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1. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

What are peoples experiences of going home after a long trip? The best and worst things? Advice on how to stay sane?

I am going home at christmas after being away nearly a year. I will have to start thinking about growing up and getting a career, and paying off debts, so it will probably be a very long while before I can travel again.

I have no job and will have to (temporarily) live with parents for the first time in 8 years. Its going to be hard....

Any advice from people who've been in same situation?


2. Posted by BeckyR (Full Member 174 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

My top tips are;

Take time to catch up with friends, sort out your photo albums and think about what you want to do next.

Don't worry that it will be a shock coming back, remember there is the bonus of catching up with friends and family, and making them envious as you share your stories!

Maybe plan some short trips back home, so you do not lose the joy of travelling.

Don't go straight back into F/T work, try some temporary part time jobs . .helps you adjust back into work but also gives you time to consider what you want to do next.

Good luck.

3. Posted by SeeTheSky (Full Member 558 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

well, all i can say is dont be ashamed of your choices or let people chase away your dreams with realism. theres no shame in needing help every once in a awhile, thats what people do for each other. if someone you loved needed help from you, you wouldnt think it to be shameful or anyhting like that, so why should it be any different for you?

basically, dont let this hold you back or make you feel like you've done something wrong. you have been pursuing your own life, making your own choices, and you should continue to do so! theres no right or wrong on how to live your life, and dont let others pressure you into feeling one way or the other, or making you do something you dont want to.

i know you got it in ya.
take care!

4. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4138 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

I was away for 3 years at one point, and walking into my room at my parents palce was like going back in time. My room hadn't been touched, and looking at my CD collection and other bits and pieces from where my life stopped at a point in time was sweet but also bitter.

A tip? Don't expect everyone to be as interested in your travel stories, etc as you might think.

It's tough coming back; very tough.

5. Posted by happyyo (Budding Member 7 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

Hi Clara,

I know perfectly what u are talking about: I havent been living away more than 4 months but its been enough time to find "the coming back home" pretty hard .... (i have spent several periods of time in UK in the last 10 years)
Nothing seems and feels the same anymore; your friends, family ... have changed ... Probably its u the one who has changed. Take your time girl and live your live :)


ps : I will be moving to London in a couple of months; since my first trip away (I was 18 years old by then -I am 27 now-) I havent "found myself" never again here in Spain (what I should call "my home")....

6. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

A tip? Don't expect everyone to be as interested in your travel stories, etc as you might think.

Is damned good advice. Most ask questions at first, some out of curiosity, many just politeness. But after the first 20mins or so, they are bored of your "showing off" and think you are trying to rub in how great your life is and how bad theirs is.

I will have to start thinking about growing up and getting a career,


7. Posted by numero1 (Respected Member 295 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

This is by far and away the hardest part of traveling, especially if you have been away for a very long time.

I wish I could offer advice but unfortunately i can't. I have been back in australia 2 months now and I want to return to South america more than ever now. It's tough.

I get told off by frineds who tell me to stop sending them my scanned pics of my travels, so yeah, i guess people don't really want to know much about your travels when you come back - they are probably too busy with their own lives.

Have you looked into starting a career and life elsewhere and not in the place you would currently call home? This is what I have begun to do since i've returned. Explore your options globally, not just locally.

8. Posted by wouterrr (Travel Guru 3383 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

Quoting james

A tip? Don't expect everyone to be as interested in your travel stories, etc as you might think.

You developed they stayed the same as before,

9. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

Wow thanks for that.....

I know the travel stories will drive everyone mad, and I will struggle to stop going on about India etc.

I really want to live in Australia or New Zealand, but I think I'm going to have to go back to Uni, at least concentrate on career (but what?) in order to achieve it.It will take a long time. Since I failed to find a husband there! ;)

Has anyone found that their relationships with old friends changes much? For better or for worse? I know I have changed and my mates haven't, although I really miss them now.

My biggest fear is just falling back into the same depressing life I was so desperate to leave.

However, knowing I'll be home in 3 weeks is actually making me a little homesick! I'm getting pretty weary and a bit jaded now. I decided to go back early and surprise my Mum for Christmas.

Actually really excited!

10. Posted by Twinkle (Respected Member 1112 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

yeah i have to agree its really hard!!!! I remember sitting there on the plane with my 15 hours ahead of me....and at the same time being soooooooo excited about getting back, seeing people, telling everyone my stories, being centre of attention ha ha ha!!!!also I was sad as I didnt want the adventure to end, i think a little tear or two may have whipped out underneath my blanket!!!the rest of the time i spent hours arranging my photos into albums and writing little captions to impress them all when i got back!!!!I then had to get a national express bus when I got off the plane so I spent this time struggling in the teeny toilet into my special "going home" outfit and putting some makeup on so I looked all nice when I stepped off the bus!!!!So I get off thinking I look all skinny, tanned and rustic in my special outfit and they werent even there yet!!!!I had to stand in the rain with my backpack, not glamourous at all...then 15 minutes later they turned up...i had imagined me gliding off the bus as they all waited for me!!!!So what was the first thing I wanted to do....get a cheddar cheese ploughmans from marks and spencers!!!then as I sat and ate it, got my photos out, got annoyed that they were flicking through them so fast adn not giving me the chance to give a commentary on each one!!!But it was nice but it took a while to get used to the fact I was back and getting back to normal life!but thats just the way the cookie crumbles...i suppose its exciting and sad at the same time!