What is the best place to go after a painful breakup?

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1. Posted by Watchmeburn. (Budding Member 3 posts) 4w Star this if you like it!

Hi everybody.

I know this topic might seem kind of silly or boring, but I think I could use some advice from other passionate travellers.

I recently broke up with my boyfriend - more specifically, he broke up with me. The reason is my passion for travelling and living abroad, which doesn't match his idea of staying home and keep living in the small town he was born (only occasionally travelling). I tried to adapt to the idea of living there, but the differences just set us apart in the end. I am a passionate traveller - when I go somewhere, when I meet new people I feel alive. I have been living abroad and the experience enriched me so much.
But now - I am broken inside. He was my first crush and the first, serious relationship I have been in.
I'm living in a big, messy city and I'm always busy doing stuff, but I'd really like taking some time for myself, to ease the pain.

Is there anyone who found him/herself in the same situation and would like to share his/her feelings about it? I would really love if someone could suggest what a great place for recovering/an inspirational travel might be.

Thanks to all the beautiful souls who will share!

Marta

2. Posted by Teoni (Respected Member 659 posts) 4w 1 Star this if you like it!

What is exactly is inspirational to you? I know people who have thrown themselves into extreme sports to make themselves feel stronger. Others will take a long trek (I suspect a movie might be the reason this is popular), I have a friend who ate their way through Vietnam (you could do this in any country), then of course there is going somewhere really remote to forget about the world around you, taking a long drive cross country, party out the pain or enter a retreat to meditate out the pain. Volunteering can also be pretty inspiring. Perhaps voluntourism is more your vibe? I know someone who travels the world volunteering at animal rescue centres.

[ Edit: Edited on 14-Jan-2019, at 20:24 by Teoni ]

3. Posted by Old Man At (Budding Member 49 posts) 4w 1 Star this if you like it!

I've been through a similar thing, I just sorta drifted. I was in Europe, got into my car and just went south because the sun was shining in the south. Without plan or premedidation. As Teoni described above eloquently, what works for some may not work for you, but I thought it worth mentioning as a possible alternative to the excellent suggestions above. Sometimes its not about the destination but about the journey.

[ Edit: Edited on 14-Jan-2019, at 22:09 by Old Man At ]

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5. Posted by Stefmuts (Respected Member 144 posts) 4w 1 Star this if you like it!

After my divorce I booked a trip to Nepal, my ex never wanted to go there so it was the first thing that came into mind. I did a group tour because I wasn't sure about travelling all alone and made sure there was room for a hike or 2 (turned out to be a 5days trek) We are all different so this might not be what you like. Just pick a spot you always wanted to go but you never did because of him, It worked for me

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7. Posted by Andrew Mack (Respected Member 650 posts) 4w Star this if you like it!

Some want to party with loads of people and some want to isolate themselves with nature.
Only you know which type you are (or where between those 2 points you are).
When you've decided then maybe we can give you some suggestions on locations.

8. Posted by Watchmeburn. (Budding Member 3 posts) 4w Star this if you like it!

Quoting Andrew Mack

Some want to party with loads of people and some want to isolate themselves with nature.
Only you know which type you are (or where between those 2 points you are).
When you've decided then maybe we can give you some suggestions on locations.

I think to feel better with the second option. I feel like I need healing and a good environmental situation may really help working things out

9. Posted by Dymphna (Full Member 115 posts) 4w Star this if you like it!

You might try making a pilgrimage.

10. Posted by leics2 (Respected Member 537 posts) 4w Star this if you like it!

Whether you have any religious belief or not, many people do find that walking a pilgrimage route e.g the Camino de Santiago in Spain, the Via Podiensis (France>Spain) or the Via Coloniensis (Germany) amongst many others. There are lots of pilgrimage routes just in the UK: https://britishpilgrimage.org/great-routes

Alternatively, you could investigate walking any long-distance footpath/hiking trail: there are literally thousands in European countries. You don't have to camp out: most trails have suitable accommodation along the way and, if you don't want to carry your own stuff, there are plenty of companies who will organise luggage transfer and/or organise the whole thing for you.

Walking alone and/or with others you meet along the way really does gives you the space & time to reflect and grow, regardless of faith or lack of it.