Help please - Depression

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1. Posted by Steve M (Budding Member 16 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Hi all,

Just wondering if anyone could help me. I've recently returned home from a year of travelling and working in various places and feel permanently depressed and down. At first I thought it was just the old holiday blues but it's gone on too long now. I have come home to no job and very little money and feel very anxious everytime I have to think about getting back to the routine of normal society. Has anyone ever suffered from the same sort of feelings and, if so, what sort of things did you do to help yourslef get back on your feet?


2. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4138 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

You need to be sure that you are suffering from true depression rather than just having the dirts about being home. If it's the former, you might want to see a doctor. If it's the latter, welcome to the club. There's plenty of members and room for one more.

3. Posted by makka (Respected Member 248 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Buckle up boy!

You had a top year away, embrace that, think of the amazing times & also think about those who I'm sure you witnessed who would jump at the chance of getting a job and earning good $$$!

It's never easy after such amazing experiences but you really have to get back on the bull ... the longer you take the worse it'll become!

Firm but fair is my approach.

4. Posted by Reece Sanford (Travel Guru 1369 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

In 2005 i quit my job and sold my house and took 3 years off, travelling around the world. After awhile i actually got sick of travelling (strange i know) but its true.

I just wanted to get back to some kind of normality. My next decision was where did i want to live because the area i grew up in and lived all my life wasnt where i wanted to be. So i decided i wanted to be near the hills in England instead of the boring flat dull area that had been home.
I eventually found a job in the Manchester area and have now been here 3 years and its like another adventure.

However there isnt a day that goes by without thinking about my travels, especially when people are so interested in hearing the stories. You just have to remember the good times you had and realise how lucky you have had the chance to travel.
I work with so many people that havent had the chance and probably never will because they havent the nerve to do it.

Although i will say when ive had a crap day at work and the weathers dull i just wish i could pack up and go away.

5. Posted by Steve M (Budding Member 16 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Hi guys,

Thank yor for your posts, they have really helped me put things into perspective.

James-It was definitely the latter and I'm happy to join the club.

Makka- thanks for the kick up the arse and I am back on the bull.

Reece - your post resonated with me. I too found travel had lost the appeal (too much of a good thing and all that) hence my decision to come home. I too have returned home and decided the area I have lived all my life is not where i want to live the next part of my life (I'm going to stick it out here for a year or so whilst I re-train with the eventual goal of moving away) but I will embrace it whilst I m still here.

Thanks again guys, and all the best for Christmas and New Year!


6. Posted by Reece Sanford (Travel Guru 1369 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Good luck with the move Steve.

Best thing i ever did. It was like a new adventure. I found a job and then looked at various websites where people rented out rooms in their house, that way if it didnt work out it wouldnt be a problem. The job only lasted 4 hours as it wasnt what i was expecting so i went back to the job centre and found another job within a week. I then spent 2 and a half years there and made what i now call my best mate.
We both then left the company on the same day (he had another job) and the company would of gone downhill without him so i left. I took a month off and he called me to say there was a job going where he now worked. And ive now been there 6 months.

Met my fiancee 2 years ago and we now live together.
I have the hills on my doorstep and a city i love 5 miles away.

Good luck

7. Posted by flyingbob (Inactive 842 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Mmmm. I aint no doctor, nor psycho specialist - but it sounds like you're suffering from the same thing that I get, when returning to the bump and grind of everyday routine after a great break. The way I get round it.... Book another flight asap - then there's something to look forward to. If I've not been there before, I start reading about straight away and before too long, it's time to start thinking about budgets, accommodation etc. The time soon passes - and every day it's a day closer to the trip. Kicks the blues well into touch.

8. Posted by mim (Respected Member 1276 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

Never forget a change is as good as a rest!

I had serious blues until I started on my course, moved house and generally blew the cobwebs away.

Good luck with it anyway mate, and as the others say, there's plenty of us here that have good experience of how you're feeling! ;)


9. Posted by Swept Away (Travel Guru 1116 posts) 11y Star this if you like it!

I came back home after more than 3 years of living, a semi nomadic existence.

It was so hard... one day you are so happy, with all the parties my throw me... then the next, you miss meeting new people, going to bars alone, making foreign money...

Then, the time comes, you have to travel again, my friends telling me not to leave, then I get anxious, and since I don't live in VISA free world, I can't just buy tickets to destinations, that I would rather go to....

I know my other friends, have your experience.

10. Posted by douglas12 (Budding Member 2 posts) 10y Star this if you like it!

Yeah, that's quiet normal and common in most of the individuals. I have been through this a long time ago. The best option for you to get out his depression is to find a good job that can keep you busy and help you get rid of these problem. This is really going to work for you.