quarter life crisis?

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1. Posted by bink (Budding Member 20 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

Hi all,
Thought I'd introduce myself - I'm Bianca
So I hit the big 30 last week! Hoorah. 10 months ago I looked at life and thought this just isn't enough for me. So I sold my flat, left my partner, and jacked my job in... well why do things by halves?
Didn't want to get caught up in that work, work, marry, become a baby making machine, work, work, die thing. So I've planned a great trip and leave on May 17th!
Is this a quarter life crisis? Or am I still a sane rational human being? Who cares, it's gonna be a hoot!!!
Bianca x

2. Posted by tingo (Full Member 94 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

I think I'm going through the same process as you, but I'm 5 years longer. Just started working in January, and I have to say that it really depresses me. I don't think the normal life work, buy a car, marry, buy a house is something for me... I even went to a shrink to talk about this stuff. He told me that working in a company is maybe nothing for me as I can't stand to have a boss, and that I should consider to start working on my own....
After watching fight club again this weekend, I'm even more convinced to kick my boss's ass :)

3. Posted by bink (Budding Member 20 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

thanks, I didn't want to be the only nutter out there!
I'm so excited about my trip, and don't regret any of my decisions over the last year.
Some of my friends think it's madness....isn't the definition of madness doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result?
Steel toe caps for that arse kicking! But beware, it may result in you being sacked.

4. Posted by tingo (Full Member 94 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

I'm sure there are much more people like you out there, but most of them don't have the guts to do what you did!
Doing the same stuff every day is what makes me mad, I need some adventure in my life!

Maybe being sacked is what I want :)

5. Posted by Rach-a (Respected Member 368 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

Yes I'd say a 'quarter life crisis' is probably a good way of describing it. I'm 25 now and haven't done half what I want to do and there's a lot of world out there that I want to see also. I'd say that you are definitely not alone in feeling that way. I have been 9 years in a pen pushing job - (not the same one mind) and know that it is not for me now. I have recently tired of the partying in my own home town and realised that nearly all mates are either married now or having babies. I am not mentally prepared for either :) and so have decided to venture out into the unknown - travel the world. I have travelled short term plenty of times - however the odd holiday is now not enough for me. My mum and Dad whom although I have a good relationship with, fail to understand both my sense of adventure and my wild ways
However they have slowly got used to the idea that I am not ready for that getting married, having babies, paying mortgage type scenario and am ready for adventure, travel, meeting new people, having fun.

Anyway have comfort in knowing that you are not alone.

6. Posted by SurfDude (Budding Member 17 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

yeahyeah people, I've got this kind of crisis every week! And once in, let's say, four months it's getting bad. I just have to take action then, this ussaly results in short trips to towns like Budapest or Praha. I go alone, so non of my friends can bug me, and Im completely open to the vibe of the town. Lovely! Meet new people, party hard, see all the lovely culture that my own little dutch town hasn't got, and it's great. It doesn't cost much eighter. Just the remedy for me. But that's propably easy for me to say, cause Im still a student and haven't got the obligations of a job or a family. My advice would be just to leave for a month during your summer break, and explore other parts of the world, perhaps it provides you with enough inspiration to get you trough your pains at work? But again, what would I know. A 9 till 5 job would probably kill me in the first few months! Dirty is the road of life!

Greetz Jasper

7. Posted by SurfDude (Budding Member 17 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

What I'd like to ad to that......I mean as I said Im still a student and don't have a regular job yet.....but for me this 'crisis' has more to do with, for a moment, being totaly fed up with everything around you....and that includes friends, people you love, your hometown etc. It's not like you stop liking them or something but I mean, everything you;ve gathered around you during your life, just doesn't seem to inspire you anymore. Which kinda scares me, and makes me pretty restless. But again, just taking off and leave for a while, trowing yourself into new adventures can bring you new perspectives. But I wonder wether I would be just as brave as Bianca to quite my job and throw out my partner at that vital point in your life...Anyway, I've got lot's of respect for it! Make the best of it and let the road inspire u!...Cheers Jasper

8. Posted by bink (Budding Member 20 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

Thanks you two!
Finding this site a few days ago made me realise just how many people want to get up and go. Good for them I'd say.
When I was 20 I had some ideas of the things I wanted to do and achieve by the time I was 30. I managed to do most of them...loads of travel (NZ, OZ, HK, singapore, kuwait, Dubai, cyprus, greece, plus package holidays in rest of Europe) bungy jumping, white water rafting, skiing, a great gang of close friends, graduating etc etc.

Maybe I should start a new thread, things to do before your 40.
My list would include:
Backpacking through Europe for up to a year (that's happening in less than a month)
Learning to scuba dive
Being fluent in another language (not just being able to ask for a few beers and the bill!)
I'd love to do a tandem sky dive, even though I'd probably crap myself!
Buy a vineyard, and work there
Or alternatively run my own wine bar somewhere beautiful. Tingo your right working for other people sucks, I'd love to be my own boss!
As well as all the usual things we all want in our lives-

That should keep me busy for a couple of years, it might need adjusting, but that's the fun of life, you never truly know what's around the corner.

9. Posted by bink (Budding Member 20 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

when I say 'crisis' it's pretty tongue in cheek. I'm not a 50 year old man that cashes in his pension to buy a sports car to impress the ladies...the classic mid life crisis!
I'm inspired and excited by my plans, and although they may sound a tad reckless, they're not really. My boss will always take me back even after a year (i hope not to have to take him up on this offer) my fella, well, everything has it's natural expiry date, but we're good friends still. My family and friends will still be here when I return, so there will always be clothes on my back, food on the table and a roof over my head.
So when deciding to go away, the question I asked myself was 'why not?' My life here will still be here, but I might just be a better person for expanding my horizons. If I stay I'll turn around at 40 and think, shit I wished I'd had the guts to do it when I had no responsibilities, no kids, no husband and mortgage etc etc. Plenty of time for all that.

Binx x