Internet Behavior Discussion

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1. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

In light of a discussion in another thread, I'm interested in other's people's opinions on the following topic...

The internet is a vast minefield of informative sites, discussion forums, chat rooms and whatever. Basically, what you want is available online. Given that you (in general terms) are an internet user and a member of a discussion forum, what parameters do you use to decide what is acceptable/unacceptable behavior when using the internet? Where do you cross the line? Is everything online acceptable for use anywhere else? Do you use the same guidelines online as you use in your real life? Does anonymity give you more freedom? Do you take for granted that what you say will be used somewhere else? Should the same "rules of behavior" apply to the internet or not? If so, why? If not, why not?

I am asking this question because I truly want to know other people's thoughts on the subject. I have my own opinions but I am not the "be all and end all" on what is acceptable and what is not.

2. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4138 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

I think that people need to keep in mind that there are potential friendships that can eventuate from being a member of a forum or group. Therefore you need to act in an appropriate fashion. If you are not interested in forming friendships, or you will only be an infrequent visitor to a forum or only visit as a one-off, then I guess you can be as inappropriate as you like - a bit like being at a party with a bunch of people that know you'll never see again.

Alternatively, you could be like me and simply be inappropriate all the time. Apparently consistency is a virtue!

3. Posted by Rraven (Travel Guru 5924 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

my two cents....

I tend to be honest in my replies and about who I am because if my friendships stem from on line meetings I want to have a true / real base to build on. Likewise I would hope other people were being honest or I would find it hard to trust them as the basis of becoming friends would be lies......

I believe that the anonymity gives people more freedom to be the people they would like to be or perceived as but if you are on line a lot it becomes quite easy to let the real you slip / shine true...

Saying all that if I am being honest about something that is not travel related in a chat room, ie its not going to help anyone, I don't expect it to be quoted in forums or on other parts of any site as something personal can then become public consumption. Likewise I don't expect conversations from facebook / bebo / tp or hives to be quoted on other sites unless its through a private message.....

okay my waffling is now over.........

4. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

I think whatever you put up for public view on the Internet becomes public domain. I don't think anyone should be allowed to plagiarize or publish someone else's words, mind, but you have to expect that whatever you write can pop up somewhere else. That said, it's irresponsible to take what someone says out of context or to quote some random, unproven statement as fact. What crosses the line, for me, is when someone tries to change the meaning of what you've written--either out of spite, ignorance or laziness. That borders on slander.

5. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

Quoting james

Alternatively, you could be like me and simply be inappropriate all the time. Apparently consistency is a virtue!

One of the things we love about you James - you are consistent!

Since I asked the questions, guess I should answer them as well.
I agree that anything I post on the internet is public domain and usable by someone else. I would hope that the person choosing to use my words will do so thoughtfully, though I know that is a pipe-dream in reality. I tend to follow a (self-imposed) guideline that news stories, information sites and the like are quotable and should be duly referenced. I do not consider other discussion forums to be in the same ilk as media or informative sites. I view them as a place where people of like minds go to discuss their particular topics. I will link another discussion group in answer to a relevent question. ( comes to mind as I linked it to a question about decompression sickness and they have a doctor over there who answers such questions.)

Like James and Nikki have said, potential friendships can develop in discussion forums so I try to deal with online members the way I would potential friends in my real life. I'm not always successful, but doesn't mean I don't try. The friendships I have made, I value very much.

I agree that the anonymity of the internet gives one a certain feel of freedom to say and do as they see fit. Some sites are more "liberal" than TP which is fine. But, I do feel that the "no boundaries" outlook quickly boils over into someone's real life. Also, forum rules are designed for a reason and should be adhered to by the users. And just because it is the internet where no one can really see you, it doesn't give license to be inappropriate (except for maybe James).

As for chat rooms (such as TP's and MSN), what's said in chat, stays in chat as people (again) feel a sense of freedom. Chats generally include discussing personal issues which the users have chosen to share with the one or more of their "buddies". Personally, I understand the "save history" aspect of a chatroom for certain situations. I do not expect anyone to save a history just because they can. If that is the case, the participants should be informed that the history is being saved as it will allow them to decide what they are willing to share or not share at that time. Most people do not want what they thought was a private discussion to be kept on record in someone else's computer. Too many ghosts in the closet on that one.

6. Posted by wotthefiqh (Inactive 1447 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

Travellerspoint for travel info (naturlich)
danielpipes for reasonable (sometimes?) discussion.
youtube for anger mismanagement

7. Posted by kombizz (Full Member 1416 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

I never use chatroom. I think it is a waste of time.
I prefer to talk to friends on phone.
I remember my mommy always told me NEVER talk to a stranger.

8. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

I remember my mommy always told me NEVER talk to a stranger.

I know what you mean, though in practice, that's unworkable - Everybody is a stranger the first time you meet them*, and you can not avoid talking to everybody in the whole world (if if you are just telling a taxi driver where to take you, that is talking to strangers). Common sense need to be involved.

  • I was not always the cleverest of kids - still not, i know - and took what my parents said far too seriously when i was very young. Apparently due to something that had happened not a million miles away from where we lived, a couple of days before i first went to school my mum had impressed on my very hard not to talk to strangers. I took that to heart and did not speak when i then went to school (this woman calling herself "teacher" was a stranger to me, so were all the kids, as we'd recently moved), and my mum still laughs at the memory. Apparently i did not speak a single word (except occasional "please" and "thank you's) for the first 3weeks I was in school, and the teacher/classroom asst/headteacher thought i was retarded and could not speak (well, the retard thing is kind of true i suppose) and were almost tearing their hair out trying to get me to communicate...
9. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

People should respect others on the internet by always washing their hands before posting.
If u cant even do this for others then u should not expect them to respect u.

10. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 12y Star this if you like it!

Dont post naked.
People cant see you but that is really not an excuse.

[ Edit: Edited on May 4, 2008, at 9:55 AM by Mel. ]