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Parents don't want me to travel - advice needed!

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11. Posted by Buttfish (Respected Member 298 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

my parents do that a bit, too...i'm not 26 (just 22), and they're not pushing me for marriage and such, but want me to do well in career etc. they want me to go travel and are very supportive - but then comes the part when i'm going alone, and i get all the horrible stories of what could happen (like rape, death, robbery, ending up in a ditch..), because they're my parents and they love me. and then there's that fine, neatly grained and twined layer of 100% pure guilt trip of leaving home (i love that layer). i'm sensitive to things like that, so it's basically taking me all mind power to keep up with my plans and not stay home and not go anywhere. the bottom line is they worry for you, really. but keep up with it (like those folks above mention), because it's a natural thing to do. if they don't see the difference now, maybe they will later. one day they'll be glad you did. i know i have to basically prove to my dad that i can do things before he's 100% sure i can do them (as much as he would say it's not like that). lots of luck!

12. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4138 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

Invite them along with you.

Seriously, I think you're just going to have to put up with it. It's probably a small price to pay to live with them inexpensively.

13. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

Quoting lanchutt

Thanks guys thanks for your replies! I think what makes it worse is that I just got back from Australia having being there for 2 years on a WHV but never had enough cash to go anywhere (I had lots of debt before I left for Aus). So I was, in their eyes, on holiday, for 2 years although in reality I had 5 weeks off in those 2 years. I learned alot about my self in that time but they don't seem to think that counts for anything. I happen to think that was the most important aspect of my time there but that's where we differ. As a consequence I still don't feel like I have been anywhere. I want to apply to work for STA Travel when I get back and have explained to them that I need to go away again to be able to do it so they feel a bit happier about it.

They say they support my travelling but keep hammering me about mortages etc, I basically can't do anything right! Then I get told I am treating home like a hotel which is rubbish. I pay rent, tidy up after myself and am working non-stop to afford this (7 days a week!) I can see them trying to make me feel guilty when I do go away - my sister has 2 children and is 2 years younger than me and I think they want me to be more like that. I'm just not ready for that!

The difficult thing is not the decision to travel but the fact that you're having to live in their house to save for it right?

There's no point them hammering you about mortgages right now beacuse its probably not a good time for first time buyers anyway. Explain that you want to wait until you have travelled and got your career established (and maybe to see what happens with housing market) before worrying about mortgages. If you are paying rent its not as though you are sponging off them. Alternatively, do you think you could afford to live in a shared house and still save money?

[ Edit: Edited on Apr 1, 2008, at 3:31 AM by Clarabell ]

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