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1. Posted by Aflex (Budding Member 3 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

Hi

First time poster! I’m currently 30 years old I’ve spent the last 4 years with my partner and she’s decided she wants space and be on her own. It’s no ones fault it’s just happend like this. We have travelled loads together and I’m well travelled my self. Anyway I’m thinking about taking this time to do it again struggling to think of places to hit and go I don’t really want to go back to places I have had fond memories of with her.

Do you think the headspace will be good to pack up and and leave my job and go for a few months?

2. Posted by woinparis (Inactive 145 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

Welcome Aflex !

Depends how easy you'll find a job after you're back.

I am not the kind of guy who needs a total break after being disillusioned, so I would not necessarily recommend leaving your job. Besides the only time I went on a trip after being dumped was a total disaster, if it were to be redone, I'd first settle and then go on a trip.

But what works for me might work differently for you.

3. Posted by Aflex (Budding Member 3 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

Hi

Money won’t be an issue, i could away for a few months and not work. I don’t want to be to quick to make a decision, but I feel time away would be nice I’m just not sure the situation is a mess at the moment but I feel progress from 2 months ago.

4. Posted by woinparis (Inactive 145 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

Then take some time away !
Maybe a trek in the desert or say in Patagonia...

5. Posted by karazyal (Travel Guru 2930 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

If you have put a lot of time in your job would you lose retirement and seniority credit for future promotions?

Only you know if you quit your job how difficult it would be to get to the same position you are at now. Would your company take you back?

You could make the best of your scheduled vacation periods and still keep your job. Just use your normal vacation period for overseas trips. Perhaps every year go on a holiday in different countries. While at home maybe so some good by doing some volunteer work. (Hard work might also take your mind off your breakup.)

Up to you.

[ Edit: Edited on 26-Mar-2018, at 12:07 by karazyal ]

6. Posted by Aflex (Budding Member 3 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

Ha I’m not even sure I want to stay in my position but I agree maybe taking the remaining holidays I have and doing them in one go. Tbh I wouldn’t say I have been happy there for a while. Travel is on my mind. Anyone suggest and solo travel in Europe? I’m in the uk so it’s easier for me cost is low. Any suggestions would be greatful

7. Posted by Andrew Mack (Travel Guru 1037 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

There are cheaper places in Europe (Portugal, Hungary and others) away from the tourist areas, but I'd suggest it'd be cheaper travelling further away.
I loved India and South East Asia, but without knowing where you've been already, I don't know if they're valid suggestions...
Some idea of your travel interests may help as well...

[ Edit: Edited on 26-Mar-2018, at 13:17 by Andrew Mack ]

8. Posted by greatgrandmaR (Travel Guru 1914 posts) 2y 1 Star this if you like it!

When my dad died in 1973, my mother started traveling without him. She didn't want to go to places where they had traveled together so that meant leaving out England, Switzerland, Scandinavia, Paris, Holland, Belgium, Germany, Austria, Spain, Morocco, Russia, and large portions of the US.

She took my daughter on an iris tour of Australia, New Zealand and Tahiti
She went to language school in southern France
She took another daughter to China, Taiwan, Hong Kong and Japan
She took my son to Kenya
She took my niece to Italy
She went with friends to India
She went on a cruise through the Panama Canal with a friend.
She went to Mexico (I don't really remember the specifics of that trip)
She took her aunt on a Caribbean cruise (a bridge playing trip as the aunt loved to play bridge)

After 20 years or so, she was comfortable going back to places where she had been with my father so she could visit my daughter in England where she was on a job exchange and go on a trip with me to Spain and Portugal.

9. Posted by Planeterium (Budding Member 20 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

Quoting Aflex

Hi

First time poster! I’m currently 30 years old I’ve spent the last 4 years with my partner and she’s decided she wants space and be on her own. It’s no ones fault it’s just happend like this. We have travelled loads together and I’m well travelled my self. Anyway I’m thinking about taking this time to do it again struggling to think of places to hit and go I don’t really want to go back to places I have had fond memories of with her.

Do you think the headspace will be good to pack up and and leave my job and go for a few months?

Everyone recovers at their own pace and in their own ways. Some people travel to get some distance from the situation but in your case travelling might bring back painful memories and could even be 'confronting' the breakup by having to deal with the emotions. Hopefully it works out for you! I'm going through some stuff myself, so I can understand where you're coming from by wanting to get away.

10. Posted by anniesweetiepie (Full Member 23 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

Hello Aflex!

Don't worry time will heal you. I've been in your shoes and I know it is hard. I've quit my job even though I had found a new one with double paycheck... I couldn't cope. So after the break up I quit my job and went back to my home town. I felt like I owed myself some time to unwind. I don't regret leaving my job and changing my life around... This sabbatical lasted for about 10 months. I got bored in my hometown and returned to the previous city I lived in but I struggled to find a new job for a year. I even had to make a career change. I f you need the time and money is not an issue then do it. Fill your batteries and then try decisively to find a new job opportunity. Those 10 months were a bliss. I made new friends, bonded with old ones, discovered more about myself, had a great rest and then made a great come back. From my experience I have learned that I should not keep myself in situations that I don't like either it is a job I hate or I'm bored at or just a relationship that didn't have a happy ending. YOU are the one that should make you happy.

If you are thinking about going on vacation to Greece best places for solo travelers are:
Athens, Paros, Naxos, Corfu, Santorini, Mykonos, Crete.

Best place to meet new people? The decks on any ferry :)
Maybe join a group tour or stay in a hostel or a camping site.
Just be friendly & outgoing and everything will happen as it should...

[ Edit: Edited on 13-Apr-2018, at 04:19 by anniesweetiepie ]