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1. Posted by nicoledean (Budding Member 31 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

What do you do when you are good friends back home but dont make good travel companions!
Its happened to me, and im afraid its going to spoil my trip, its not unbearable but i feel im walking on eggshells and this is meant to be thetime of your life.
I dont really want to go it alone, and if we did that would really spoil here trip because she would be able to do that and end up going home!
We're 3 weeks in and have 4 months together, could it just be teething problems?

What would you do? Have you been in a similar situation?

2. Posted by tom_kirk (Budding Member 23 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I think it would be a good idea to give it some more Time. But just because your travelling together doesn't mean you have to live in each others pockets maybe you should try getting to a destination then do your own thing all day and meet up at night time? you might find that you'll miss the company.

Hope it works out for you

Tom :)

3. Posted by bibs (Full Member 89 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

You can do one thing. whenever there is a problem just think of how you have reacted to the situation back at home. As you have already said that you don't have any problems at home, that solves your problem.

4. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Hi Nicoledean,

This happened to me a few years ago when I went travelling with a friend. We got on great at home and I thought we'd have a laugh when we went away, but we nearly murdered each other. Everything we did got on each other's nerves. When I suggested splitting up for a few hrs during the day jsut to get a bit of space, he took offence.

Anyway, it's a long complicated story, the outcome of which is that we never really remained friends when we got back home.

Must have been a pretty flimsy "friendship" to begin with.....

Best thing to do is be honest and talk to your friend, tell her you need a bit of your own space during the day...if you dont say anythign and keep letting thigns build up, it'll just end in tears. ;)

Good luck. :)

5. Posted by jackflash (Inactive 84 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Hello Nic! I haven't been travelling yet, but If any kind of relationship in any situation isn't working and doesn't look like it will do then you have to be ruthless and part, it's much harder making the decision than been on the receving end. You have to remember that it is your journey and you have to do what will make that journey work for you, otherwise you are wasting your time, you will resent your friend and you will resent yourself for not taking the opportunity to react.

Talk to your friend and try and convince her that it will benefit her going her own way too. Have you met any other travellers that you could ask to accompany her, if she doesn't want to be alone?

good luck

6. Posted by coldwarspy (Travel Guru 1108 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

is traveling solo not an option? its the ONLY way to travel i think - Unless u have a really good travel mate. only 3 weeks in and ur havin trouble. it usually only get worse.

7. Posted by nicoledean (Budding Member 31 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Some really good advice there,
Thank you