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1. Posted by JAY_H (Full Member 69 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Ive been planning my trip for such a long time now that im not sure what to do. My friend has said she wants to come with me but im just not sure if maybe it would be a better experience if i went on my own.

From your experience, what would you do next time if you could go again?

If you read this and dont have time to answer please even leave a small answer (ie. Alone/With mate) because i want to see what most people would recomend as i want to do it right.
or big comment, up to you

Thanks for any advice you guys are GREAT!!
Jay x

2. Posted by paul j (Respected Member 217 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

This is interesting for me aswell , I`m doing it on my own and have been planning it for a year ,so the thought of somebody tagging along with me from home(after me surging up the balls to go at it by myself)would be disappointing i think.

3. Posted by JAY_H (Full Member 69 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

So you understand what i mean?? I do get along with her loads we have such a laugh but there is something telling me to do it alone, im so undecided on what to do. I think im a bit scared aswell
Thats why ive decided to let you guys on travellerspoint decide for me
Please help!!!

4. Posted by ronigurl (Inactive 12 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I always thought travelling alone is better than travelling with friends back home. You can roam around in your own terms without the demands of having to look out for others if they are having fun or not...that is such a nuisance to me...
Anyway, you do meet lotsa people on your way and be with them for sometime and have no obligation to stay or travel with them. This is such a leap for a woman like me you know travelling alone but I am liking it so far....

5. Posted by daveh (Travel Guru 1027 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Go alone. For me, the beauty of travelling alone is you can be completely selfish, do what you want to do and when you want to do it and then when you get home you have no regrets.

You can always meet up with her for a while somewhere, but i'm sure she would understand your reasons for doing it alone.

6. Posted by jordanx (Budding Member 9 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I know this is a bit different but it may help.

I have lived in Phoenix Arizona most of my life and recently decided that it was time for a change. I decided to move to Boston. I knew that Boston was expensive and that a roommate would surely help the situation. A friend of mine said she would move with me but, like you, something deep down told me to go it alone. In the end I followed my gut instincts and went a lone and I am SO glad I did. I have made this move the best experience ever and looking back there are some things that would have been done differently if I werent alone, things that I would have want to have done differently : )


7. Posted by danalasta (Respected Member 519 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I make more friends travelling alone, almost in every "port of call". I see more...My early travel experience tells me that having someone tagging along tend to put a lot of restrictions on your movement, also have had some bad moments.


8. Posted by Laura_B (Respected Member 352 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

There are pros & cons for both.

If you go alone, you can do exactly as you please, you are on your own agenda. You'll probably get a lot more out of your trip as you'll have to make more of an effort. It'll be more of a challenge but you will achieve a lot more.

If you go with your friend, you'll always have some company, it's great to share those "wow this is an amazing place" moments. Going with a friend will really test the friendship, you may become even better friends at the end or you may even fall out!

I've never done the travel thing on my own, but think that I could do it alone if my bf decided not to come with me.

9. Posted by dbchase53 (Full Member 88 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Hi Jay,

Just a purely practical point. I have been helping some keen photographers recently to get around Cambodia and they tend to prefer to travel alone. One problem they have encountered however is that in some places with little public transport the odd place they would like to get to (which really requires a car) becomes unaffordable to them travelling alone.

So many costs are shared when travelling with a friend:

Most accommodation, whether upscale or simple guesthouse makes little concession for the single traveler; charging virtually the same for twin or single occupancy.

If you decide to take a local expert guide anywhere to get a deeper insight into the place then the costs are halved

Any taxi cost is halved

Even some meal costs are cheaper as you can share and try different things without having to over-order.

I know these are really BORING practical points but so many people travel as long as funds permit that to watch those funds can make all the difference to finding that next special place.

Hope this helps


10. Posted by stiltskin (Full Member 45 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I travelled in South East Asia for about 9 months on my own before deciding to stay on in Cambodia for an extra year. I had the most amazing time travelling on my own, and as many of the other replies here have said, the freedom is addictive and it's somehow so much easier to meet people when you're on your own. However, after a while I got a bit jealous of the people travelling with friends or partners - it was just that thing of having someone who had shared all of your experiences while travelling. When you're travelling on your own, it's only you that remembers it afterwards. A bit random I know, but that was what struck me as an important difference.