Am I mad??

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1. Posted by Neily03 (Full Member 110 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

After splitting from my Girlfriend of 4.5 years and being in the same job for nearly 9 years I'm currently saving my ass off with a view to go to New Zealand for a couple of months in October next year then onto Oz for a year or two with a WHV. This is the biggest decision I've ever had to make and I'm 70% convinced i want to do it but then there's this bit of me thats afraid of the change... I currently work for my Dad and while he wouldn't stop me from going he may be a little disappointed if/when i hand my notice in, plus I've pretty much got a job for life but now I'm not sure thats what i want...

I've been working out my finances and at my current rate I'd have at least £6k saved up by October and i reckon i could get about £8k for my car then too, so I'd have roughly £14k to in my bank so the money isn't a problem.

At this stage I'd be going on my own too as i don't know anyone who could/would come with me, at first the thought of going alone put me right off but then i though, I'm 26 for Christ sake, there's no reason not to go alone....

Any words of wisdom? ;)

2. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

GO!!! Even if it's alone!!! Hell, you're half my age and I would go - alone. You never know what/who you'll find during your adventures!!! Your dad will get over the disappointment when he hears about all the wonderful things you have seen and done. In the end, it you want to go back to work for him - you know you will probably be welcomed with open arms. But, at 26, do what's best for you and not necessarily for your dad. He'll be jealous, but most parents are when their children are able to do more than they did at that age. He loves you - he'll understand you need to follow the path of your own life. (Hint: bring back something that is just for him that is very special.) ;)

ps: NO, you are not mad!

[ Edit: Edited at Nov 18, 2006 1:09 PM by Isadora ]

3. Posted by Neily03 (Full Member 110 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

The thing with my job is that I'm the only who does it now so if i go they'd need to find a replacement before i finish or they'd be in the shit.... which means that i wouldn't have a job to come back to..... although that may not be a bad thing....

I'm really up for going though, gotta look out for number 1 an all that!

The thought of it does scare the crap out of me though..... just the fear of change and the unknown i guess... at least I've got plenty of time to think about it.

4. Posted by aarantes (Respected Member 165 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I make Isadora word's mine. Go! We only regret the things we don't do. When I was eighteen I had the opportunity to travel for six months before college, but I did not go cause I was in looove. I wish I had gone. Now that I'm 30 I came to live in Portugal with my husband. We make less money than we would in Brazil, but I do not regret it for a minute. Sometimes it's hard, but it's been a great experience. I know I'm not alone, but sometimes I wish I had this travelling alone experience. So take this opportunity. Your father will be sad, but it would be a lot worse if the fact of you leaving made him happy! ;)

Think of what you'd like to tell you grandchildren. I stayed home and had a job or I conquered the world?!

Good luck!


5. Posted by Neily03 (Full Member 110 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I'm pretty sure i'm gona go for it! I'm seriously unhappy where i am in life now and i need a change and to see things and meet some new people.... I've got alot more reasons to go than i have to stay.

6. Posted by Neily03 (Full Member 110 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Come to think of it the only reason i have to stay is family..... and its not like they'd hate me for it.....

7. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Do the old "Ask yourself..." thing:

Ask yourself how you'd feel in 10 years knowing you went.
Ask yourself how you'd feel in 10 years knowing you didn't.

Travelling alone is a unique experience - I'm a pretty quiet person and yet I love travelling alone and I always end up meeting lots of people. You'll discover a whole new side of yourself by standing up to the challenge. And even if you are a little mad, it makes life that much more interestng.

8. Posted by Neily03 (Full Member 110 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

To me its one of things thats easier not to do than do, i could just carry on as i am, secure job, roof over my head and all that.... but i'm beginning to realise none of that makes me happy and i don't really need any of it. Well, i'm putting £600 a month into a savings account and if i still want to do it i'll apply for my visa in May, then book flights and hand my notice in at work....

[ Edit: Edited at Nov 20, 2006 6:28 AM by Neily03 ]

9. Posted by My Horizon (Budding Member 429 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

I think this idea of yours is brilliant! Who knows who you will meet and where you could land up in the end? Going alone shouldn't be a negative at all. I was over in England for awhile and I travelled (whenever I could) alone and still had a ball. You can make ur own decisions on where to go and how long you should stay etc. and its not as if you'll be isolated especially if you stay in hostels!

Remember that your family will still be there when you get back. The job seem to have an important role in ur dads business so you must have some good experience behind you. It shouldn't hopefully be too hard to get a job in the same field (if thats what you want) when you get back.

Otherwise go for it,u won't regret it...and have fun! :)

10. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Neil - I have a feeling you had made your decision (in your head) already and just looking for like-minded people to give you some support and share your "fear" of the unknown. I can't think of a single member who will tell you to stay home, be miserable and miss all the wonderful things awaiting your arrival. ;)

At my age, I wish I would have grabbed more of the chances to travel that passed my way. I don't regret what I have done, just what I let slip through my fingers. Now, Beerman and I grab every chance we can afford to be somewhere other than here...

ps: I'd be more apt to think you mad as a hatter if you didn't go. But, we all have our own level of madness. Mine just runs a bit deeper than most...

[ Edit: Edited at Nov 20, 2006 8:48 AM by Isadora ]