How to persuade my parents?

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1. Posted by crazyboy10 (Inactive 4 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Hi everybody. At the moment I'm planning at trip to the UK in summer. I've already made a plan with cities I'd like to visit and places where I'd like to got to. Furthermore I also found some appropriate youth hostels and a cheap flight. So you could think everything is alright and that it gonna be a great trip. But I still have to persude my parents. The problem is, that I'm under 18 -actually 17- and they are afraid of something happening to me. I mean I won't be there alone. I'll gonna go with a friend and we already made some trips around Germany (where I live). So you can say we have enough experiences. What can I do to persuade them?
I mean we book our accommodations, our flight and our train-ticket.( They always know where we are and where we gonna spend the night! and we live in times of cell phones) And if we gonna sleep in youth hostels we've got to be there until 10 o'clock in the evening. So what should happen to us? We both speak English, we have enough self-confidencde and we also are resposible.
So please help me. What can I do? Have you already made some experiences concerning the same problem? Please give me some advice!
Thank you very much.

2. Posted by larondey (Full Member 105 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I was in a similar situation about 2 years ago when myself and 3 of my friends wanted to go to Quebec City (Canada) for the weekend. It's about a 400 mile drive from my house near Boston and my friends had never left the country before. I will say that because you are still under 18, it is your parents choice whether or not you go. They are responsible for you until you turn 18 (at least they would be here in the USA). This is what I did and it seemed to work for me (and for my friends).

1) Be especially nice to your parents - even sickeningly nice if necessary.

2) Show that you will be able to pay for 100% of the costs (food, transport, lodging and incidentals).

3) As you will be traveling to the UK, you will need your passport. The UK is one of the more strict countries as far as passport control in Western Europe. Write up a letter that states that your parents have given you permission to travel by yourself to the UK. On this letter, write the addresses and phone numbers (along with an confirmation numbers) of the places you're staying. Then, have your parents bring the letter to a notary to have it notarized ('made official').

Try this out and it should help - or, at least make you seem a little more responsible in the eyes of your parents. The UK is very easy to get around and you really shouldn't have any troubles if you speak English well. Keep in mind that very few - if any - people you come across will speak German - but, I'm sure you already knew that.

Good luck and I hope this helped!

3. Posted by argie22 (Budding Member 40 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Show your parents that they can trust you. I was gonna tell you to make a detailed plan, but it sounds like you already did...maybe it'd help that you add to that plan what you'd do in case of an emergency. Maybe you can make sure that you have money for one, put together a list of hospitals in the areas where you are going to be...that may sound a little over the top, but i think that if they see that you are planning and being responsible about it, then that might change their minds.
Good luck!

4. Posted by mally (Respected Member 199 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

i had the same problem when i wanted to travel. write down where and when you will be at those places etc. let your parents be able to contact you if poss.make sure your passport and health papers etc are in order make copies etc.
if it is a problem just wait till your 18

5. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4138 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Well if your user name reflects your personality, perhaps your parents are right in being concerned

6. Posted by TravelMc (Full Member 93 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

You seem to have prepared well but have you asked your parents what their specific concerns are? It will be easier to provide them with sound common sense answers if you know what you are answering. It may not be you they are worried about as such - it may be that they have had a bad experience themselves in the UK or somewhere and don't want you to have the same at your age.

It may also help for them to know what the areas you intend to visit are like for infrastructure and services. They may think you are visiting rough or dangerous parts of the UK and you can try to provide them with proof that you wont be. A city in your own country can be quite a big deal if you don't spend a lot of time in one but it is much simpler for your parents to get to you if they need to than if something happens in a foreign country. This could make your folks feel very nervous.

Typcially parents like to see maturity of thought - act like you can be relied upon and they will rely on you. Get home when they expect you to, remmeber to do chores or run errands and just take extra good care of yourself and they will likely realise you are ready to travel without them. It may mean delaying your trip a little but will be well worth it in the end.

Most of all sit down with them and calmly ask them to tell you what they think. Don't get worked up and take it all with a bit of a stiff upper lip - you may not like what you hear but you have to hear it. Then go away, think about it and see if you feel you can prove they need not fear for you in a calm and careful manner.

And while I'm not a mum yet I have a great mum and dad and I am well aware that this is the least they expect - give them the courtesy of listening and they can repay the favour!

Best of luck and travel safe when you do travel!

7. Posted by applegirl (Full Member 144 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

You seem to be a responsible enough guy at 17, perhaps ask your parents what they think will be the big difference between 17 and 18?
Maybe it's just about them getting used to the thougt of you not being their little boy any longer? ;)

8. Posted by miranda73 (Full Member 76 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Believe in yourself you can do it though without parent's permission. Take care and open your eyes during the trip. And you shall find yourself safely. But the important thing is to keep in contact with your parents without mentioning where you are.

9. Posted by MinesAPint (First Time Poster 1 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Hallo U Crazyboy! Ich weiß nicht genau, was Ihre Elternteilinteressen sind, aber als Elternteil selbst, daß Leben in Großbritannien, ich Ihnen erklären kann, was Grube sein würde. Erstens würde ich nicht über Ihr Alter noch, von was ich von der deutschen Jugend weiß, über Ihre Reife betroffen. Was würde mein nur Interesse würde sein Ihre Sicherheit von anderem people.Why auf Masse Sie beschloß, in Großbritannien zu kommen sein? Es gibt nur eine Handvoll Bereiche wert das Besuchen u. hat dieses Land mehr, als es angemessener Anteil der Einbohrungen, auf das, welches das Wetter crap!There sind die von den Personen jeder möglicher Nationalität, jederzeit der year.But-ist Anmerkung, daß dieser Sommer Sie ein junger deutscher Mann, in England, zu der Zeit der Weltschale, i-presume;which zu vermeidenen sein würden Bereiche würde bilden Sie ein sogar grösseres Ziel zum A-Holes.If ist Sie entscheiden, noch zu kommen, dann für Sake des Gottes London vermeiden Sie (Scumdon)& Manchester (Madchester) vollständig es sei denn Sie das Leben dangerously.If genießen, wünschen Sie zum Sommerbeteiligten mit freundlichen Leuten, die mosly nicht ein crap geben Sie über was Sie wünschen. So in der Zusammenfassung, wenn Sie Unterstützung Ihres Elternteils wünschen, überzeugen Sie sie dann, daß daß Sie in einem sicheren Platz mit guten Zicklein Ihres eigenen Alters, sind die so beschäftigt sind, ein gutes mit jeder habend, sie, verursacht keine Mühe, außerdem sind sie eine gute Masse anyway.Oh und vergessen nicht, zu erwähnen, daß Sie immer NICHT zu den Drogen :)

10. Posted by Mancgirl (Budding Member 2 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Crazyboy_10... You've got a tough job of convincing your parents that you are responsible enough to go travelling on your own overseas but as it's already been pointed out to you you are under 18 as such so this will make it especially difficult for you and not many as with all overseas travel there are risks which I'm sure you are aware of I think you're parents having trouble letting go so if you can't maanage to go away this time I suggest waiting until you are 18 and then they can't do a damm thing about it if you can pay for accomadation, food, transport (we have an excellent transpotation system and is easy to get around from town to town) save us shitloads and just do it mate you're only young once!!

Mancunian Girl