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1. Posted by jasuk (Budding Member 2 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!


Im a 37 year old male and ive just seperated from a 10 year marriage. The divorce has cost me everything business/home etc and basically left me enough to rent an apartment in the UK and i would have to get a job just to get by.

So instead of doing that i want to go and travel. My fear is, if and when i return to the UK i have no where to go or anything to come home to.

I dont have any family here and don't want to end up on a friend's couch with nothing. I have one chance to make something of myself and now is the time to do it. Has anyone here left their home place in their 30's with absolutely nothing to return to?

How did you get on? did your life change for the better?


2. Posted by bentivogli (Travel Guru 2398 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

One of my colleagues did, and though she was scared like you to give up the little she had, she's glad now that she did. Even though I'd probably never do it myself, I think you should go; the radical change might make it easier afterwards to 'make smt of yourself'.

good luck,

3. Posted by Purdy (Travel Guru 3546 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Go travelling - you will still have to get a job and rent an apartment when you come home and at least you will have the memories!

Your giving us all the reasons to go - you have no really family committments to keep you here now? So go for 6 months - you may come home with a total new perspective on life, or you may not want to come home at all!

Good luck!


[ Edit: Edited on Mar 19, 2007, at 5:05 AM by Purdy ]

4. Posted by jasuk (Budding Member 2 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Thank's for the replies. I don't have any family commitments here at all so nothing is stopping me really apart from the unknown. I would like to go to somewhere like Thailand for a year. I would get an O visa so you can stay up to 90 days at a time.

I make a little money on the internet each month and that would pay for my accommadation whilst im out there and would get by on what i have for food etc (wouldnt be able to go out drinking much!) I have a friend who live's near Pattaya but it looks a bit to crazy there for me and Bangkok looks very overwhelming for someone on their own.

Have you lived or traveled in Thailand? Is it a good base to start from? I would love to go to Australia but it seems alot more expensive then Thailand once your there and i cant get a work visa because of my age.

Any thoughts? thanks!

5. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I can't help you with Thailand, but I must agree with Purdy: looks like the time is ripe to go! If you re-read your original post and replace all the "what-ifs" with "it's perfect timing because", you'll have all the reasons you need to pack up and enjoy a fantastic trip. Good luck to you!

6. Posted by Purdy (Travel Guru 3546 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Well l have been to Thailand though not really TRAVELLED Thailand if you get what l mean (visited for 2 weeks a few years ago!)

Bangkok is hectic but in a good way - theres lots to see and do - l loved Bangkok - it is a melting pot for travellers of all ages from all over the world. The Thai people are RENOUN for thier hospitality and friendliness so you should be fine.

If you fancy the islands then for a little R n R time - Phuket is nice but it is touristy therefore more expensive, Koh Samui is more relaxed and slightly less touristy.

The costs in Thailand are a fraction of what you would be paying in the UK therefore l think you would find your expenses would be minimal - you would most likely be able to afford a Singha or two l think!

Good luck!

7. Posted by GregW (Travel Guru 2635 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Quoting jasuk

I have one chance to make something of myself and now is the time to do it.

I don't think this is your one chance to "make something of yourself." Everyday, whether you realize it or not, the day imprints itself on you - your experiences. Some days are more meaningful than others, but all are days that you aren't the same person going to bed that you were when you woke up.

I say this, because I think that some of your fear may come from this notion that you have this one chance, and you don't want to screw it up. Don't worry about that, because barring getting killed, even if your travels are a complete and total disaster, you'll have learned some stuff, you'll have developed as a person and you'll be able to start over at something else.

Give it a try, if you don't like it, then come back to England and look for something else to do.

I would suggest, if you are up for reading something, a book by Po Bronson called "What Should I Do With My Life?" Despite the self-helpish title, it actually won't answer that question for you. But it could give you some inspiration to read the stories of others who took a leap to answer that question. And also some comfort in knowing the struggles of those people are probably much like your own.