New to site. Questions for my wife.

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1. Posted by 98sport (First Time Poster 1 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Hey there guys and gals, I am new to this site and honestly do not travel very much. The reason I am writing you is my wife is thinking about taking a job in India only for 3 months. I am of course knowing nothing about India but what I have seen on the new ecspecially recently and am extremely nervous. I have read about Women in India and how they should dress and remain indoors after hours and such and quite frankly I am extremely nervous for her to go. Is it safe?

I do not know yet where she will be staying or going but should know by tomorrow and will post up as soon as I find out. The benefit of this job is she will make ALOT of money in a short amount of time. The bad is she will be horribly missed and we don't know anything about India. My wife is a good hearted and natured Christian women who believes people are inheritantly good natured. This of course worries me because not everyone is like she is. I of course feel this makes her more vulnerable.

I will post up when I know where she is going to be for sure but I just thought I would say hi and give you a heads up on my situation first. She hasn't done alot of research on the web about India and I told her I would as I know Forums can be great and offer great advise as well. Thanks all.

2. Posted by Sam I Am (Admin 5588 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I don't think you really have much to worry about, although I can see your reason for concern based on the news the last few days. It's important to remember just how insanely big India is. It's like worrying about something which is happening in New York when you live in LA. There are certain parts of India which I guess are not recommended for travellers, but most of the big cities would be just as safe as any other city in the world (in this day and age terrorism occurs nearly regardless of country, see Bali/New York/Madrid etc.).

I have never been to India but share an office with a business that sends about 100 or so students there every year. They've never had a problem (the majority of them are 20-30 year old Norwegian women) and that is in over 6 years....

It'd be important to know where she will be working, but I am assuming it will be in a big city and a lot of the details will be taken care of by the company (housing etc.).

There's a lot of Indians on the forums here and I'm sure some of them will be able to chip in with more advice!


ps. if she is making enough to cover two, try and go with her. It's a great experience to be living in another country for a period like this! I know I'd try

3. Posted by flo jo (Respected Member 414 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I bagpacked Rajastan for three months, with three friends, when i was 18 years old. We used train and public transport been to big cities and remote areas, and never had a problem as long as I was wearing sensible clothes. I mean shorts not too short and top covering my shoulders.

Indians do stare at foreigners, especially women, but if you wear decent clothes, they wont go at you at all. I had much more trouble in africa, arabic countries and japan than in India.

As Sam said nowdays you cant be 100% safe in any countries, so it shouldn´t narrowed your opportunities or they will have win the first battle.

Try to go with if you can It´s a fabulous country.

[ Edit: Edited at Jul 14, 2006 4:37 AM by flo jo ]

4. Posted by traveler1 (Full Member 190 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

don't think you need to worry . . its as safe/unsafe as any other country in the world. . this does not meant to say that one need not be cautious & vigilant . . it would help if she could browse whats life's going to be here before hitting this place and getting a shock.. i see many posts on people loving India and a few can't digest the diversity and dichotomy co-existing.

do let me know where in india is she going to be working and shall let you know more.

try picking a lonely planet guide on india . . the intro part gives you a good overall view on life .. do's & don'ts

think you need to chill & not be worried and as Sam said if you could manage 3months here...just do it


5. Posted by priteesh06 (First Time Poster 1 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

hi 98sport i m from india and also have been in different places.actually there is nothing to worry but if you are coming for some purpose you have to see if you are doing depends where you stay and what kind of job you ll be doing and with whom you have to deal with.i have been to goa delhi calcutta bombay and now in chennai.i belongs to bhubaneswar.i dont think there is anthing to worry about in general.if you have anyperticular place in mind you can write me back.

6. Posted by raj369 (First Time Poster 1 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

india is much safer than many countries for women but it depends on where you stay ...if she is going to stay in a big city , its better to take paying guest accommodation fro safety. if its ina small place better take a flat for rent in good locality.

[ Edit: Sorry, no promos please... ]

7. Posted by Rudradeb (Budding Member 22 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I have lived in India all my life. I think you have no reason to worry in sending your wife out to India. As has been repeatedly stated in the previous posts, India is as safe as any other country. There are, ofcourse, regions that are best avoided such as Kashmir but I doubt that your wife would be posted there! The larger cities like Delhi, Calcutta, Bombay, Bangalore and Madras (Chennai) are very cosmopolitan and emancipated and you regularly see women in tank tops and mini skirts. Calcutta is by far the safest of the big cities. In Delhi, it is better to avoid empty public transport after 10 p.m. Bombay stays awake till 2 a.m. and unsecorted women are regularly out by themselves on the streets. There are wolves everywhere but overall, I'd say she'd be safer in India than say, in New York.

8. Posted by Eyejive (Budding Member 2 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I spent a month working in Calcutta last year. I had never been to Aisa before and felt nervous about travelling alone as a woman. However, when I had got used to the culture shock I felt safer than I did in my home town in the UK.
I had a couple of encounters with guys hassling me when i was out but I was polite but firm in telling them to move on and never felt threatened by them more irritated!
Calcutta is a city of extremes I both love and hate. It is such a vibrant, intresting place and the people in general were warm and friendly eager to know where your from and what it's like.
The most shocking aspect for me was the extreme povety and pollution.
Indians are very philosopical and laid back. I on the other hand am really impatient at times and expect things to be done in certain ways. So at first my time in India made me very frustrated but then I slowed down and learned to go with the flow and things became much easier and I more relaxed.
I wish your wife a wonderful time. She will certainly have some stories to tell.
India is a place that never leaves you I can be walking down the road in the UK and ceratin smells will transport me right back, with fond memories.

9. Posted by traveler1 (Full Member 190 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

many of my friends who have come down to india have the same sentiment as Andrea.. so i am sure your wife will be fine..

u still haven't got back on where she's going to be?

"Indians are very philosopical and laid back."

wouldn't agree with that Andrea, thats probably a trait of the city of Calcutta...each city quite different from the other..dnt know if u have been to bombay...u would be speaking exactly the opposite

10. Posted by Seagul (Budding Member 2 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Hello everybody: I'm new to this forum but since I see a post regarding visit to India, I thought I'll post my views as well.

India is a safe place to travel as said in all the previous posts.However, it would be wiser to avoid a few places like kashmir and a few more sensitive areas.I'd say southern indian till bombay shouldnt be of any concerns. To just make it extra safe, you could ask her to move around with co-workers from office or use the hotel cab service all the while.People here are generally very cordial (sometimes you may find them too nosy :-) ) but there are a few odd ones who could be troublesome too.I'm from Bangalore and do let me know if you need any info from this part of the world.