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Why is it so hard to meet people?

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11. Posted by vange (Budding Member 43 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

"people, people who needs people..."
the way i see it, If others are making it hard for me, I make it easy for them.;)
As with Men, I go with the golden rule: Challenge is what they're after(I guess).

12. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I think the harder you look, the less you find. Once you stop looking and just enjoy where and who you are, you give off a whole new vibe. It worked for me, anyway...

13. Posted by Purdy (Travel Guru 3546 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I gotta agree - when l met my BF l was totally enjoying being single having just come out of a 10yr relationship l really was getting to know myself again enjoying meeting people - l dont know how many blokes approached me it was brilliant!!! Just be yourself!

14. Posted by cookieyum (Inactive 75 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

[quote=Clarabell]In the UK, it seems that people meet by getting drunk, snogging (or more if you're like that), then swapping phone numbers. It just seems nasty!

Definitely agree with this - so many of the clubs i go out to here are just big meat markets and the guys are after one thing and the girls get so plastered that they make themselves vulnerable and very often throw up everywhere! Not the most conducive or romantic environment for meeting a nice bloke!! Get the impression that there seems to be a more established set of rules for dating out in the US - can anyone confirm this and explain!

15. Posted by xxpacerxx (Full Member 76 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!


Do you always put a lot of importance on 'pulling'? are you always judging your every move resulting in not being yourself? Also i can only speak for myself but i always find girls who are over keen off putting.

I know it may seem obvious but just opening you mouth and mentioning anything is usually a good start.

the quality of you, is all you need darling go out and get'em.

16. Posted by mtlgal (Full Member 1179 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

If you're not very confident about your looks ("not ugly" is just not good enough, think "hot"), I honestly suggest that you go for a make-over. I do agree with what others have said here. However, it does feel good and it is an ego-booster to be noticed by men and being told that you're beautiful. A lot of girls have the potential to be physically attractive, but they don't seem to have a clue how to dress to flatter their figures, how to do their hair to bring out their features, and how to walk down the street and turn heads. In my experience, if you look good, you'll act and feel more confident, and confidence is very attractive.

17. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4138 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

How about you post a photo and we give you some constructive feedback ?

18. Posted by numero1 (Respected Member 295 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Society has given people such high standards these days it is a big joke!

Just look your best and do your best and that's all that should make you happy.

Also, looking to hook up when you go out these days is not so common anymore. More people are meeting through conventional methods, such as work, courses, study or intros through other people they know.

19. Posted by dannyboy7 (Full Member 167 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

It's all in the eye contact and the smile....i've had the most electric night just sat across the room from somebody...flirting from a distance......just catching someones eye and letting it linger till its slightly uncomfortable and've totally got to be approachable.....most girls seem to think that the boys should do all the work in the early stages to sort of prove there can be hard work so sometimes you just don't bother....a smile can go a long way before you even talk to someone it says a lot.......well i think so me a hopeless romantic if ya like.....ha ha
good luck.x

20. Posted by Odysseas (Full Member 1359 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Don't try to attract.I f you want people to like you,then they don't.Just be you,the best will occur.