Lone female eager to travel but too scared!

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31. Posted by Ajay's Travels (Budding Member 2 posts) 1y 1 Star this if you like it!

You will be fine. I've been travelling to the States solo for the past 9 years. I love it. I'm from Australia and I'm 46. I drive when in the States just not in New York (too many one way streets) lol. I usually go for 4-6 weeks at a time and $6000 is more than enough depending on where you go. New York obviously will be your most expensive city. If you are travelling I have done travel by greyhound and Amtrak. I would recommend Amtrak as the bus can be a hit and miss. If you plan on going to Canada and Mexico while there Canada was amazing Mexico I didn't do so well as a solo female traveller. So if you are crossing the border be very careful and stay in the tourist area. I've also done cruises out of Miami to Jamaica and the Bahamas on Carnival and they were awesome. Feel free to contact me if you like. This year I had my first Airbnb experience and that was amazing. I had my own little two bedroom apartment in Harlem which I loved. I loved the atmosphere in Harlem with the bars and music. I downloaded the Citibike app on my phone and just biked around NYC. UBER is also great. I've travelled through Chicago GA TN the Carolina's Virginia and California. Megabus is also a cheap alternative with some tickets as low as $20. They have a site just google. Not sure about your insurance at home but check your car insurance out or you can add car insurance to your travel insurance if you are thinking of hiring a car. I've hired several times there and in Mexico and had no problems. Although in Mexico it is not a requirement to return the car full so you could get a car with no fuel lol. If booking internal flights do them on your international ticket and you don't have to pay for luggage in the States. If the flights are not in your original flight it's something like $25 a bag. Not sure how the UK is but their internal flights seem to be budget as in no frills. No meals or refreshments are served. Everything is extra. And in the USA because their minimum wage is so low in hospitality it is customary to tip. I think I have only not tipped once but she was rude. It's the only country I know of where you tip and I've travelled a lot both solo and with my children.

[ Edit: Edited on 03-Sep-2017, at 01:37 by Ajay's Travels ]

32. Posted by Daawgon (Travel Guru 2015 posts) 1y 1 Star this if you like it!

Really think New York would be the wrong place to start - better maybe Seattle (much smaller, easier to handle for a first timer). You could end up in NYC as you return home. NYC can be overwhelming even for us Americans.

33. Posted by Loneskyblues (Budding Member 11 posts) 1y Star this if you like it!

Great advice Ajay's Travels. I'm not planning on crossing any border, I think that'll be a step too far for me. I hope this thread doesn't disappear because I'd hate to lose all this info. I should probably write it down!

I will definitely get in touch, I'm sure I'll have some questions for you. Very kind, thanks.

I think you're both right, NY would be too daunting.

34. Posted by leics2 (Respected Member 372 posts) 1y 1 Star this if you like it!

I'm afraid I disagree.

My first experience of the US was NYC, as a late-middle-aged solo female, and I've visited 5 times since then (not through choice, I hasten to add...it's just been the easiest US arrival city for me). I encountered no problems whatsoever and can assure you that it is no more 'daunting' a city than any other. And at least there are no (major) language problems!

Don't worry about the thread disappearing: it won't. But it would be a good idea to bookmark it because if no-one replies it will gradually get pushed down the forum posts list and be more difficult to find. :-)

[ Edit: Edited on 04-Sep-2017, at 11:59 by leics2 ]

35. Posted by Emuhib (Budding Member 5 posts) 1y 1 Star this if you like it!

Great the read some comments...
I get a new story as I know is only South East Asia.
Who wanna comes to Bali, Indonesia. Can contact Me..
I am a local here..

36. Posted by Piecar (Travel Guru 1131 posts) 1y 1 Star this if you like it!

I have not been every place in the world....But I've been in most of the parts of the world. What I have seen is that women (that I've seen on the road) tend to be the most fearless and adventurous travellers. They tend to find the most interesting routes, and to go out of their way to see the most obscure things. There are outliers both ways....but women travellers just seem to make that extra effort.
If you go out. If you try an even slightly interesting adventure, you'll find so many like-minded women to travel with, that you'll wonder why you didn't go before. This is not to say that there are dangers. You'll have to keep your wits about you, and be savvy to the world about you at all times....This is the JOY of it. You might get rooked along the line. It's a story. It's currency for your life, if not for your pocket.
I am not a woman. I cannot see the world in your way. But I've met so many amazing women travellers who've told me they were afraid at first. That is the WHOLE POINT of travel. The Alien/Unknown faced and overcome. .....

......Just don't bring a rollie suitcase.

See you out there. Be careful.


37. Posted by yoshimidiana (Budding Member 12 posts) 51w 1 Star this if you like it!

Hey!:) You're already in a prime location to travel, if you're just wanting to get out on your own and go someplace new, just buy a Rail Pass, and start doing Europe- way more fun the US in my opinion. I did this when I was 25, went to 23 countries in Europe in a few months by myself, and it was so amazing! I felt safe in almost every country, just a couple of countries in Eastern Europe I had some bad experiences.
You would definitely need your own car if you're planning to go from one end of the country to the other.. there is an Amtrak train here, but I'm not sure of the routes. That would be your best option if you choose not to rent a car. The public transportation here is super sketchy, not like where you live. Pretty much the only people who take busses are homeless and very poor people here. I took a Greyhound bus from LA to Vegas once and it was the worst experience!! Also there's a lot of boring flat ugly land here driving across country, that just goes on for mile after mile.. My favorite cities in the US are NYC, Chicago, Austin, Seattle and LA.

38. Posted by babylou27 (Budding Member 2 posts) 46w Star this if you like it!

Hi are u still wanting to travel. I'm 44 female. No ties and don't want to do it alone x

39. Posted by DocNY (Respected Member 438 posts) 41w 2 Star this if you like it!

You know fear is actually either the number one or number two reason that people don't travel (the second being money and the third family). Travel, especially by yourself can be unimaginably daunting. But I think if you are brave enough to actually be posting this here, you are not too afraid to try it. I'm not going to tell you that US can't be scary, or that there aren't a handful of bad people here (but there are everywhere), but if you have some common sense, you'll be fine.

That said, you might want to try getting your feet wet, by trying a small trip. Maybe somewhere fairly local where you can go by yourself and figure out what you like. Or go to a city where you know someone so you have someone to reassure you if you need it. Or even try with a travel buddy the first time. It's all good. But once you do that and have some confidence you'll be able to branch out.

As to all the advice you've been given in this thread it's all pretty good. We all probably disagree on a point or two (like I wouldn't do hostels in a big city like New York, but I'd sure as heck do one down in St. Augustine, Florida) but traveling here seems far worse due to TV and media reporting every bad thing, than it really is.

And if you do manage to get to NY or thereabouts, my wife and I will be happy to advise.

40. Posted by neena329_cab (Budding Member 6 posts) 41w 1 Star this if you like it!

:) I am 52 years old Filipina and I love solo travel! In fact I just got back from one such trip earlier this week. All it takes is an open heart and willingness to ask questions.

I start planning my trips by reading blogs about the place I want to visit to have an idea of how must time it would take vs. how must time I have and how much it would cost me to undertake such a trip. When I travel solo I usually take public transport because I do not drive :)

Here is my blog about my latest solo trip... if you care to read it...