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Why is the USA so unfriendly?

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1. Posted by i c e (Full Member 326 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

I have been to 36 countries all over the world, and have never been ot a country as rude, self-consumed or just so darn mean as the USA! You never hear any talk about the hospitality of the US. Being one of the richest countries in the world there is no excuse! Any one agree. or have a guess why?

An american by birth but not by heart

2. Posted by CanadaGuy (Respected Member 199 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

That is quite a generalization my friend!

I have traveled all over the USA and have met some extremely hospitable, helpful and friendly people in the midwest, and south in particular, but they are everywhere.
Now maybe if your experience was focused in big cities, your opinion may be different, but I think that may be true of almost everywhere.

I think Americans in general are quite proud of their "personal freedoms" and their sense that anyone can accomplish anything if they work hard and earn their way on their own, in opposition to many other countries' entitlement programs in health and other areas. This may foster a sense of looking out for self first, rather than thinking about community, or others.. But that is just my very amateur sociologist opinion, and I think it too is an extreme exaggeration.

Bottom line I think in every country there are good and there are bad- it is to all of us to try to find the good... :)

3. Posted by Chrisse (Budding Member 20 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

I agree with CanadaGuy!

The USA is a pretty large place. Every city/state has a unique personality lingering on every corner. Various cultures abound and integrate with one another. So I find it rather difficult to accept it when a person stereotypes the entire country into one package.

It doesn't make sense.

i have to wonder, how long did you stay here and what areas did you visit? there are places here that even i avoid because they are too self absorbed and rude. but that is usually based on one area of a city - not the entire city or state.

4. Posted by bwiiian (Travel Guru 769 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

Probably same reason england is unfriendly. History of empire building, war mongering and thinking we are better than everyone else and generally being up our own arses. Plus a lack of understanding of other cultures as we think other cultures are there to be demolished and flattened to make way for a giant McDonalds to be built upon.

5. Posted by magykal1 (Travel Guru 2026 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

For all my reservations about visiting the USA, I was very pleasantly surprised by how friendly and welcoming everyone was, taxi drivers and customs officials excepted. I guess everybody has a different experience.

6. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4138 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

Most Americans I've met - home, abroad and in the US - have been extremely friendly. Probably more friendly, and more hospitable than most other people I've met.

7. Posted by norian (Full Member 71 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

I remember i've met girls from Chicago in NY, they were very very friendly..

8. Posted by Jase007 (Respected Member 8870 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

My experience of my first trip to the states has been one of everyone has been polite & friendly.
Even the immigration guy at O'Hare was polite & friendly (something you don't get in many countries).

Most Sherman Tank's that I've met over the years have been fine.

9. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

Hello Josh:)

U have not been to Bavaria, Germany where I live yet, have u?
People here are at least as mean and cold as people in the US.
This is also probably the richest part of Germany. I think wealth and a high standard of living have something to do with the lack of hospitality and unfriendliness to each other and to strangers, both here and in the US too. I think, when people are poor and there is war and unrest in their country they tend to huddle together for comfort and they become a lot more hospitable and welcoming to everybody too. I think if something happened in the US to threaten peoples peace and security, they would start to be just as friendly and generous to each other and strangers as some other places, in the world.


10. Posted by AndyB24 (Respected Member 167 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

I agree with Mel, I was told by a colombian that thats why they are so friendly to each other, u never know what may happen next, so why waste time being angry at each other??

I´ve met friendly americans, and rude ones as well, but the same goes for every nationality on the planet, its not which country your from, its just whether or not your an @ss!