Travelling after a relationship breakup?

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11. Posted by julesw (First Time Poster 1 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

I think as long as you keep busy whilst travelling and don't let your mind wander. You can explore all the wonderful things in the world and clear your head n hopefully do loads for your confidence whilst meeting a great bunch of people on the way. I'm also planning my travels the end of this year both because i have a passion for travel and because i'd like to clear my head completely and open up a whole new world waiting for me! Jules :)

12. Posted by dannyboy7 (Full Member 167 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

hey mate,
My girl decided to go travelling 6 months ago to south america and it was a dream of hers to do it so i just let her for the past 6 months i've been thru hell,missing her like crazy and bouncing off the walls here....i needed something to take my mind off her so i decided to plan a trip of my own to oz and it's turning out to be the best thing i've ever done...i'm not even going till september but just the planning and sorting everything out has done wonders for my sanity and now i just can't wait to'll give you new focus..honestly...i've never done anything like this before and i'm scared to death about doing it on my own but this site gives you so much inspiration and confidence.....i just wanna go people on here don't realise just how much there opinion really matters and they're the reason i'm definatley doing it now.....go for it mate....lifes too short it really is.
hope you ok coz i now how your feeling.....
come on get yourself to sydney.....

13. Posted by vange (Budding Member 43 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

To be in different places, meeting interesting people along the way, will do wonders in your mind.
I wish you well on your trips.

14. Posted by maridod (Full Member 114 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

A bad relationship is what got me traveling in the first place. I was just starting my sophomore year at uni I was dumped by my then, "love of my life". Needless to say...the next four months were absolute torture. ONe day a friend asked me to study abroad with her in Hawaii. At first I was reluctant and told her..."I can't do that". then she said the best thing anyone has ever told me..."what is keeping you here?" Thats when I realized there was absolutely nothing keeping me in Texas and I went to live in HAwaii with a couple of mates for 5 months. Best decision I have ever made and has led me in completely different direction in my life. Now, I am glad that the relationship tanked, without it...don't think my life would be quite the same!!! Good luck on your travels!!! Hope everything works out for you!!!

15. Posted by SuperBrat (Full Member 106 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

I've always looked at backpackers in awe when I was in my teens, and admired their ability to live what I thought would remain but a dream in my world.

A breakup of the very-bad-kind had me running to this beautiful island in Malaysia, where I met some of the most amazingly down to earth backpackers. They were a laugh, and we all became friends. I found their stories inspiring, and their planning skills very admirable. It made me wonder a)what on earth was stopping me from travelling and b)was I pathetic enough to sit around and mope for the eejit?

So I packed in my job, and left the country within 6 months to travel Europe as a working holidaymaker; with a promise to to leave all excess baggage (of the emotional kind) behind - one of the best decisions I ever made. Europe was amazing. It opened my eyes, and my learning curve was steep and exciting. I cant even begin to say how much fun it was! And what's more, I am now getting married to that very backpacker I met 3 years ago! Hurrayyy!

Someone once told me that it was important to do the things in life that scare you 'cos they're usually the ones that you look back on and say, "I'm glad I did it!"

16. Posted by sugarhigh (Full Member 25 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

Yes, i believe this is one of the best ways to move on, based on experience.

I travelled on impulse a few days after a breakup sometime in 2001, and while i was away (the place had no cellular phone coverage) it gave me the time to reflect on where things went wrong, and how unhealthy the relationship actually was without the distraction of messages, phone calls, or the distress of "why isnt he calling?". The period shortly immediately after a breakup is the hardest part of all, because you cannot focus on anything else other than your hurt. Its safe to say that you are not being sensible, and is very much prone to just entertaining getting back together instead of addressing the situation at hand just to sedate yourself. It gave me a preview of how i WILL be okay and so much better on my own, and believe it or not, i was so much better after the trip, and i could safely say that it was THE reason why i healed a lot faster than i expected.

Hope this helps. :)

17. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

A relationship breakup led me to moving house and meeting a fantastic friend who made me realise travelling alone was totally possible. If I hadn't met her, I don't know if I'd have ever gone anywhere!!!! I also made a lovely bunch of friends that way.

But, it also made me realise that for a long while I'd been stuck with a horrible bully, and i'd never let that happen again....And I think especially travelling alone increases your confidence no end.... Its brilliant!!!

18. Posted by beckymason (First Time Poster 1 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

Hi....I have recently split up with my partner of three years while traveling and continued to travel on my own. Its amazing, i feel like a new person...confident and independant. I strongly suggest traveling as a remedy!! Go for it!!

19. Posted by ashleym66 (Budding Member 15 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

I agree with everyone above. I broke up with an ex of 2 years a couple months before i left for a 3 month trip around southeast asia. i was in no mind frame to meet anyone, i just wanted to clear my head and get my bearings. i ended up meeting an amazing english bloke. less then a year after coming home i am now living in england (moved from canada) living with him and couldnt be more happy. go for it and leave everything behind, enjoy yourself! you never know whats out there waiting to be discovered.

20. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

quoting Clarabell
it also made me realise that for a long while I'd been stuck with a horrible bully,

Excuse my earlier post (drunken) post its unfair- an exaggeration, but yeah, I realised it was a bad relationship, I deserved better and that most of all....

All you need is fresh air, mates and a smile!!!