anyone else lonley, small and first-travelling?

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1. Posted by maisen (First Time Poster 1 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

hello, i am really writing you all to hear if someone feel like me. ever been keen on seeng the world, but had no-one to go with, and felt a bit frightened about just leaving all by yourself?

2. Posted by travelover (Respected Member 494 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

I personally think that you should throw caution to the wind and go for it alone. I think if you stick to certain areas of the world, areas that wouldn't be too risky for someone who is travelling for the first time and alone at that, you will definitely have a good time. Do you know where it is that you want to go or are you just looking for a nice travelling experience altogether? Because if you're flexible, I would suggest either a European country or Australia as a "starter". I've never been myself but a lot of my friends have been and they had a blast in both areas.

You'd be surprised what you can achieve by travelling alone. I think it will be a good experience for anyone, especially someone that's not too keen on doing it alone. You'll come back completely changed and I'm sure you'll have a pretty bad case of wanderlust! But I don't think wanderlust is soo bad when it comes to travelling... So go for it!


3. Posted by GregW (Travel Guru 2635 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

I never traveled much when I was younger. Other than day trips, the only trip I took as a kid was a 3-week road trip with my parents from Toronto to the east coast of Canada. I didn’t get a plane for the first time until I was 16, and even then it was just an hour-long sightseeing trip in a 4-seat seaplane. During university, I only took one spring-break trip, myself and some friends drove from London, Ontario to Shawnee, Pennsylvania for a ski trip. My first commercial flight was when I was 25 for a business trip to Moncton, New Brunswick.

Travel sounded like something fun, but it was always something for later. There was never enough time or money. There was always something else that I needed to do. But then the world changed.

My mother was diagnosed with cancer and died in 1999. My mother was 65 and had just been retired for 9 months when she died. At the time I was stuck in a job I hated, spending 50 to 60 hours a week doing tedious work for people I didn’t really like. I put myself in my mother’s place – imagined myself 35 years in the future, at 65 and newly retired. If I were diagnosed with cancer, would I be sitting there thinking about all those things that I had said, “next year, next year, next year?” I quit my job and decided that I wouldn’t put off those things that I wanted.

I realized that the things stopping me from traveling wasn’t the money or the time or any of the things I needed to do. It was that I was scared. Scared of putting myself out in an unfamiliar world.

I remember sitting in my office on a seemingly average Tuesday morning in September of 2000 when someone said, “an airplane hit the World Trade Center.” It was September 11th, 2000, and as the details of the day revealed themselves, I remember one main thought kept going through my head, “I would hate to die at work.” I thought to myself, as I sat watching the replies over and over on CNN, “what if that had been my office building?”

There is no time like the present. It’s a cliché, but it’s true. None of us knows if we have a tomorrow.

It was tough, booking my first big trip to South America. I almost backed out a few times, but I went through with it. At times, I felt stupid, the 32 year old backpacker. Isn’t backpacking for college kids? I certainly was actually stupid a few times, but it was also one of the most fun and most liberating experiences of my life. And as to backpacking being a college kid thing, most of the people I met on the road were my age or older.

4. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

Hi Maisen,

I only travelled alone once, on a two-week trip to Paris. I'd always been the quiet, shy kind - so I was amazed to discover I wasn't frightened a bit, not even a little. More proud of myself that I could do it. And it wasn't scary in the least - it taught me more about myself than I'd learned in a very long time.

My catalyst wasn't a death, like Greg's, but rather the end of a 10-year relationship that left me hurt, then very determined. One of those "worst and best things to ever happen to me" circumstances.

I haven't seen much of the world by myself, Maisen, but from that one trip I know now I can do it, and love it. And if I can, you can, too. Trust me, you'll never regret it. Start small if you'd prefer, or dive right into a big trip. Either way, you'll be so proud of yourself.

5. Posted by summer910 (Respected Member 1342 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

Couldn't agree more.

I'll be taking a small (working) trip to Japan in a couple of weeks' time and planning a bigger trip to Holland in late Oct (going alone, but will be meeting some friends there).

My catalyst was that I was really, really tired of being cooped up in my own country and not being able to see the world. Also, I felt a trip would be just the right tonic to cure emotional fatigue - anything that gets me excited and yet allows me to relax is good!

So don't be afraid of going alone. Do some research on where you want to go (the folks here are very helpful on that!), take precautions, and don't cram everything into a short space of time.

Enjoy yourself!

6. Posted by Elainiel (First Time Poster 1 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

Well, i just signed up to this site as I am planning my own big trip for this time next year. I am in my last year of uni and I'm finally doing the whole year out thing. I'm planning on doing voluntary ork in South Africa for about three months forst and then going travelling after that.

I'm not worried about the volunteering as it will be all organised and I will be able to make friends there. However, I AM worried about travelling alone around the world. It is something I have always wanted to do so I am definately going to go. I'm just not sure whether to just bite the bullet and go alone (althouh my parents don't want me to do that), or to keep looking for a friend to go with. The thing is, that it's MY trip and I'm worried about any clashes with friends about destinations etc.

However, I am also concerned about being a young female travelling alone, backpacking. A school friend travelled by herself for a year and had a great time and made loads of friends on the way, but surely thins is so dangerous?

Any advice?!

7. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

i am also worried about travelling alone being a female. im not exactly very wise as ive had people tell me but also had people tell me that i would be ok. its a bit scary travelling alone when youve never travelled before. Ive only ever been to france/paris coupla times!

i read things about you should just go for it-i mean you have one life! but on the other hand i read stories about people saying to be very careful and you need the support behind you-which is important. but when youve had tradgies in your life you realise that life is just way too short and anything can happen anytime.

i havent got anyone to travel with so why should i miss out due to other people-thats how im looking at it -for now anyway.

8. Posted by muryo (Budding Member 22 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

Yes, follow your Nordic heart and go. You will find so many like-minded people in your travels! There is nothing like living out of a backpack!!
I will be heading to India for my first time. I look at it as a teaser because I will only be there for 5 days. Hope to have a longer experience sometime this year.
I am working/living in Sri Lanka....first time living in a predominantly buddhist environment. Really loving it here! Feel free to write to me if you wish to have a base here for your travels!
All the best!

9. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

hello seb! just reading that you have worked in new zealand-just wanting to know what it is like really? as i am thinking of travelling there and australia for 6 months-hopefully. i'm just trying to get as much info and advice that i can at the mo. i've only really just started looking into it all. if i did go it would prob be in 2006-what with all the planning and stuff back home!

would appreciate any advice and info.

jasmine x

10. Posted by SABIR (Budding Member 21 posts) 14y Star this if you like it!

Dear Friend,
You were in India-you said----------so why is fear haunting you now?
In case you are really interested to learn about advent of Buddhism and want to see a few classic collections of Gandhara Art--I cordially invite you to Pakistan------------I am a 35 year old male journalist based in City of Lahore. Can take you around in my car to all places within 200 km radius of Lahore and show you all I can about Buddhism-------interested? Can pick you from Lahore airport------directly accessible from London, Paris, Amsterdam,Frankfurt--i have no idea about Oslo though but from Europe anywhere its an 8-hour flight.
Won't make you spend--i can afford guests here.