Travel to Iran..Any advice would be appriciated

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11. Posted by A.J (Budding Member 15 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Hi Kombizz :)

Who is Mrs Jese Doe?


[ Edit: Edited on Nov 21, 2007, at 8:50 AM by A.J ]

12. Posted by t_maia (Travel Guru 3290 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Quoting A.J

Can someone tell me why it is such a big deal/so bad to walk about/visit places. I really don't understand it.

Because Iran calls itself "Islamic Republic of Iran". I'm sure you've heard enough about Islamism (the political agenda, not the religion!) and the Taliban in Afghanistan to understand what that means.

Extramarital sex is punishable by either death or flogging and "indecent" contact between the sexes is limited as much as possible. In public buildings in Iran men and women have seperate entrances. Women have to apply for forms, subsidaries, etc at seperate halls and at seperate desks. On the buses in Tehran part of the bus is for women only, same for some wagons on the Tehran metro.

The very same things that make Iran heaven for a solo female traveller make it an absolute pain to travel in when you are there with your boyfriend. Unlike in other Middle Eastern countries men in Iran won't harass you - the strict rules work in your favour as a single woman. However these same rules also apply to your bf while you are in Iran - no touching, no kissing, no holding hands (at the very least not in public).

I'm sorry, but the more I think about your post I fear you are getting into this pretty blue-eyed and that you need more information about Iran from a variety of sources.
And as much as I hate the book and the movie (it's really clicheed and the woman's naivity is ***) you might benefit from reading and watching Betty Mahmoody's "Not without my daughter". While things are not nearly as bad as they were in the 80's and the Iran-Iraq war is long over the regime is still the same.

I also suggest you read up on what amnesty international, the US department of state and the UK home office as well as your country's foreign ministry has to say about Iran.

After being throughly scared you can then reconsider your travel plans to Iran and make a more educated decision. Don't get me wrong, I love the country and its people, but I do not close my eyes to the faults of its government.

Also if one of the purposes of this trip is to meet his mother consider inviting her to your place. It will be cheaper and better for you and your children. Iranians over 65 residing in Iran get special fares on Iran Air (usually 60 % of the normal fare). Getting the visa for his mother will be a nightmare (much more than getting an Iranian visa for you and your kids), but the more I think about it this is what I recommend to you.

13. Posted by A.J (Budding Member 15 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Hi t_maia :)

Thanks for all that information it seems very useful I will read up on it. Well Iv been invited to stay with his mum & dad so I will ensure that the times Im there I spend it out with him & his mum plus we will both wear rings so we can make out that we are married to make it easier.

Thanks again


14. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

That sounds like a good solution AJ.
It sure would be safer for u.
I hope his Mum and Dad are openminded so u can at least do what u want in the house.
Likely they are if they accept the fact that u are their sons girlfriend and let u stay in their house.:)


[ Edit: Edited on Dec 2, 2007, at 11:48 PM by Mel. ]

15. Posted by A.J (Budding Member 15 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Well they must be to some extent open minded, maybe the fact that they lived in Germany for many years & moved back to Iran 8 years ago. Although saying that his mum said to him that we can't sleep in the same bedroom which is understandable. He says I must be special as none of his friends are allowed to stay over lol. :)

16. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Special or she wants to make sure u are both safe. :)
Sounds like she understands the situation.

[ Edit: Edited on Dec 3, 2007, at 9:35 AM by Mel. ]

17. Posted by A.J (Budding Member 15 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Thanks I think you might be right ;)

18. Posted by lizziebell (Budding Member 6 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!


In post #6 t_maia told you that it was ILLEGAL to pretend you are married in Iran. What's with the ring idea?

I also think you should leave your children at home.

19. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

AJ, I think Lizziebell may be right about the rings.
No need for them if u are staying with his parents.
Being a guest of the family is a whole different scene to seeing your boyfriend alone.
Perfectly respectable in the eyes of people in Iran to be out with him and his parents so no need to illegally pretend u are married.
I think it will be OK to take your kids, since u are visiting a family home. Iranians will see nothing unusual. People in Iran like kids. They may wonder why u are not travelling with your husband, but that wont be too big a deal. U can tell them he is working and u are visiting friends of the family here in Iran.


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