Are you happier now than 5 years ago?

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21. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4138 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

Quoting GregW

That's a tough one to answer.

In August of 2000 (exactly five years ago), I actually was pretty happy. I was living in Denver (which I loved) and was smitten with a very pretty girl (who I later fell madly in love with). So in the fall of 2000 I was very happy. Probably a little happier in 2000 than am now, because right now I am not in love.

Now, backtrack to October of 1999 through May of 2000, and I was absolutely miserable. My mother had just died, I was stuck in a job I hated, my roommate was dating this horrific woman who I hated (and she was in the apartment ALL THE TIME), I was ill (neck problems) and often in pain and I hated living in Toronto. So I am definately happier now in 2005 than I was in May of 2000, because of all the afformentioned bad things.

Also, if we look at the late winter or early spring of 2001, and I was very miserable again. Things with the pretty girl turned very sour, I was drinking too much and coming to the realization that I never really dealt with my mother's death a year and a half earlier. So, I am definately happier now (2005) than I was in earlier 2001 (4 1/2 years ago).

So, I guess the answer is mostly, yes, happier, though maybe not specifically happier if we get down to the specific month of August.

Make sense?

Yes, it certainly does. Thanks for sharing that very personal insight to your life Greg. I'm glad to hear that things are now better then they were.


22. Posted by vicks (Full Member 88 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

Like most people, I'm much happier. August 2000, I was three months away from finishing high school, studying hard and partying harder. I guess with most people at the age of 17, I was trying to be what everybody wanted me to be. My Dad put lots of pressure on me and my people that I thought as friends, weren't really friends at all. But now, I'm not the little shy girl that I used to be. I stand up for myself and I don't have a problem with voicing an opinion - especially with my dad. But with saying that, I am the first to admit that I am wrong. I have more respect from people more now than I ever have and I guess thats because I respect myself. I'm back in my hometown and have a great job. I'm saving money like mad to go travelling. I guess I have grown into myself and I hope it keeps happening.


23. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

I had more hair 5 years ago which was nice!

Actually, 5 years ago was one of those weird fork in the road years for me. Could've made one decision and my life wouldn've probably ended up one way, made another and it turned out the way it did. Without getting too long winded, I couldn've ended up married with a white picket fence living in a city that I didn't like, working a job that I especially didn't like. Instead, I'm still single have seen more of the world than I ever would have bargained for back then, live in the mountains and work a job that I love and that let's me goof around a lot. Who the hell knows if I'm happier, but I'll tell you this, I'm happy and that's good enough for me!

24. Posted by steff (Travel Guru 1162 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

Quoting john7buck

I had more hair 5 years ago which was nice!

I think guys with less hair/bald can look very nice too;)

25. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

This is a very hard question for me...

I am a very happy person all the time (no, not the obnoxiously happy type), but very little causes that to change. I am much happier than I was a little over 10 years ago, when the venture Beerman and I were involved with was shut down completely. We trusted a family member who proved to be untrustworthy, were left without housing, unemployed, almost broke, had to live with our best friend for 3 months, my dad had just died, and I was trying to sell a house 2 states away. Thankfully, we had kept his car or we would have been without transportation too. But, the house sold, affording us the ability to buy this one, got jobs, and started all over again from the ground up. Like Greg, I did not take time to grieve for my dad until two years later when a character in a movie reminded me of him, and I fell apart.

Since then, each year gets better, money improves, more house renovation is completed (doing it ourselves) and we do get to travel a bit more often. I have realized that no matter what life throws at us - we can deal with it together. As long as both of us are alive and well, that's what truly makes me happy and I am grateful for it everyday. Nothing else is that important that it can't be fixed, replaced, or just forgotten. I guess that means I am happier than five years ago because we still have each other.

26. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

I would defo say that i am, although i have my struggles, i have almost grasp the concept of life and think that in a further 5 years time i will be even happier than now!

You never know what is around the corner though, take each day as it comes.

27. Posted by GregW (Travel Guru 2635 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

Quoting Isadora

Like Greg, I did not take time to grieve for my dad until two years later when a character in a movie reminded me of him, and I fell apart.

I think this is probably pretty common, actually. It's tough to process all that grief at once. I think our pysches dole out the grief over a long period of time so that we can still function as humans.

Anyway, I'm happy that everyone here seems to be happier than 5 years ago. Maybe 5 years ago was just a bad time? All the stress of the change of the millenium and all... Who knows?

28. Posted by MatureMan (Budding Member 3 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

What an excellent thread .......... certainly made me reflective of where I was, how I was, and where and how I am now. I can honestly say I've grown as a human being enormously. In 2000 I was in a secure relationship aiding and abetting a career minded lady but by 2003 I'd ended it because we were repeating behaviours I experienced in my former marriage. On top of that I suffered a major flood in my house which lead to me being seriously stressed by some disgraceful behaviour from the very people who should have helped me. And, I entered into a legal battle with a pub who were churning out some abuse of their own. Today the pub has been silenced and I won my compensation from the insurance company in full and my house is almost back to its former glory. I am now a giant compared to how I was and proud of my acheivements. Thank you for the opportunity to take stock and value my efforts.

29. Posted by chemukh (Full Member 132 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

I'm absolutely happier now than before.
Without entering in details, 5 years ago I were a person full of fears. Of course today I don't have all than I want, but I can't say I have problems, more than that, I have challenges and unfinished projects, the salt of life.

30. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

5 years ago? 5 years ago today i was travelling and without a care in the world. Today i'm travevelling, and excepting interesting Russian visa ending issues, without a care in the world. Probably happier, yes, but wasn't exactly unhappy at that point. Ask the same question for 4.5 years ago, however, and the answer is a definite yes, as 4.5 years ago i was being screwed over regularly by the boss-b*stard from hell (not the Norwegian one), and working in a sh1thole (aylesbury), with a 4 hour daily travel, mostly due to said boss b*stard.