Is this normal???

Travel Forums General Talk Is this normal???

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11. Posted by anglosurma (Full Member 106 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I went travelling on a whv to Australia for a year and came back to Birmingham England, i was almost suicidal for 4-5 months of my return. but i have now 11 months on adapted to life here again , not meeting new people everyday 9-5 {boring} going home , watching my friends have kids and get married and all that conforming stuff new cars, houses etc {boring}

Coming home was the biggest learning experience of all.

The only way out was to set a new bigger challenge, so I did and im almost there.

Its normal to feel the way you do , only now is a good time to set a new goal that will help pull you out of it .

Remember only he who endures succeeds

12. Posted by HafJafMark (Respected Member 291 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I understand how you feel, ive been back from a year of travelling for 6 months now, and it just makes everthing that used to seem good feel a bit mundane. Its just something you have to accept - only the incredibly rich can travel forever.

13. Posted by scotsman (Respected Member 128 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Hey Jacolyn,

It'll get better eventually. Make new plans and give yourself something new to aim towards. I was an emotional retard when I got home and took a while to get used to things but it does get better...


14. Posted by scotsman (Respected Member 128 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Quoting HafJafMark

only the incredibly rich can travel forever.

Or the incredibley dedicated...

15. Posted by george1979 (Full Member 101 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Come up to Glasgow and get drunk for a week. in fact just travel round scotland working temp jobs and getting drunk. then once you've sobered up you can plan another trip. Just bring a warm coat. you won't be the only one!

16. Posted by jax_07 (Full Member 76 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Hey Everyone

Thank you all so much for making me realise it's normal and giving me the kick up the bum I needed!

I'm actually feeling better already. I think I needed to vent (if you know what I mean).

I'm usually quite a positive person and, as much as the situation was frustrating me I was also frustrated with myself for letting it frustrate me - am I making ANY sense???

Anyhoo, I've given myself a preverbial slap around the face and I've woken up a bit now. In the greater scheme of things my moans and groans are somewhat insignificant! So I'm not having a brilliant time every second of every day? And? Get over it and move on! That's what I say!

By the way - I might take you up on that offer about Scotland! Sounds fab!

Take it easy


17. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Cool advise Herr Bert.
I spent most of my 20s, taking a few steps up some of those mountains, and then falling down.
Now at least, I have some mountains, that I can stand on top of and admire the view. And yes, u are right, there are always more mountains. Life never stops.


18. Posted by AaronL (Budding Member 8 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I think it's normal.
I had exactly the same feeling.. traffic lights bored the hell out of me.. something about having to stop and wait, when everything had been so kinetic (even though it really wasn’t, all sorts of waiting with traveling) but I couldn’t cope, so I took a holiday to get myself over it, and ended up in more debt, but it did help get me back into the real world!!

19. Posted by Dezafinado (Full Member 177 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Quoting jax_07

I am so used to doing new things and going to new places and meeting new people almost every single day that I'm not enjoying being home as much as I thought I would.

The burning question is - is this normal?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

It's quite normal. Traveling stimulates our brain and imagination. We see things differently as we go from one country/culture to another. It's plenty fun to discover how others live, work, play and eat! If it helps, here's a piece of wisdom (or a very dry piece of humour) I learned from a German-Swiss... "Everything has one end but a sausage has two." It boggles the mind, doesn't it to think that your withdrawal will too come to an end.

BTW, I like your pictures. I'm also planning to visit NZ and have a couple of questions. That sky-diving looks like a blast, where did you go to do that? And it looks like you did some hiking in the wilderness. Did you have to bring camping/backpacking gear or relied on a trekking outfit? Thanks!

20. Posted by kindred (Full Member 22 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I have said Asia ruins people for living in Canada. After three years off and on in China when I come home to Canada I look around and its so bleak, so colourless, so quiet, and the people are just so nasty and mean spirited -

In my experience there is an energy in China, noisy yes, but a happy noise - here if people are noisy they are fighting or angry about something -

I miss the markets, the hustle and bustle, the friendliness, seeing something new and interesting around every corner. Canada is very hard to adjust to.

I know people who spent years overseas teaching who swore they were done and coming back to stay and within a few months they are back on the plane, heading back to China --- it gets into your blood, the excitement, the lights, the people, its more alive than anywhere here.

My friend who came back just before I did is emailing and saying "I cant adjust, I miss China so much, I felt so alive there - "

Feels like going into hibernation when you are back - I am constantly pulled between family here and China - :( If I didnt have kids I wouldnt come back -- I am hooked on that "feeling alive" thing.

I laughed more in China than anywhere, smiled - felt alive - woke up anticipating the day -- here its ho hum why bother?