wants as well. Anyways, as I said, knock on wood, we will all live long and happy lives!

8. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 11y

From your lips...:)!

9. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 11y

From a financial point of view, all my bills/commitments are taken care of via DD, so the worse that would happen is that the DD would keep taking money after i was dead for a while until somebody realised

I don't actually have a will, although i probably should - however, i kind of take Katie's point of view here in i don't have significant others or dependents, so it doesn't make a huge difference to me. For want of another way of putting it, there's nobody to fight over me if something bad does happen.

One thing that has occured to me though is that if i did die, very few people would actually find out - I know loads of people but my life is vey carefully segmented and my family know very few of my friends or about my life - i have several email accounts which aren't linked, a few places i frequent (like here i suppose) etc that anybody going through my, urm, estate, would probably never find out about, be able to access (i.e. for email address books) or know relevant user names, so chances are the news would never actually get back to most people!

I'm still trying to work out if any of that is good or not, but it is something which has occured to me on more than one occassion.

10. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

This has got me thinking. Being a mere 25+vat I've never considered the possibility of a will. Last night after reading this I started considering my few possessions and what I would like their fate to be in the event of my untimely demise.

I realised that there are certain things that I wouldnt like to fall into the hands of some, certain things that I know others would like to have.

As for an "estate", well there isnt one....like most people my age, I have little or no money and seem to be constantly looking over my shoulder at my bank manager.

I dont know anything about these matters, can you create a will if there is no money involved? I'm just interested....