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11. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Thanks guys. You're all awesome

Beerman you made me laugh out loud. I'd love to see my neighbours faces as I headed off to do the groceries with my enormous rucksack!

Almost immediately after I got home I was planning the next trip, even met with Trailfinders about 3 weeks after I got home to suss out a new ticket. I was planning to work for six months and be gone in the New Year again

What's becoming evident though is that getting that amount of money together again in such a short space of time might be impossible. I'm working in a job that doesnt even push one button, let alone all of them.

I know there's an end in sight somewhere. I might just have to slog it out in this awful dreary job for a much longer time than I was planning to get there though, and I suppose Ive just hit a low patch after the headiness of the last 2 years. And all the while you have the doubting Thomases in your ear instilling you with THE FEAR that if you continue with this hedonistic lifestyle you are doomed to failure and ignominy for the rest of your days.

Ill stop whinging now.

Thanks for the responses everyone. ;)

12. Posted by Purdy (Travel Guru 3546 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Ev - you are more than welcome to travel up to Belfast and come and visit me if that would help you!! Consider it a mini trip! AND l have a spare room as long as you ignore the house cos its upside (middle of getting work done) and the manic neighbours!


13. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Aw thanks Heather. YOu know I might just do that some weekend! :)

14. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Big giant {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{zombie hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} and a couple of two-cheekers, Ev!!!

There was a reason Thomas Wolfe wrote You Can't Go Home Again back in the 30s (published in 1940 after his death). Basically, because you can't - and remain satisified. I remember your dad saying traveling isn't all it's cracked up to be as a way of convincing you to stay home (or something along those lines). Consider home your base camp where you revisit old friends, earn a bit of money when needed, and someplace that serves your favorite "Mom" meals. Friends and family that have not travelled (or travelled much) will never understand what wanderlust truly means or what it brings when you answer it's call. It's also hard to explain it to someone who can't visualize the adventure. The only reason everyone thinks you need that kick in the ass is because they want you to be as bored with your life as they are with theirs. In a sense, misery loves company (though I doubt any would admit they are bored or dissatisfied). Home is where the heart is but it isn't always where you need to be.

There are those who can make the transition back to their "previous" life in the blink of an eye, but those are few and far between. Until you have enough funds for the next excursion, talk hometown things with hometown friends/family and travel things with travel friends (and TPers, of course). Oh, and read Thomas Wolfe. Go shopping with your rucksack. Put a world map up on your wall and throw darts at it to decide your next destination. Go visit Heather (you'll be glad you did). Oooohhh - I've got it!! A little twist on Spoon River Anthology - start writing limericks about Limerick! It'll be on the best seller list in no time and you'll have traveling money!

Hedonistic lifestyle??? You lucky girl!!!!!

You can always make a stop in Middle-Of-Nowhere-USA and see us. ;)

[ Edit: Edited on Aug 30, 2007, at 1:00 PM by Isadora ]

15. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Thanks Isa. ;) Can certainly do with the hugs at the moment.

That Thomas Woulfe book definitely sounds like good fodder to suit my current mood - Ill check that out straight away.

As for Dad, I wouldn't say he was trying to dissuade me from travelling. It's more that he's the voice of reason and balance in our house and he always tries to get you to look at both sides of things, especially when you're making a potentially life-altering decision. I am very lucky in that I have two parents who support me in any decision I make, whether or not they actually agree with it. Right now, I think they just dont get why I could possibly want to take off again after being away for so long.

You're spot on I think in your assertion about people wanting you to stay put for their own reasons sometimes. I hadn't really thought about it like that. And one thing I do know since coming home is that I've absolutely grown out of home...I'm shocked at how different I feel since I came home. I used to love being at home, never really minded living with my parents, even enjoyed it. Now, I just feel too different to live there - it's definitely time to move on.

I got to know myself very well when I was travelling over the last year and a half - even had a few shocking epiphanies
I suppose now that I'm home I'm back to feeling like the person I was before I left...and that's a bit difficult.

Anyway, I'm going to try and close up these floodgates before I drown everyone here on TP.
Thanks for the advice and I'm definitely going to try out the backpacking to the grocery store idea

16. Posted by VagabondPT (Budding Member 11 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Don't you close those floodgates!!!

There are other TPers that feel the same as you, and your ramblings sure help. I just came from a short (In comparison) one month trip to the Balkans, that changed the way I see many things in life. Reading about someone out there that is feeling right now the same or similar is great! It makes you feel: "I'm not alone", and some times that is a good feeling.

I wonder about some of the things you do to, like:
If just one month was overwhelmingly intense, how is one year/two years going to be?
Will I get a job after a 1/2years wanderlust? How are employers going to look at the gap in my curriculum?
Will I ever settle down, maybe have a family?

Floodgates closed.

17. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4138 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Quoting samsara2

Right now, I think they just dont get why I could possibly want to take off again after being away for so long.

Let me think about this. Work vs travel.

Yep, it's a tough one

18. Posted by chell (Budding Member 13 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Quoting Isadora

Home is where the heart is but it isn't always where you need to be.

How well put!!

I agree theres no need to close the floodgates!

I felt the same when I came back from a 2mth trip to London and Europe.
I felt sooo at home while I was overseas it felt like I was there much longer than I actually was and a friend I made when I was in London actually warned me that reverse culture shock would be more likely to be worse than culture shock.

So true!

When I came home it was kinda surreal cause nothing had changed - everyone was still going about their lives the same way as before I had left. Ok so I knew nothing would really change since I wasn't gone that long, but I had grow so much and and learnt so much about myself during my time away that it felt like I had to step backwards to fit back in...not sure if that makes sense..

And noone would really feel sympathy for you if you're feeling down cause they'd just think you've had a mad holiday so you must be pretty ungrateful if you're down!
And even if they do have the patience to listen to all the little details of your trip they won't really 'get it' since they weren't there.
Its especially hard when you make so many close friends on your travels and you really really miss them and also you know that THEY would understand how you feel.

I think this calls for a big group hug!!

19. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Yeah I was a bit sceptical about the whole "reverse culture shock" concept before I went travelling. I mean, if you've lived somewhere your whole life, you couldn't be "shocked", per se, by returning to something you have always known.

I'm beginning to think it has less to do with problems re-assimilating into your own culture. It's obvious to me now that it's really about your own difficulties with slotting back into the groove or niche you were in before you left.

As Isa says, there are probably lots of people who can come back and do just that. And then there are those of us who have changed shape (in my case, that is quite literally true, thanks to the dairy rich Kiwi diet! ) and we just dont fit back into that same hole again.

I suppose I'm finding that a bit troublesome, but it's to be expected. If anything, it's part of the reason i went travelling right? To expand my mind, my horizons, my it's to be expected that you aren't going to feel the same when you get back home.

ANd there's the problem that I imagine everyone who returns home has - friends who just aren't interested in the last couple of years of your life. Or myabe that's harsh - maybe they are interested but they just can't relate.
So, it leaves you a bit nowhere. Every conversation in the pub with your friends or at the family dinner table brings to mind a travel anecdote, but you don't want to wreck people's heads. It can end up leaving you feeling a bit alienated I suppose.

Anyway, I suppose lots of people feel this way when they return home. I'm loving being home in many ways, but it all just feels a bit......different.

20. Posted by dbgomes (Respected Member 72 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Its strange isn't it!!! I've been living in UK for 18mths now with a couple of years still to go and all i ever get as a response from people here in Grimsby (Granted its not exactly London so there are a lot of 'locals' rather than travellers) when i say that i have moved from Australia is 'What the hell have you come to this country for!!!!' To them Australia is the paradise that they all dream of going to.

Whilst i will eventually be back i see it as my boring hometown and this place is paradise (although deff not the weather) because i travel every couple of months to new countries and inbetween I make weekend drives to the wonderful towns that dot the UK countryside!

That brings me to why i posted on this thread!!! Anywhere away from home is new/exciting/challenging/DIFFERENT. Home is what you have grown up with for xx years and doesn't readily present any new challenges.

I have a house over here and a job that can be very stressful so even with all the same 'commitments' that i would have at home it never feels like it used to be in Aus. Living and working has more of a purpose here. The only time i felt like i was working for a reason back in Aus was the saving period for travelling over here!

I will be happy to see everyone at home when we eventually return, but i know that readjusting to life back there will be many times harder than saying bye 18 months ago. I know this from all of these messages and from friends of mine who have travelled also and returned home feeling something missing. I have changed my outlook on what i will do when we return. I always looked at it as being the time to 'settle down'. Thats not going to be the case, whilst we will look to moving to a bigger place and doing the things that symbolise 'settling down' i will be making the most of my annual leave and will happily take many unpaid leave breaks (employer permitting) in order to get that backpack on the shoulders and escape! Travelling has also shown me how much of Aus i still have to travel to.

Group hugs ahoy!!!


I agree, keep up the discussion its the reason we all come onto TP... Similar minded people !!!!