multicultural marriage

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1. Posted by Kathi20 (Respected Member 270 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Since we've arrived in Austria (my homecountry) I've been thinking a lot about people who are married to someone with a different nationality (from a different country).

My husband (South African) and I have been through a lot (visas/permits and all that crap) and sometimes I wonder, what it is like for other couples.

We've been living in Austria for 1,5 months and I have never observed the situation in my homecountry about 'foreigners' that much before. I'm actually very dissapointed in many of 'my folks' here and can't believe what's sometimes happening.

I guess it depends a lot on the country you live in... when we lived in NZ it was the most natural thing in the world... two people with different nationalities getting married...

well, I'm not really good at putting my thoughts into words tonight, but maybe somone will know what I'm trying to say...
would be nice to hear, what your experience have been like. (finding work for ur partner, language barriers- here nearly everyone is afraid of speaking English)

Just one thing I still find funny: people here think that my husband is black, but they never dare to ask. If they dare and I tell them that he's actually white, they look at me in surprise. Also this one guy, who then said to me: 'But he's at least a little bit brown, isn't he?'

that's all for today

2. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

In Northern Ireland, "mixed marriage" means a marriage between a Catholic and a Protestant. I guess it's all relative.

My b/f, who's from Belfast, will be moving to Monteral sometime in the forseeable future (at last!), but since he speaks French and the city is extrmely multi-cultural, I don't expect any poblems. He's been here on lengthy stays and simply blended right in. He also worked here for a year, on a student visa, so he has work experience and a year's stay under his belt to help with immigration. I don't really know what to expect from the whole process, though.

Keep posting - I'd love to hear more!

3. Posted by Kathi20 (Respected Member 270 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I'm so sick of it...

my husband recieved his 'residence permit' (valid for a year which allows him to stay and work here) 2 weeks ago and since then I've been trying to find work for him. He doesn't care what hours, what type of job, nothing.

But people do mind here. No matter what job it is (washing dishes, cleaning etc.) they want people to speak perfect German. OK, in some areas I understand, but not in all of them.
The worst is, that most people even can't explain, why it is important to them and why they need someone with perfect language skills (that he speaks English doesn't count) and I thought it is good to be bi(tri) lingual...

I think as soon as they hear that he has a permit, they know that he is a foreigner, and the German word for that (Ausländer) has a really negative touch here. So today when I was on the phone again, talking to people, who wanted to know where he was from, I immediately told them, that he was a white South African. A person, who is willing to do any type of job, who is trying to integrate himself, accept and respect austrian people the way they are and start a new life with his wife...but it still doesn#t change, that he is a 'foreigner'...:(