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11. Posted by carosterns (Respected Member 159 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Thanks Clarabell. I managed to survive trudging around the world by myself this long, I'm sure I will find a way to settle back into a routine. At least having read about other peoples experiences,I have an idea what to expect.

12. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Don't quit travelling.

Sounds daft, but most people get home and just stop. To my mind, thats the worst thing you can do. Plan to be going away every weekend/ever other weekend for a bit, even if just day trips. Explore you local area etc. That way, your brain/body will be able to adapt more slowly. It's amazing how much difference a weekend away in somewhere which is just 50km away, but you've never really been to before, can make, as you slowly adapt to the change.

Having said that, i don't even know what "home" is, so i probably have skewed views...

13. Posted by Kathi20 (Respected Member 270 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Going away every weekend or so...

We would love to do that and that's whay I wanna know: how do people do that? We've just arrived, got sorted with jobs easily, needed a car to get to work, busy paying it off, luckily living with my parents, so there's no rent to pay (yet).

As Europe is so expensive the money just seems to dissapear really fast (but we are having a really simple lifestyle), so...

How do you guys do it?

I guess I'll have to start another post, about saving money and what for (your own flat/house/further trips etc.) as I'm not sure what I want from my future...

having our own house and travelling the world at the same time is not gonna work out, without winning the lotto...

14. Posted by Budai (Respected Member 506 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!


i really agree with u about the finances. personally in not from a very well off family and being in a less developed country myself, i dont exactly earn USD, so for me backpacking is not exactly a cheap hobby. Im going 18 so i guess im supposed to be contributing to my familys finances instead of spending it travelling the world so theres a real dilemma here to pursue my dreams or be a more "filial" son ( as we tend to emphasise in eastern cultures ) and spend more of the pay on the family. My dad is near retirement, and id have to pay for university, so i guess my indochina tour will have to be my last trip at least for the next 5/6 years which will be really tough financially.

About the going home part, ive left home since 11 to study alone abroad, and going home after 6 years and spending each day doing the same ole stuff and getting a job lugging stuff around for peanuts, helping around the house is really soul deadening stuff. But like you guys mentioned, its like you see home and people with different perspectives, and while it was a refreshing change initially, i soon got sick at the general apathy and cynicism, even opulence i saw as opposed to say the warmth and hospitality of the Karen tribesmen in Burma, or the natives of Borneo, when they had next to nothing.

My lifelong dream has been to travel, and hopefully once i sort out the finances i can continue pursuing this dream....

15. Posted by oslaue (Full Member 571 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

i lived in the uk for nearly 4 years!

i returned to ireland for a few months and i quickly adapted! after a couple of months it doesnt feel like i even left home! everyone still about doing the same crap!

this just encourages me to leave and live somewhere else new in the world again! australia!!!

though been home has a very nice feeling of comfort! and its nice to see my family on a daily basis!

but its true, everyone is different! sometimes been away from home teaches you to appreciate in how lucky you are! and that maybe home for you is the best country.

i have lived in scotland, england, ireland (my home) im trying to find which is the best country to live in...so far its ireland, not cos its my home...i hate scotland for its weather, england for its people, now i move to australia, if i dont like then i move to canada...really simple!

16. Posted by mattcarr87 (Budding Member 19 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Kathi20's comments about people not being open minded are obviously true here, as you obviously don't like the English people. I am only half English but comments like that are just ignorant and downright silly.

17. Posted by mattcarr87 (Budding Member 19 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

When I say you I am refering the Irish person's comment made above mine.

18. Posted by oslaue (Full Member 571 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

i have nothing against the english...i am just saying you are more likely to see an annoying fool over there than in any other country.

a bit like, you are more likely to see someone drunk on the streets here in our main streets of dublin than london.

i do have english friends...they agree.

i am still trying to find out what the royals family role is in the uk?...and i am wondering why scotland wants to break from the uk now? hmmmmmm

anyway what is an english person today? the normal english person today isnt actually an english person...go to london and he was most likely brought and raised up in another country and moved to england 5 years ago and got a passport and calls himself...a english man!...

19. Posted by Kathi20 (Respected Member 270 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

If you are Irish and you go and live in Britain, is that such a big difference? I mean if I went to live in germany, ok it's still a different country, but for me it doesn't really count as an 'living abroad' experience.

I know Britain and Ireland (or Nothern Ireland and Ireland) is not the same at all, but if you lived in Londonderry (only an example) which is just over the 'boarder' in Northern Ireland (if I remember correctly as I was on a bus, being 17 and wanting to show my passport) and then someone moves to Dublin, would you say he moved to a 'foreign country'?

20. Posted by oslaue (Full Member 571 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

my belief with northern ireland is that it has always been part of the republic of ireland...by government status and political status it is not...but by people status it is...

living a couple of hours drive away i do not regard as living in another country, if i lived in austria and i am hour from my home which is in germany, then i dont regard that as living in another country.

living in a foreign country is about not seeing your family, friends, culture changes etc not having that comfort as you once had. if you only live a couple of hours drive away then most likely you see your family and friends on a daily basis.

if ireland was not seperated by water with the uk then i would not call it, living in different countrys.

biggest change for me living in england was people! that was a change that i was not used to, also much busier, stressful and they work longer hours there...all stuff that i was not used to.

heres one for you kathi
germany / austria? i wouldnt imagine there is a huge difference? after all both countrys speak the same language!

anyway these days i find it easy to adapt in other countrys...i have lived in scotland, england, wales, of course ireland and france...each country is different in its own ways. in france for me and were i was...night life was non-existent...and i found that there was nothing to do at night...this was in a city called toulouse which is known to have lots of students...for me the place was boring! some nice things to see during the day...i was stuck there for a while as i was working there.