Travelling after a relationship breakup?

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1. Posted by NobodyAtAl (Budding Member 7 posts) 17y Star this if you like it!

I'm new to the forums, sorry for the slightly morbid first post....

Has anyone ever travelled after a relationship breakup? I'm a 26 year old guy and I've just broken up with my girlfriend who I lived with. Like many ( I guess) who break up with someone close to them, I'm feeling pretty lost at the moment, and was thinking about going travelling for 3-6 months.

Has anyone ever done something similar and how did it help you/hinder you? I know everyones different obviously but was just keen to get some response. I want to get away to (apologies for cheesiness) find out more about myself, meet some people, see some places, and build my confidence back up before coming back and starting again.

Any thoughts?

2. Posted by klangeluk (Full Member 146 posts) 17y Star this if you like it!

welcome to tp. yes i think travellin a bit would somehow help ya get thru it as (i'd imagine) it'll keep ya lil busy and keep mind of things..when travel it excites me that it'll give me somethin new n different to look forward to. everyday. good luck

3. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4138 posts) 17y Star this if you like it!

I think going away is the best thing you could do. It will "clear your head" and take you out of the "everyday" and allow you to view/reflect on your life from a different sort of angle.

It's very difficult to make decisions and plans when you are in a familiar environment doing the same old stuff.

Plus, it'll inject some excitment into your life, and it sounds like you could do with a holiday.

Go for it and don't look back

4. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 17y Star this if you like it!

Yes it defo clears your head, it will be just what you need.

I have now forgotten someone who was 'wrong' for me, it went on for far too long, now i have actually met someone which probably helps forgetting someone else but the getting away was what i needed to help with that along with other things.

You can set new goals in your life!

5. Posted by Desiree (Inactive 157 posts) 17y Star this if you like it!

why would it not be wise?

youre heart is broken, but it's still open for new things? like new cities to see, landscapes? you can do some soulsearching, or can write sad poems when it's raining in a depressing place.. and finally the sun comes back and you realize life isn't that bad?

and it's okay to run i guess, and as you win something back with it, running to a new place, especially if you travel by yourself, you'll face yourself again.

6. Posted by joey22 (Respected Member 561 posts) 17y Star this if you like it!

go for it!

i broke up with my girlfriend at 2am in nha trang in vietnam, 2 months into a year long trip through asia. the months after we split up were absolutely superb! the people i met really helped me through it and the places i saw were amazing!

being on the road helped me so much cos i was initially devastated. we had been together for nearly a year and things were fine.... so it came as a major shock.

i don't speak to her any more but in many ways i'm grateful to her for freeing me at a time when i was lucky enough to be away on my dream trip. things always seem to work themselves out and for me that trip was only improved by our split.

i think travelling will be absolutely without doubt the best thing you can do. you will not only learn more about yourself but you will also meet heaps of cool people, including loads of nice girls haha, and have fun.

being away from places that remind you of your girlfriend will also naturally help!

do it my friend and look forwards not back!!!

good luck and keep your head up

joey :)

7. Posted by citybell (Full Member 419 posts) 17y Star this if you like it!

Hi Si,

DOn't worry anymore.I know your feelings and reverbating thoughts of those good times that you had.
Now the oonly way is to keep yourself busy or see new thngs. Travelling to new places is better as you keep busy your mind to new things.
Time is a great when you complete your travel, you will find that you would be better off a person than what youw ere before start of the travel.

Also why don't you think like this:

Breaking up one way could be good so that you get a more BETTER new girl friend? who knows?!!

Cheer up.

8. Posted by Mad4it (Budding Member 26 posts) 17y Star this if you like it!

Do it! There's no better way for you to deal with it. Without a doubt, now is the perfect time for you to go seek sunshine, freedom and friendly faces.

Book your trip dude

9. Posted by helsbells1 (Budding Member 70 posts) 17y Star this if you like it!

I agree with them all, 4 years ago I split up with a boyfriend I was convinced I was going to marry! He cheated on me!!!!
A couple of months later I couldn't stand seeing them everywhere I went to I decided to take myself away from the problem. I went to America for 3 months to stay with a friend, while I was there I went off and did my own thing for a week here and a week there. It completely changed my outlook on life and made me realise what a mistake it would have been to stay.
Since then I have probably spent all of 9 months at home over the past 4 years because as soon as I come home I find somewhere else I want to see, and I know I won't settle untill I have seen the world, and the best thing is that I have never been happier than when I am travelling.
A word of advice though, as you might be able to tell, travelling is addictive! Once you pop you just can't stop!
Good luck and I wish you every happiness!

10. Posted by mim (Respected Member 1276 posts) 17y Star this if you like it!

I was with my ex for about two years when I set off on a three month trip with my best buds. Two months in something was wrong, I could tell, he was weird on the phone and was texting me less...the ferret had cheated on me and didn't hve the guts to tell me.

I lost a stone in about a week from worry I didn't eat couldnt sleep, I was in West India at the time and scratching at the walls to get an early flight home, but I couldn't get one. best thing that ever happened to me.

New places and things slowly helped me take my mind off things, its so good not to be around constant reminders. It was difficult, but I would say being away, with distance is the BEST (no doubts) thing you can do.

so go for it! maybe you'll meet the person of your dreams while your away too?!


take it easy