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1. Posted by daniG (Budding Member 24 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

hi everyone
i know that there is probably nothing any of you can say, but just wondering if anyone out there has felt the same way...

I have just arrived in sydney about 10 hours ago, after leaving home in scotland to fly all the way over here. My hostel is a bit of a dump and although there is loads of activities going on, the people there all seem to have their own groups of friends. I'm travelling alone, and presumed it would be really easy to make friends out here, and i know its only my first day, but everyone seems really unfriendly! I had counted on making friends there so i could spend new year with them as out hostel all goes a big group to the harbour.

I know i am tired from the long flight, but i am thinking that i have made a big mistake in coming out here by myself....

2. Posted by Degolasse (Travel Guru 823 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I think you should give it a bit more than 10 hours before you declare yourself lonely and everyone else unfriendly. You'll meet people, don't worry. And don't be intimidated by groups at hostels. Chances are, they all just met each other yesterday and are perfectly willing to have another join their group.
Make sure you join any activites that the hostel organizes so that you have a way to meet people. However, no matter what you do, meeting people is ultimately up to you. Have you put in an effort to meet them? Have you even talked to them? Although after a while of travelling the small talk gets repetitive, there are tried and tested openers to use in the hostels for meeting people. Things like, "Where are you from?", "How long have you been down here in Oz?"....It all starts the same and belive me you'll get sick of asking and hearing these questions, but they make great opening lines in hostels. Give it a go and relax and have fun.

3. Posted by Neily03 (Full Member 110 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Wana swap?? Wish i was in Sydney but i'm home and fookin bored out my mind!! Can't wait til i go away next year!!

4. Posted by cde3879 (Full Member 142 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Don't worry mate, if you've only been there 10 hours then you will still be really jetlagged and a bit more sensitive than normal. There will be plenty of other people in your position though - all you need to do is ask a group if they mind you joining them for a drink and you'll be so surprised how welcoming everyone is, even if they're already part of a group.

Enjoy your trip :)

5. Posted by dannyboy7 (Full Member 167 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I feel for you took me a couple of days to get into it and you'll be surprised just how many people are on there own...once you get chatting to people you'll see that they there in the same situation..... you've gotta remember your out of your comfort zoneand in a new country and it takes a while to relax.join in with the activities at the hostel,it's the best might feel weird at first but loads of others are probably feeling the same way....honest.
you just need to keep a smile on your face and be approachable.
have a great turned out to be the best experience of my life...have fun.

6. Posted by carosterns (Respected Member 159 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Hang in their daniG, it will get better. I ageee with Degolasse, ask the good ole "Where are you from" and if that doesn't start a good conversation where have you been and/or where are you going always get things started. And as well as getting the chitchat start, you may pick up some usefull pointers on places to go.

Give it a day or two and you will be loving it. Trust us.

7. Posted by aharrold45 (Travel Guru 1281 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

10 hours and you already feel lonely! I have done a couple of big trips now, and I still can't see how people can possibly get lonely after such a short amount of time. Just hang in there and things will improve.

If you were feeling lonely after just 10 hours when making this post, you won't want to go to bed early and then sleep in late, because you'll have been away from talk for over 10 hours and that'd make you extremely lonely ;)

Doing all that small talk that Degolasse said works a treat, as does going on as many of the small tours that some hostels have.

Expect a lot of hostels to be dumps, because as a general rule the saying "you get what you pay for" applies. So if you want good quality places well you often will need to pay big amounts of money which in Sydney amounts to rediculously high amounts of money.

Travel by yourself is the best way to go, because then if you find a shitty place, get shitty travel buddies, don't like a city a lot, you can move on without having to take in others considerations. Travelling with someone will often result in a trip being partly ruined with you wanting to do one thing and the other person not, you wanting to stay in better accommodation and the other person thinks the places you are staying at is good and you get the drift. Probably by now having been a couple of days since you posted, you would have discovered that you have made the right choice and you'll be having a great time now.

8. Posted by Chix (Full Member 114 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I had a similar moment myself a few years ago...I went over to New Zealand to live with a family that I knew there. 5 months later I was having a fantastic time but it was nearly time to head home. Before I did, I decided to hop on the kiwi experience round the South Island to do some sightseeing. The first day I got on the bus everyone else knew each other because they'd been round the North Island together...and because I'd booked my hostel in advance (it gets busy in Wellington), when we arrived at our destination for the night, they were staying somewhere else and I was all alone in the YHA, sharing a room with a group of drunk girls who also all knew each other. Inside I was totally panicking and the next morning I could barely eat my breakfast, I was so nervous. But...I made eye contact with everyone who crossed my path, said hi to everyone and asked those typical traveller questions 'where are you from?' 'where are you going' etc etc and soon made friends....some of which I'm still in touch with 6 years later. So...this will no doubt be the best thing you've ever done, but you've got to give it a chance and make an effort to talk to people, no matter how homesick you feel. If you're a bit intimidated by the people in groups that seem to know each other, wait until you see someone in the hostel alone (strangely, hostel kitchens are a good place for getting chatting to someone- even if only about the poor state of the facilities!) and start up a conversation. Just make yourself approachable and you'll be fine! Even if (and this won't happen) you don't meet anyone, just grab your lonely planet and set off for an adventure of you're own - the beauty of travelling alone is that you can go see exactly what you want, when you want and don't have to worry about anyone else. Sydney is an awesome place with loads of stuff to do so go wander round the aquarium, walk to harbour bridge or get a paper and sit in a cafe watching the world go by and feeling proud of yourself for going on this big adventure. Good luck!!

9. Posted by brittchic8 (Full Member 33 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

In Sydney I did find some people in hostels really unwelcoming to new people but I find if theres a comunal room and alcohol in the hostel then its usually a good ice breaker.
Wheres the Hostel? not Kings cross I hope?

10. Posted by ciannone (Budding Member 33 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

what does everyone think the best hostel for sydney for meeting people and partying?