Want to be a European tour asst., but never been to Europe!

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21. Posted by goodfish (Full Member 177 posts) 48w Star this if you like it!

Well the problem with my mom...

Again, your mother's problems are HER problems. Frankly, if she wanted to badly enough to hear from you when you're aboard, she'd ask you to help her figure out a way to do that.

Shoot, I had my own battles with a parent critical over everything about me that wasn't like her. She wanted a carbon copy of herself and she got a grubby tomboy. If I hadn't finally resisted the effort to beat me into a sedate, proper tea-party lady, I wouldn't have had the life that I've had; one that suits me. Sure, we had a ton of disagreements and it wasn't fun but it was that or end up a self-conscious, unhappy mess in a dress. Bleh. That said, at least we did agree on the joys of travel...although she didn't understand my love of canyon scrambling at ALL. Yep, hopeless tomboy.

You have to choose: live her life or live your own.

22. Posted by Beausoleil (Travel Guru 1289 posts) 48w Star this if you like it!

Postcards. My mother didn't have email either and I hate telephones. Postcards and short notes are very easy.

You are overthinking this. Either go on a trip or admit you aren't comfortable with the idea and find something else to do. The stress of indecision is worse than either of your choices.

23. Posted by Teoni (Travel Guru 815 posts) 48w Star this if you like it!

This person basically created a business on the fact she travels with anxiety. Maybe some of her experiences will help you :

On Anxiety and Travel

I empathise with your introverted nature. I too hate calling the repair man, I always take the email option and can't stand small talk Talking to complete strangers at the best of times stresses me out, when I can't understand their language even more confronting.

Despite this I have taken the steps to travel and to travel independently too and the fact is the more you do it the less confronting it becomes;) It is the first steps that are the hardest because everthing is theory at that point and it is all in your mind but once you start putting it into practice you realise it was no where near as hard as you thought it would be.

Some of those What Ifs have happened to me and instead of being a complete disaster I have found there is always a way around the problem and rather than scaring me off travel it has actually made me more confident.

So my advice is simply do it. I have found that in the mind it is always worst than in reality. Your job perks sound fantastic but I would still try out for the assistant job. You say you know nothing but it seems to me you have studied a lot about travel and I find it hard to believe you have not picked up something about Europe from working at Europe focused travel company and you did say your boss recommended the idea so he seems to think you would be competent. You might not be great at assisting first time round but unless you get the experience and make the mistakes you will never get better. Everyone has to start somewhere;).

[ Edit: Edited on 04-Jan-2019, at 02:00 by Teoni ]

24. Posted by Mapper71 (Budding Member 8 posts) 47w 1 Star this if you like it!

Thanks. I know I just need to do it. My sister told me I just need to do it and that I'll regret never taking advantage of the benefits. I just keep thinking "If I was the lead guide and I found out my assistant had never been to Europe before and wasn't all that outgoing, I'm not sure I'd be too happy about having to deal with that person". You know they already have 25 other tour members to deal with and it would be like adding me as another newbie.

25. Posted by Beausoleil (Travel Guru 1289 posts) 47w Star this if you like it!

Quoting Mapper71

Thanks. I know I just need to do it. My sister told me I just need to do it and that I'll regret never taking advantage of the benefits. I just keep thinking "If I was the lead guide and I found out my assistant had never been to Europe before and wasn't all that outgoing, I'm not sure I'd be too happy about having to deal with that person". You know they already have 25 other tour members to deal with and it would be likge adding me as another newbie.

I said it before . . . You are overthinking this. Either do it or stop worrying about it. You have absolutely no idea what the tour guide might be thinking and every guide is different so you have no way of knowing. You also have no idea how you will react until you are in the situation. As my father always cheerfully announced when someone started worrying, "99% of the things you worry about never happen."

26. Posted by Andrew Mack (Travel Guru 1037 posts) 47w 2 Star this if you like it!

I'd re-state that I think you should try it as a holiday before trying to do it as work.
Once you've done it once, then you can take the risk of doing it as work.
If the lead guide is having a bad day or feeling ill, can you really take up the slack?
It's not a job I'd consider and I have travelled quite a lot, but taking responsibility for others welfare, safety and enjoyment is a lot to take on when you don't know what you're doing.

27. Posted by ToonSarah (Travel Guru 1066 posts) 47w 1 Star this if you like it!

Quoting Mapper71

Thanks. I know I just need to do it. My sister told me I just need to do it and that I'll regret never taking advantage of the benefits. I just keep thinking "If I was the lead guide and I found out my assistant had never been to Europe before and wasn't all that outgoing, I'm not sure I'd be too happy about having to deal with that person". You know they already have 25 other tour members to deal with and it would be like adding me as another newbie.

Everything you have told us about your personality, skills etc. would suggest that you are not right for this job and would be a liability for the main guide and of little help to the paying customers. On the other hand, you sister thinks you should do it and she presumably knows your strengths and weaknesses, and so does your boss. So they must see something in you that you don't see yourself or which you aren't describing to us. Maybe you should ask your boss for a meeting, explain that you are interested in the opportunity but are not sure you have the required skills and personality type. If she agrees with your own estimations of yourself, ask her why then she thinks you could perform well in that role - maybe there are specific elements to it which you are suited to, of which we're not aware. Or maybe on reflection she will agree with you and stop pressing you to take up the opportunity. But if she disagrees with you about your limitations, then either listen to her and your sister and go for it, or do as we've already advised and take a short tour to see how someone else performs the role and also get over your fears about visiting Europe. Maybe you could confide in the assistant guide on your tour that you're interested in similar work and ask for their tips - maybe they'd even welcome a helping hand if you both work for the same company.

If you just sit and worry about it you will end up doing nothing so read back through our advice, make a list of the options (just go for it / take a tour instead or first / talk to your boss / forget the whole idea), pick one and plan how to implement it - today!

28. Posted by 55vineyard (Budding Member 53 posts) 47w 1 Star this if you like it!

I think you should take a short tour first before even thinking about being an assistant guide, there is a lot of responsibility there.
Have you thought about joining something like Toastmasters if they have one near where you live, you have to talk to and interact with others and even make the occasional short speech in front of the group. Something like that might help you overcome your fears and shyness.

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