Travelling and relationships i need help...

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1. Posted by Dauce (Budding Member 69 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

i have been with my girlfriend for only about 2 months but im planning on going traveling for 6-8 months next year may june time,

anyway my question is has anyone been in the same situation and what happened. because its really not fair for me to assume she will wait for the 6-8 months that im gone. has anyone got any advice or has had anything similar happen to them?

thanks guys


2. Posted by baluba (Respected Member 407 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Its still 8 months before you go. If she loves you she will wait. Or why not take her with you?
Another question is, will you want to go back to her after 6 - 8 months? We all know that travelling independantly can change you, would be interesting if anyone has been in this situation and if it worked for them as well as the one left behind.

3. Posted by pinkgirlie (Full Member 121 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I've not been in this situation, my other half came with me, but if you've only been together 2 months and you're not going for 8 maybe you're worrying too soon. She obviously knows you're planning the trip so is expecting you to go. Could she not come with you if she wanted to as the time gets nearer?

These things usually sort themselves out - it's good to know you're thinking of her feelings too tho!

4. Posted by Gemi9bear (Budding Member 86 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

6 to 8 months are considered very long, especially for a relationship blossoming for two months already so far. Why not ask her if she would like to travel together?? Love feels greater when you can do things together with your loved one, travelling is one. Don't you think so? Travelling period of 6-8 months can be the trial time when you gauge your compatibilities against each other as well as to understand each other better. Just my two cents..

All the best to your decision~ ;)

5. Posted by magykal1 (Travel Guru 2026 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

My contribution, this nugget, once quoted at me by a good friend when I found myself in this situation.

'A fresh breeze will put out a weak fire, but build up a strong one.'

6. Posted by kezin (Budding Member 107 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

It is not my intent to burn any campfire marshmallows here, but..........take care with this notion/suggestion of travelling together for 6-8 months. At this time, your relationship is at a very early stage. I would suggest that the two of you focus on this wonderful new thing you are involved in with each other. This is a remarkable time for both of you. Better to put the emphasis on the present; on this fantastic 'thing' developing, progressing, between the two of you...and put the trip- while still a priority- on the 'back- burner', so to speak. Don't change any of your plans; just ensure that the relationship, new as it is- is the main priority. If the two of you DO go travelling together, then It will be absolutely vital that you are able to accomodate each other in all the ways that really matter. Your relationship will need to be strong when you depart together. Many relationships have not survived travel; however- many HAVE as well, and become more anazing and resiliant and vital. The main thing here is that the two of you are able to talk and listen to each other, and above all value and respect each other. Again, focus- at this stage- on the relationship first.

7. Posted by robbo_gsi (Full Member 81 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I reckon u got ahead with ure travels and see wot happens when u get back. It saves on stress and u both can have fun

If its meant to be...

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