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Why is the USA so unfriendly?

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31. Posted by vegasmike6 (Travel Guru 3580 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

Aloha Christine,
First of all, welcome to TP. I think you will enjoy participating on the many forums. You may want to sign up as a travel helper specializing in Hawaii. I went to UH in 1967 and really enjoyed my year in 'paradise'. I learned to scuba dive, body surf, played beach volleyball and tried surfing. Perhaps that is why my grades were not so good! I ran out of money and went back to Vegas. I have been back to Hawaii several times since and always enjoyed visiting. It really is a special place.

I do agree with you on parts of the US are more friendly than others. Hawaii definitely has the aloha spirit and many cities in the midwest are just as friendly. However, I really think it is population that matters more than the region. In other words: size matters! In most large cities, the fast pace & stress cause many citizens to just not take the time to help strangers or be courteous. I have seen the change here in Vegas. Back in the 70s, Vegas was a pretty nice place to live. Now we have terrible traffic, rude drivers, gangs, crime and the rest of the problems that beset most large cities. It is a larger population that caused the changes in attitude, not region,IMO.

Mahalo for adding to the debate.

32. Posted by GregW (Travel Guru 2635 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

Quoting watchdog33

I have lived in the USA for the majority of my life and have visited every single state (except Hawia) many times. I would say that Americans care more for themselves than for others. The focus of this culture is comfort.

Have you considered that your impression may be based on the amount of time and activities that you were doing in the other countries versus USA? I can find myself pretty cranky late in the afternoon after a bad day at work, and find that other Canadians rushing to catch their trains home are pretty rude and uncaring. I find that when I am travelling, I am much more laid back, and tend to be in a better mood.

It could be that you find Americans ruder because you spend more time there interacting with them. Perhaps we place a higher emphasis on the bad things that happen, and thus the good times in our home country fades into the background.

Quoting vegasmike6

I must report that the Japanese women ignored me entirely, so I do not consider Japan all that friendly.

Hey, me too!

33. Posted by Reece Sanford (Travel Guru 1368 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

Quoting watchdog33

I have been to 36 countries all over the world, and have never been ot a country as rude, self-consumed or just so darn mean as the USA! You never hear any talk about the hospitality of the US. Being one of the richest countries in the world there is no excuse! Any one agree. or have a guess why?

An american by birth but not by heart

Absolute RUBBISH.I travelled there for 3 months and 31 states and never had a problem at any time.In fact the people there were VERY VERY friendly.Even the people from the US who i met all over the world were fantastic.
Ive got a mate from Houston who i met in Panama in July 2006 and he came over to london in July 2007 and we flew to Eastern Europe together.Hes coming back over in December to see me.
I met 5 guys from Oregon and Salt Lake who i may be going back to see in the next few weeks.

And whats being one of the richest countries got to do with anything????
The problem these days is too many people judge people from the US because of one person and thats pathetic.

34. Posted by pinkgirlie (Full Member 121 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

It must depend where you go - I went to LA, San Francisco, a few small places in Arizona, Nevada and Utah, Chicago, Niagara, Washington DC and NYC and I have to say I only met 1 nice couple in the whole time. Everyone else was undeniably rude and self absorbed. It was worrying.

However, the amount of people I know who went to tourist places on holiday and thought the people were wonderful makes me believe I just met the wrong people. There are so many people there, and it does seem to be part of the culture to not realise when they're being rude and to only really care about the people they're very close to. It's a very interesting culture!

35. Posted by Travel12 (Budding Member 12 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

Anyone I have ever talked to or encountered that traveled to the Midwest was more than happy with the friendliness of the people. In the midwest when you drive down a road everyone that you pass will wave to you. We are more than happy to talk to and help anyone around. I have travled all over the US and have lived in several different places. The majority of people I have encounted have been quite friendly but nothing compared to those in the midwest. Come visit us sometime! If you are interested I can help you out with some great things to see. I have lived in Iowa, Minnesota, and North Dakota.

36. Posted by vegasmike6 (Travel Guru 3580 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

I have been in 49 states and the midwest was the friendliest region. I have a friend in Shawano, Wisconsin and have visited the region many times. Any place you stop; for food, gas, a room, sightseeing, the locals are more than happy to help out and have a chat. You won't be a stranger very long in the midwest. Include it in your plans for visiting the US.

37. Posted by Liberte30 (Budding Member 8 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

Hi Josh!!

I agree with you, but i dont think that USA is unfriendly all over the country!! I've been to a couple places (east USA) where people were kind of friendly but most of the places (West USA), i was really disapointed!

I've been to a lot of places in the world and this is the first time that i feel so lonely in a country! I'm about to go back home cause of that!! Maybe this is just the city but i feel that i can't be friend with a lot of people here!!

Everywhere else it was so easy to speak to everybody but right now this is really hard for me!

So i agree with you...

Maybe this is because my first language is not english but i doubt about it...

Christine from Canada (Quebec)

38. Posted by TER06 (Budding Member 3 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

I disagree. I'm originally from the Netherlands and have lived in the United States for almost 5 years now...people were telling and warning me that people would be unfriendly here. Well, not at all! I've traveled back and forth to the Netherlands and let me tell you...Dutch people are unfriendly and rude! Not to mention, they are cold people for the most part if compared to the majority of Americans I have met.
I have lived in Tennessee where people were very warm and friendly..welcoming..I have lived in a part of Georgia where people were just really rude!
Now I live in Washington state and I have met rude people but nice people also. I guess it is that way because the areas my family moves to are military areas with people from all over the United States.

Don't even get me started about the rudeness in other different cultures in Europe that I have experienced!
But to generalize the the USA as a whole for being unfriendly is just not right.

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