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1. Posted by PeteMuzz (Budding Member 51 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Me and my girlfriend are beginning the long task of organising our travelling adventure around australia and surrounding countries.

I have seen that a lot of people advise going alone but i cant imagine going without my girlfriend. We love the same things etc and i dont think there will be any or little issues with trip plans. However will this make it harder to meet people? We do want to travel together but i also hear that most people meet in hostels etc and decided to tag along wherever they are going.... i would love to be able to do that but will it be harder to meet people being a couple?

I know that sounds a bit stupid but i'm not great at making new friends and talking to strangers at the best of times.... is meeting people as easy as everyone say?


2. Posted by road_trip (Full Member 203 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I cant say I've been travelling on my own, so I cant help you with that, but I did go with my ex-ex-girlfriend ;) back in 2004. I would say travelling as a couple did 'hinder' us somewhat in meeting other people. We'd do 'couply' things rather than going out on the piss with other people. It all depends on where you're travelling. For instance we went to Thailand and stayed in a room of our own whereever we went, so meeting people was through other things such as diving and trekking. Ultimately, it is what you make of it. There are loads of like-minded people out there and you wont have too many difficulties, its just some places are easier to meet people than others.

I hope I make sense there??? ;)

3. Posted by dbo (Full Member 34 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Hi PeteMuzz

I too am going backpacking for 10 months with my girlfriend in September.
We had the same kind of thoughts, but I'm hoping that the excitement and buzz of being in foreign climbs with likeminded travellers will make us more willing to get talking to people (I dont think my other half will have a problem anyway to be honest - talking for England comes naturally ).

We were thinking that in hostels for instance, perhaps we try to stay in dorms rather than private rooms? I would have thought that this would infintely increase the likelihood of us making acquaintances. Its our first trip, so not sure if this would make a great deal of odds (do people necessarily meet in Hostels/On trips/On the road?) so if someone knows better then by all means let us know.

I suppose I'm hoping that on the whole there won't be too much discrimination against a couple travelling together. Like everyday life, I gather there will be people who you don't necessarily get along with, but hopefully there will also be the chance to meet people who will become good friends. Who knows what's out there? - You're going on what should be the trip of a lifetime so it's probably not worth worrying about too much.

Good luck with the planning.

4. Posted by helsbells1 (Budding Member 70 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I have done both, travelled alone and with a partner. Of course I met tonnes of people when I was alone as you are kind of forced into having to talk to people. When I was with my partner, we were very strapped for cash so we often stayed in dorms, which I think is where you meet most people. We also met a lot of other couples which was nice at times. All in all, I think it is very hard NOT to meet people when you are travelling, whether you are alone or with a partner, you will always find like minded people to share you experience with!

5. Posted by MerB (Full Member 147 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Meeting people is VERY easy if you stay at a backpackers. And you ARE more inclined/likely to meet new people if you are travelling on your own.

6. Posted by Windmill (Full Member 125 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Hey, i'm doing this too. I think you just need to have a healthy relationship, no secrets, and be able to talk about any issues if and when they crop up. We moved in together because a) we wanted to and b) we knew that if we are going to be spending 18 months plus travelling the world and living out of each other's pants then we should get any potential niggles out of the way first. Funnily enough there have been no niggles!

I think it also helps if you are quite outgoing as a couple and tend to have a varied social scene. We have an active social life (when we have the time at the moment - saving kind of saps away your life) and are quite at ease with new people. I'm a DJ in my spare time and she works in a bar so we're used to quite a mental social circle and having to meet new folk all the time.

Communicate and you'll be a-ok!

7. Posted by Purdy (Travel Guru 3546 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Im going off with my other half in Dec for 4 weeks not a long period travelling but its the longest l can take and want to take off work - need to pay the mortgage! But l would hate if we stayed in dorms - still l will be 32 then and he will be 36 and value our privacy! I know if l want to meet others thats not a problem but at the same time l like my space and like to retreat (even from my other half!) into my own world - update my journal/blog or read.

Meeting people is a frame of mind - its about being approachable and being interested in others - if you are shy this is a huge step to over come. You know those butterflies you get when you speak to a stranger well use them in a postive way - and remember you are no less interesting than some one else.

Its great travelling with someone you are close too, its great to share the wonderful scenery, food and experiences with.

Enjoy your trip - lm jealous - l have to pay a mortgage!!


8. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Whether you go it alone or with your girlfriend, you will meet new people. It's just a given - unless you hide under a bed somewhere. ;) Does your girl-friend have an "out-going" personality? If so, she will draw people into conversations. If not, you still will have a hard time not meeting people. Backpackers are an interesting group of travelers, as they seem to make a point of getting to know other backpackers. It's just been my experience, and we don't backpack! If you are standing somewhere, diligently staring at a map, someone is going to offer assistance. What a great way to break the ice and start a conversation. Chances are, that person will introduce you to someone else and they will have two friends, and they will have two friends... You get the idea...

Forget about meeting people and just begin your journey. You both will be amazed with those who cross your path. And they will cross your path! Enjoy!

9. Posted by Reece Sanford (Travel Guru 1368 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I went travelling with a couple last year BIG MISTAKE
I could of killed both of them and he would of been first.
While i was staying in dorm rooms and meeting so many fantastic people from all over the world,the couple would be holed up in their double room not getting the chance to meet all the people i did.

I always thought before travelling that i wasnt good at meeting new people but how wrong i was.
When we flew into Sydney and arrived at the hostel within 10 minutes i got chatting to a dutch guy and 30 minutes later we were off to watch a football match.
The couple yep there were in their room all night reading magazines and playing on his PSP

10. Posted by PeteMuzz (Budding Member 51 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Hey All

Thank for all the great advice. I do think we will be fine and i truely cant imagine not going and sharing everthing with her! We are both very open people and ready for anything... as long as i go with an open mind and some conversation starters i'm sure i will meet new and interesting people, who will hopefully become friends for life... who knows.