Travelling with partner/spouse?

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1. Posted by ginger_mat (Budding Member 12 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

Hi all,

Looking for a bit of advice/information really from anyone who's been on a RTW trip with their spouse/partner, or any thoughts from people who've encountered couples on their travels ...

Is it a good/bad idea to go travelling with your partner? Most people i've known who've gone travelling have either gone as a group of 4-5 people, or gone solo. Just wondering what other peoples reactions are to couples when backpacking, etc.

Myself and my fiance are looking at going off on a RTW trip early 2010, and any thoughts or advice about the stresses and enjoyment of travelling with your partner would be much appreciated.


2. Posted by Erik85 (Respected Member 274 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

Although it's often singles or small groups, I've met plenty of couples that were travelling together. Most of the ones I met were great people!

I think what's important from an outside view is you and your partners sense of independence and individuality - I found that couples who tend to cling to eachother were much harder to associate with.

I'm not speaking from direct experience, but I think you have to be able to be comfortable with them always around you, but also satisfy your own desires (otherwise you'll soon drive yourself insane compromising 24/7). So effectively you have to be cool with being together, and cool/confident with doing your own thing. I'm not necessarily saying you'll split off to different places, but say if you're talking to different people you meet, or perhaps you want to lay low and rest while your partner might go off and take a wonder, etc. - the ability to do this would make things less stressful, since you and them can have some 'me' time.

If you share a common interest on what you'd like to see and how you'd like to travel then that should also be a great help. There'd be nothing worse than a partner expecting a 5-star hotel when walking into a budget hostel
Clarify this with your partner before you set off!

I've found with couples I've known that it's a real test - sometimes travelling for long periods of time can make or break a relationship. It's probably on a similar level to moving in with them for that time - so take everything seriously, but make the most of it!

[ Edit: Edited on Nov 25, 2008, at 5:26 AM by Erik85 ]

3. Posted by ginger_mat (Budding Member 12 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

Thanks Erik, good information to know.

I think you've hit the nail-on-the-head there with the comment about it being important from an outside view as to how open the couple are in terms of socialising and interacting with other people. That was what i was worried about really, we are both friendly and easy to get on with, just wanted confirmation that people don't automatically assume that as you're a couple you're not interested in speaking to anyone else! It's good to hear that people will basically be as friendly and open with you as you are with them.

In terms of being comfortable around each other (both long periods of time together, and taking time apart) i'm confident that won't be a problem ... we've lived together for several years now, and by the time we go travelling we'll be married as well - so she's already well aware of all my annoying foibles!

4. Posted by Rraven (Travel Guru 5924 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

hey there, i travelled with my boyfriend for eight months last year and it was fine, we met loads of people, the easiest way was just to smile and if they don't think you're insane then your fine !!! a pack of cards was always a good conversation starter, even if its just someone telling you that you're playing poker wrong

I haven't travelled solo before but Arjan had, he said that he found it easier to talk to people (other travellers and locals) this time as they seemed to relax a little quicker then they would have had he been single, in hostels as well we ended up making some good friends as they presumed that neither of us was going to try and chat them up, we are both comfortable in ourselves if we did decide to do seperate day trips or nights out it all worked out really well......

For me even though I really enjoyed getting to know new people and hear everyones adventures it was nice to travel with someone who knew me so well, after endless introduction, getting to know people just as you part ways it was nice that you didn't have to explain yourself all the time or that someone knew why you would find different things funny.........

I don't think its a bad idea to go travelling with your partner at all but I have met couples who had a hard time, this normally occured if one of them was insecure or didn't trust the other. The main thing is to be honest with each other and say what you expect out of the trip, is it on a major budget, very loosely planned, are you ready for endless bus journeys where you could be stuck in the middle of nowhere and not know when the next bus will show up..........once you don't take it all too seriously or blame each other for things out of your control you'll be fine !!

The majority of couples we met were having a great time and were a really good laugh (some very insane ones too, but that makes it funny !!)

Hope you have a great time on your trip..........

5. Posted by ginger_mat (Budding Member 12 posts) 13y Star this if you like it!

Cheers Rraven, great to hear more positive experiences and some pretty sound advice too ... certainly making me more determined to make the trip happen :)

I guess we'd better get saving up now and buy some flight tickets!